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Thread: "I wouldn't say you're a nice guy" - meaning?

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    Default "I wouldn't say you're a nice guy" - meaning?

    Now I know this is anything BUT bad. Personally I think it's kind of a compliment, or at least I consider it one. Anyway, here's the scene :

    I'm dancing with this girl (old friend, recently met her again. Always had the hots for her but since I didn't see her for 2 years, I'm out of the friend zone). Arms around her waist, some face to face time, some grinding....blah blah blah you know what I'm talking about. So I like to say this thing to some girls mostly to see what they say

    Me : "But I'm a nice guy" (still dancing, face to face, playing with her hair)
    Her : "I wouldn't say you're a nice guy......"

    So, experts.....what do you think a girl *really* means when she says this.

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    Default Re: "I wouldn't say you're a nice guy" - meaning?

    when a woman says a male is a " nice guy", what she means is that he will never be allowed to touch her vagina.

    she just told you, that you are still in the running.

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    Default Re: "I wouldn't say you're a nice guy" - meaning?

    Please tell me you kissed her? I mean that's what she wanted.

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    Default Re: "I wouldn't say you're a nice guy" - meaning?

    I did not.

    Remember the part where I said I met her after 2 years, well it was at her place with a lot of our mutual friends (all of whom I hadn't seen in 2 years)

    Kissing her would have probably been too much considering all of the friends (mostly guys....*nice* guys) that were there. But on the plus side, she danced with me like she hasn't danced with any of our other friends.

    I take that as some kind of consolation. she would grind against me and do the whole *arm in air, shimmy down and then come back up, grinding her ass*. Lol And we were the only two dancing, right in front of everyone.

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    Default Re: "I wouldn't say you're a nice guy" - meaning?

    Trust me, i think she wanted to be kissed. She was being different with you huge ioj.
    So whatt's happened since?

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    Default Re: "I wouldn't say you're a nice guy" - meaning?

    Ah I was hoping you wouldn't go there.

    I left the party early (12:30) and told her I have to go to this girl's place. Basically using DeAngelo's tenet of "give her the gift of missing you". Though I'm not sure if she missed me. lol. Anyway I texted her to meet me the next day and we met up. A little bit of texting back and forth before she arrived and I think I won that round.

    So this is the part where things didn't go well. The whole meeting had a very *friendly* vibe to it. I told her to come with me and help me buy some sunglasses, so went around did that. Later she just wanted to sit and chat, so we did. I did some DHV stories and also did the cube. But shortly after she said she has to go, so we hugged and I left.

    going in I thought it was gonna be a date, but in her frame of mind, she was just meeting with a friend. She would take out her phone every now and then and reply to texts. I didn't really do any Kino (which is completely my fault). That night (around 1:30) I sent her this text -

    "Thanks for comin earlier today. I had a nice time "

    No reply from her.

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    Default Re: "I wouldn't say you're a nice guy" - meaning?

    When you became the "Shopping Buddy" that was the start of your slide to the friend zone.

    And your last text was the same as any of her other friends would say... so it was forgettable.

    She was having fun when you were dancing...
    Then you took the "safe" route & didn't kiss her... and then let it cool off completely with the sunglasses trip.

    You need to get back to being "the FUN guy" again.
    That's what she was diggin!




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    Default Re: "I wouldn't say you're a nice guy" - meaning?

    Should not of texted her that. That's eliciting a response, which you shouldn't care about, coming off kinda clingy. Oh well, no big deal.
    You should of just kino escalated with her while buying sunglasses. Regardless of her body language and trying to read her IOI's.
    It probably had a friendly vibe to it because that's the way you made it. She should never be in control of the frame like that.
    Just her meeting up with you was her showing shes interested.
    THAN
    she gave you another chance by sitting and trying to chat with you. telling DHV stories is good, but don't run the CUBE. It's lame.

    I disagree Tmal, inviting her to shop for sun-glasses is still a meet-up. It wasn't friendly, until he made it friendly. It could still of been considered a "date" in a way, and he could of still probably made out with her and shit.
    Sometimes I invite girls I have rapport with to help me with something as friendly as helping me pick out a sweater, and then escalate in the store.

    You would of been better off going balls to the wall and putting the sunglasses on her face, than telling her "Nah, you look cuter with them off."
    Then if she giggled, Boom, Kiss her like your life depended on it.
    If you get rejected, big deal.
    If she kisses you, awesome, that's what you wanted.

    Never be scared to go in for the kiss, or to kino-escalate with her. Even if she's a friend who cares.

    If she was really your friend, she'd accept the fact that you had some balls to go for it, she just doesn't feel the same, and WOULD still be your friend.

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    Default Re: "I wouldn't say you're a nice guy" - meaning?

    well yeah I knew I F'd up good.

    On the plus side...that whole 'Not Date' and text was last saturday. I haven't sent a peep her way since. Definitely salvaged a little bit there.

    I don't know where this will go, if anywhere at all.

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    Default Re: "I wouldn't say you're a nice guy" - meaning?

    That last text was kind of shitty.
    Here is my take, she is totally interested but she wants a confident man who will pull the trigger... Are you that guy? Good now go do it. Like Kyl3 said don't be afraid to k-close. You have attraction, you have DHV, and compliance (went to the place of your choosing at the time you said, etc. )

    No matter what kind of vibe she throws off, you need to understand that these are facts and she is showing you a lot of interest. If she is just friendly around you when you hang out it's because her defenses are up. It is your job to recognize the signals and go for the kill.


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