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    Default I suck at Social Gaming

    Warning:Wall of text - can't be helped.

    At times you don't even know when it hits you. It happens so fast. Perhaps I am over analyzing this but the signs are all there. I have no trouble meeting and talking with an absolute stranger. However at work, I avoid women like the plague.

    Over the years, I come across as being aloof and distant in a social setup. And while I originally thought that cold approach would holistically remedy my lackadaisical social skills, that hasn't quite happened.

    Now, I would like to get into a proper relationship(for the last time - ignoring the 3 that failed). It is about time - I am nearly 28 now.

    So, there are some potential targets in office. My target interest has also been trying to make eye contact...but there is this latent fear since this is a new job and I do not want risk losing it. So yea in two instances, the girl helloed me(just being friendly), I wasn't sure she was talking to me(her gesture and excitement struck me as odd) so I ignored her. In another, this girl(target interest) was smiling at me across the aisle(in field- I would call it an approach invitation) but my feet seized me and I quickly moved on.

    Now, my question is, what is the best way to come across as friendly, not creepy and break the ice without displaying interest?

    What can I do to start being more social in general? (I have only done day game pick up - some moderate success and not in a thriving environment like a nightclub)
    P.s: I have to sit in a corner, there is no one talk to, so that adds to the aloof 'mental state'. Any way to remedy the situation?

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    Default Re: I suck at Social Gaming

    The mysterious/angina is a good start because people love to get to know someone they know nothing of so keep that up.. Also in stating that you still need to talk to people at your work though so people will see you as a social person instead of that guy that sit in the corner like a serial killer scoping out his next victim. First you need to create a socials circle that includes atleast two girls for social proof. That's what you need to start with
    You lose some you win some, learn from your mistakes and get better!

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    Default Re: I suck at Social Gaming

    To start being more social in general?

    Instead of thinking you need to be more social, just start genuinely caring about people. That will naturally draw you to talk to people. Then once you start seeing it working a bit and you realize how easy it is to influence the moods of people you will want to do it all the time.

    People will love you as a byproduct of your charm. If you are lucky they might even call you charismatic.

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    Default Re: I suck at Social Gaming

    I would concede that part of the reason I that I am not social is that I don't actually like people. This is true. They have a tendency to slap labels on you or anyone that they deem as not fitting the norm.

    I"ll see if there is any way to resolve this since the underlying problem is complex.Thanks guys.


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