Warning:Wall of text - can't be helped.
At times you don't even know when it hits you. It happens so fast. Perhaps I am over analyzing this but the signs are all there. I have no trouble meeting and talking with an absolute stranger. However at work, I avoid women like the plague.
Over the years, I come across as being aloof and distant in a social setup. And while I originally thought that cold approach would holistically remedy my lackadaisical social skills, that hasn't quite happened.
Now, I would like to get into a proper relationship(for the last time - ignoring the 3 that failed). It is about time - I am nearly 28 now.
So, there are some potential targets in office. My target interest has also been trying to make eye contact...but there is this latent fear since this is a new job and I do not want risk losing it. So yea in two instances, the girl helloed me(just being friendly), I wasn't sure she was talking to me(her gesture and excitement struck me as odd) so I ignored her. In another, this girl(target interest) was smiling at me across the aisle(in field- I would call it an approach invitation) but my feet seized me and I quickly moved on.
Now, my question is, what is the best way to come across as friendly, not creepy and break the ice without displaying interest?
What can I do to start being more social in general? (I have only done day game pick up - some moderate success and not in a thriving environment like a nightclub)
P.s: I have to sit in a corner, there is no one talk to, so that adds to the aloof 'mental state'. Any way to remedy the situation?