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    shurk is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default What to text to get her out for second date?

    Hey guys–

    So I posted yesterday about this HB9 I met up with where I was unsure how to proceed –*the date went very well but she shut down escalation at the end, but then initiated contact with me later that night. (we maintained flirty banter and light kino until she left)

    It's been two days since we met up, and she hasn't initiated contact. So now –*I'm at the point where it's time to figure out what to say to get her back out again. I really just need an excuse to open her somehow…the problem is, in that exchange at the end of the night my best material was used up!

    Things we joked about that night: crashing a wedding nearby, the band 3 Doors Down was playing in town and we laughed about going to see it, and cake jokes (she had to go to a birthday party). All three of those things were brought up in our(brief, with her initiating/showing interest) post-date text exchange….all three would have been excellent openers. But I feel as though if I were to re-use something that many times I'll appear a bit dull.

    I could make fun of her for her non-namebrand Doc Martens. I could poke fun for her having a modeling shot of herself on her phone. I could mention something about my dog ( we took him for a short walk). I'll have no problem out to, I just need a good way to do it!

    I was thinking something along the lines of "Hey [Christy], what are the chances of getting those fake Docs out for a stroll over here tonight? Drinks [place/time]" or even "Hope my favorite dog-walking companion is doing well. Drinks [place/time] tonight?" …..BUT, I'm trying to avoid ASKING. At this point I'm really just trying to break the ice again!

    I'm probably really overthinking all of this, but this is the first girl that's presented a challenge to me in a long, long time. So I need a good in, something that's not too wordy or needy. She's hot as fark and she knows it, and I want a way to get back in.

    Advise please!

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    shurk is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Re: What to text to get her out for second date?

    Apparently what I'm looking for is really just a 'ping' text. I think I'm going to just go with something like:

    "coworker has oxblood boots as well. bet yours are more authentic though"

    just to grab her attention and work from there.

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    tiger is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Re: What to text to get her out for second date?

    I think one of the hardest things for me is waiting and giving some space before I re-initiate contact again. I am currently in the same situation, but after a second date and a week of constant flirting by text. It all sort of dropped off a day or so ago. God I want to text her and figure out wtf is going on, but I know not to!

    I plan to wait a day or two and reinitiate contact and ask her about something she has been working for all week with the intent on leading into doing something this weekend.

    I am more of a fan of a direct statement that still asks the question. In your examples you ask her a question in away that almost begs for an answer. I would form the statement more like "how about you walk those fake Docs over this way for a drink at [time/date]". It's more direct, shows you are more alpha than asking "what are the chances?" and tells her you are confident enough to take a stand and make a decision without worrying about the outcome. She still will answer the question, but the request comes across as more confident.


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