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Thread: I'm at the edge with this girl...

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    Default I'm at the edge with this girl...

    Hi guys, I hope someone can answer me fast..sorry for bad English

    I'm going to be quick and explain fast..

    So here it goes:
    I'm in a realionship with this girl for 3.5months
    After first month she told me that I'm not opened to her,i'm not expressing my feelings very well. Ok, I told her that I thought it was early and I was going slowly. I started to open my self more and more.

    After second month she told me that this is not it,she just don't feel it...and said that we would not have this conversation if we had sex. I didn't understand because I allude for sex every farking time and she didn't let me..
    Little time have pass away and we have sex 3-4 times a week and it was great..

    But recently she told me that I don't give her attention,I'm not there for her,she just don't have that feeling...but I'm giving her more than she gives me, it's 65% to 35%...I'm trying really hard,we talk a lot on the phone,I buy some stuff for her here and there,calling her to go out with me,calling to go skating with me but she won't...

    My biggest question is what does she means when she tells me that I don't give her enough attention,she have that feeling that I'm not there for her...so how can I create that feeling,how can I bee more there for her?

    btw after 3.5months she didn't invite me at her place,she did only once when nobody was at home,she told me that she need more time for that to let someone at her place and I'm cool with that..

    how can I put this in her head that I'm really always there for her,I would literally die for her, do anything...she said she need a man,not friend or something else.

    SHE SAID U ONLY TALK THAT U LOVE ME AND STUFF LIKE THAT,BUT I WANT ACTIONS??? I thought I'm giving her actions and showing her how much I care for her :/

    I can't understand,that's why I need your help guys..

    THANKS!

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    Default Re: I'm at the edge with this girl...

    IMO this is actually quite a complex issue.

    Ur giving this girl way too much power.

    I'm all for respecting women - let's be clear. I don't condone the mistreatment of women for 1 second.

    However, this is what I would tell her, "you don't like it. there's the door" You're the prize. that's the mindset due, not the other way around.

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    Default Re: I'm at the edge with this girl...

    I agree 100% with the above poster. You don't have to TELL the girl you care about her. Show her through chivalry. Trust me, chivalry is NOT dead and women absolutely love it. Open the door for her. Open the car door for her. Pull her chair out if it's convenient for you. Walk on the road side of the sidewalk. If she in an uncomfortable situation move her somewhere else or make her comfortable. That's it.

    You are bending to her wills. Don't go down that road. You are going down the road of no return. When a girl tells you to open up and you show her your insecurities and tell her you "care" for her that will ruin all attraction. If you buy her something make it small and significant. That means allot more than you think.

    Like the above poster said, I would tell her "this is the way I am, if you don't like it, there's the door."

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    Default Re: I'm at the edge with this girl...

    You are giving her too much power. Too much pushing, not enough pulling.

    You shouldn't tell girls how much you care about them, you should show it. Actions speak louder than words.

    "Telling a girl that you think she's beautiful, compared to showing her why you think she's beautiful is a big difference."

    DirectisBest is pretty much spot on.

    You need to change your perspective with this girl. From the sounds of it, it sounds like you don't feel like you're good enough for her, trust me, I've been there. YOU ARE. Girls are disposable, but you? You're the shit. Nobody wants to lose you from there life. Remember that, engrain it, make it you.

    Anyways.
    My main points summed up:
    Don't eve tell girls you care about them, show them that you do, act like you do, make them feel loved, they'll know you do regardless if you tell them directly.
    Don't be a pushover.
    Have some respect for yourself.
    She's not going anywhere no matter what she says, and if she wants to leave, than more power to her, because you're awesome and she's going to be missing out on the best thing in her life.

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    Default Re: I'm at the edge with this girl...

    Thank u guys a lot.

    Yea you are all right,especially when u said that I'm the prize not the other way around. I will act like that. I will show her through actions that I care 2 much,and after some time if she whine about it again I will say "you don't like it. there's the door"

    I totally forgot to act like a prize,u opened my eyes(I think many guys forget it or stop act like that)..thanks guys


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