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Thread: Please Help I'm Stuck in AFC mode

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    Default Please Help I'm Stuck in AFC mode

    Brothers I am super frustrated with myself at the moment. Bottom line I am very frustrated and tired of being at home on fridays and saturdays and simply watching porn as a poor attempt to fill the void left by not pursuing women. I don't know what has happened to me. I am a 22 year old 6'2, 245 pound college football player go to the gym 6 days a week, handsome yet I cannot seem to pull the courage to open and speak to women. I'm so tired of it and I don't know what to do anymore. I feel like I have the confidence of that little fat kid that I once was that no girl liked. Long story short been like this for a while and I welcome any advice.

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    Default Re: Please Help I'm Stuck in AFC mode

    So you say you are a college football player, so what do you do to get better? You practice. You actually go out on the practice field and run the plays over and over again till you feel comfortable, then by game time, you are ready to play and win. Same thing with overcoming AFC. You can read over a thousand books on how to deal with it, but the only way to truly get over it is to be on the field and practicing. Sure, you might mess up the first few times, but sooner or later it will improve and then it will happen naturally that you can approach women.

    Just keep practicing. There are over a million women in this world to practice with.

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    Default Re: Please Help I'm Stuck in AFC mode

    Reading these two books , "How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie" and "How To Talk To Anyone by Leil Lowndes" are good books to read so you can do better in a social setting. They will also help you get over your shyness with women.

    Don't expect an instant cure of your shyness if you read both books in 3 days and try to apply everything in the books all at once.

    My recommendation for you is to read 1 single chapter and then go out and apply that skill in the field for 3 days. Then move to chapter 2 and then go out to apply what you have learned in both chapters for the next 3 days. Keep progressing like that and you'll conquer your shyness with females and gain a TON of confidence overall.

    You will build a solid foundation and keep adding to that very solid foundation every 3 days. It's how we learn best. In the first grade you learned how to add 1+1 and how it equaled 2. The teacher didn't ask you to read the entire textbook and then ask you to apply what you had learned to find out what 1+1 will equal? The teacher taught us the basics and then kept building from the basic foundation on up.

    We need to do that when it comes to self help skills as well. The tendency we ALL have is to read through the material as quickly as possible hoping it will transform us magically and try to apply the new wealth of information all at once. Usually that will overwhelm most people and they just give up thinking that the stuff they read doesn't work.

    Here is a great thread on body language that will help you be better with females. The thread is courtesy of The Red Baron.

    RB - Body language basics

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    Default Re: Please Help I'm Stuck in AFC mode

    Dave's advice is really good.

    You need to accept failure. At first..

    Rejection or that awkward moment where you freeze up.. That scares the shit out of you right? You'll need to accept experiencing that at least a few times, so that you can learn the hard way that it's not as bad as you're thinking it will be. The more times you bomb out like that, the closer you will get to making it work, and figuring out what works for you in that situation.

    Once you've accepted being embarassed, go out and start talking to people. Men and women. It's gonna be really hard at first but it's what you have to do. Overcoming the fear of social interaction is as simple as looking at what scares you about it right in the eye, and embracing it.


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