Re: She is confusing me... where do I stand?
I can't stop laughing because I know a guy who fits that description perfectly hahahahaha
Originally Posted by Kyl3
Anyway, Pepito, I'm in a similar situation, but we already hooked up, so best I can do is tell you how I approached the situation (with help from this forum, of course) and how I'm moving forward with it.
Be Sexual. Not grotesque, but talk about sex often. Women love talking about it because it gets things flowing. Always.
Be Touchy. Get her accustomed to your touch. If you're nervous about touching her, the playful poke or tickle around the ribs works. High five her, hug her, pinch her cheeks, etc. Once you get comfortable with that, touch her thighs, knees, etc. Rest your hand there once in a while. you get the point here.
Do Not Be Her Slave. Say What You Want To Say. If she asks for a favor, do it. But not the one you just mentioned. Who the hell does she think you are? Her personal errand boy? If she tells you to jump, are you gonna ask her how high? NO. If she calls you to complain about something, tell her she has her girlfriends for that. If she asks you to help her move, say you're busy. Don't be a d1ck about any of this, though. Make it look like you want to help, but don't actually do it.
She's a big girl, she can figure out her own problems. You're not looking to raise a child. Sure everyone needs help once in a while, but don't let her take advantage of your willingness nor availability. Make her understand that you're a LUXURY in her life and she's lucky to have you around.
TLDR - Touch her. Be sexual. Don't be too available. Make her miss you. Put yourself first.
There's a lot more I can say on the subject, but if you read through the "getting out of the friendzone" posts, you'll have a much better understanding what to do and not to do.
Always leave her better than you found her.