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    Default Question about setting up hangout with HB9 from POF

    Hey guys,

    Quick question regarding text game. I number closed a HB9 from POF and I've been texting her for a couple days. Looking to set up a date and here is what happened:

    Conversation about decorating cakes for her job and I teased her about it.

    Me: Let's grab a coffee this week on campus. You can teach me about your cake techniques :P

    Her: Haha for sure

    Me: Free thursday evening? ( I should have given a place and time right there)

    Her: I'm working

    How do you respond her through text. If I say another time and she's busy, trying a third time comes across like I have lots of free time and I'm needy.

    Advice?

    Cheers b'ys!

    - Surferdude

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    Default Re: Question about setting up hangout with HB9 from POF

    I would've responded by saying.

    "Well, when are you not busy?"

    Basically probe her by being more broad in the future.

    "Hey, what's your schedule look like this week?"

    You can also go as far as blocking out certain days to make it appear you have a busy schedule. You always want to look like you are fitting her into your schedule.

    Worst case scenario is she tells you she doesn't know. It's kind of a gauge of her true interest level.

    I would try again. In a week or so, and if the answer is still the same, I forget about it.

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    Default Re: Question about setting up hangout with HB9 from POF

    Thanks for the feedback Immortal.

    I texted her back before you responded. Instead of "when are you not busy", I said "When are you free?". I prefer your wording better because it sends the message of "Okay thanks for telling me you're busy and not letting me know when you aren't".

    I definitely haven't built up that much attraction. I find it more difficult through online game compared to number closing in person. If she doesn't answer me, I'm just going to delete her number and focus on other girls.

    Thanks again,

    - Surferdude

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    Default Re: Question about setting up hangout with HB9 from POF

    I usually ask them when they are free and sometimes ill qualify upfront I am also busy, tuesday, wednesday, for example, to appear less needy. If they hesitate or do not offer a time at all I either ignore it and go back to building attraction or move straight onto another girl. Often the first girl will bounce back and ask why we are not meeting up (because you are no longer showing her any interest) and I will flat out neg her for not committing a time. Generally I have no patience for girls who don't readily commit in some way to being asked out.

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    Default Re: Question about setting up hangout with HB9 from POF

    I don't have patience for it either WhiteDragon. If the guy steps up to set up a time, the girl should cooperate to a degree on her end. Thanks for the feedback.

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    Default Re: Question about setting up hangout with HB9 from POF

    Yea if I ever used any sort of online dating I would be less forgiving.

    If a girl keeps coming up with excuses like she is busy, then why the fvck have an online dating profile?

    This is when I adopt the mentality, it's either a "Fvck yes or no."

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    Default Re: Question about setting up hangout with HB9 from POF

    That's a pretty good mentality to go from. I've heard of some girls out there (There's a term for them) that like to flirt and then reject guys when they step up to hangout because it boosts their egos. Ain't got no time for that.

    Haha.

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    Default Re: Question about setting up hangout with HB9 from POF

    Quote Originally Posted by surferdude View Post
    That's a pretty good mentality to go from. I've heard of some girls out there (There's a term for them) that like to flirt and then reject guys when they step up to hangout because it boosts their egos. Ain't got no time for that.

    Haha.
    Absolutely. Generally most girls will except if attraction has been built adequately. The girls who are forever on dating sites looking for prince charming are usually easy to pick out and im not usually interested in those kinds of girls with false egos. The other type is simply when timing is bad and the girl is already dating someone else. Thats just a timing issue and sometimes there's not much you can do. Sometimes they come back.

    One thing Ive been doing frequently is deleting girls rapidly if they don't respond or flake. It works wonders! They hate being deleted...I add them back and openly tell them why I deleted them...many times I then sleep with them later. They wither accept being deleted and i am no longer concerned with them or they work hard to gain my attention back. All or nothing.

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    Default Re: Question about setting up hangout with HB9 from POF

    Haha that deleting conversations ploy sounds entertaining. No need to waste our time. How often do you find girls will message back about you deleting it? I suppose it strongly depends on the situation.

    -Surferdude


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