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    johnny_perez420 is offline PUA in Training
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    Default What's the best way to overcome the biggest flaw in my game?

    Surprisingly, I'm very successful with women. I typically sleep with them 80% of the time on the first date. Usually a different girl every couple weeks. Sounds great huh? Well...I have fucking approach anxiety.

    The thing is all the girls I meet are either from mutual friends during hang outs, from work, or from online dating. Now that I look back, I've never hooked up with a random girl that I see in the supermarket, open, talk to, close then fuck. Girls have approached and opened me but never the other way around.

    I'm just realizing this today when I was at the market. Gorgeous girls every other isle. I think about it but when I'm actually in the moment I don't know how to approach. I'm not afraid of getting rejected, I'm never gonna see them again. But I just can't think of any situational openers on the spot. Of course I always think of them later on my way home but when I'm in the moment and it's real, my mind goes blank.

    Any advice?

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    marvilo is offline PUA Forums Respected Contributor
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    Default Re: What's the best way to overcome the biggest flaw in my game?

    Lmao that's how all of us felt at first. You need to learn to just do it instead of thinking about what you're going to say to her or something along those line. When you think about stuff it makes your brain think of ways to stop you from approaching the girl. Do not let your brain C-block you, just do it; don't think, just do it!!
    You lose some you win some, learn from your mistakes and get better!

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    Default Re: What's the best way to overcome the biggest flaw in my game?

    I had the exact same problem as you. I don't have approach anxiety but in the past my mind goes blank when it comes to figuring out a clever opener in the moment.

    Then until one day, I was advised...DO NOT THINK OF AN OPENER and to hell with routines and all that.

    "Hey, I saw you standing here and you caught my eye. I just wanted to come up and meet you."

    True confidence is all about letting yourself be vulnerable and honest with your intentions. When you see a girl you are interested in, what is your intentions? The first thing that pops in your mind believe it or not is you want to meet her.

    So all you really doing is speaking your mind and verbalizing your intentions. That's it. It's that simple. It's so obvious but we tend to cloud ourselves. Because it's in it's purest form, it works in all situations and you can say the same thing to a bunch of women in the same venue. Remember, don't try to think because that's when you just complicate things. You shouldn't feel like you have to "perform."

    You will be amazed how many women respect this approach. All my lady friends say they like it.

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    Default Re: What's the best way to overcome the biggest flaw in my game?

    Experiment with just approaching women without any major objective. Just start by saying 'Hi' to women wherever you see them. If you place the whole open, close, 'will I sleep with them?', 'what will I talk about' pressure on your shoulders it can collect a lot of weight. Just randomly talk to women and see how it flows, especially if it's situational. The girl also has some pressure to continue the conversation and most times they do. Then you can number/date close as an afterthought if the conversation is ok.


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