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Thread: Failed number close LOL should I even bother with an Email?

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    Default Re: Failed number close LOL should I even bother with an Email?

    If you're going to see her in person again, then wait for that. Otherwise, do whatever the fuck you want.
    "It's only after we've lost everything that we're free to do anything."

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    Default Re: Failed number close LOL should I even bother with an Email?

    Big time agree with Duke there about setting expectations for networking, but have motives for a hookup.

    I preached over and over about being honest with your intentions and this is a classic example where you weren't. Did it make you look confident? Not in the least.

    Where you went wrong...

    - You REALLY wanted her number, not her email. Why did you even gave her an alternative? This is called playing it safe because you were afraid of rejection. It's weak.
    - You weren't honest with your reasons. If she questioned your reasons for wanting her number. The confident answer, one that shows vulnerability and honesty was "You seem to be a cool person. I want to stay in touch because I want to get to know you more." You don't need any fancy witty pickup lines that muddies your intentions.
    - She either is going to turn you down or not. Whatever the case, you resolved it right then and there. If she turned you down, then this post would be a different topic and we've could've helped you assess and improve your game, not try to salvage a chump situation you got yourself into.

    Your email...Did you sound like that in person? Did you joke/flirt/tease and showed cockiness that shows congruence to "if you play your cards right?" If not, don't even send it. It sounds like a poser.

    Right off the bat, from the sounds of it and based on her response, it didn't sound like you generated enough attraction. There was a lot of business talk, banter, and you could've even talked about things you have in common...THAT IS NOT ATTRACTION or speaking the language of emotion to women. Did you read any of the books I suggested to you in the other posts? If you didn't flirt and feel you generated any attraction, then don't even bother asking for a woman's number and expect to be successful. I've seen this so many times in rl. Guys have a cool nice conversation and tries to N-Close and fail.

    I'd also like to point out that this kinds of situation is tough because this is a professional environment and you are crossing the line of professional ethics. Most guys on the forums will tell you it's a bad idea to try to close on co-workers and colleagues.

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    Default Re: Failed number close LOL should I even bother with an Email?

    Quote Originally Posted by I.M.Mortal View Post
    Your email...Did you sound like that in person? Did you joke/flirt/tease and showed cockiness that shows congruence to "if you play your cards right?" If not, don't even send it. It sounds like a poser.

    Right off the bat, from the sounds of it and based on her response, it didn't sound like you generated enough attraction. There was a lot of business talk, banter, and you could've even talked about things you have in common...THAT IS NOT ATTRACTION or speaking the language of emotion to women. Did you read any of the books I suggested to you in the other posts? If you didn't flirt and feel you generated any attraction, then don't even bother asking for a woman's number and expect to be successful. I've seen this so many times in rl. Guys have a cool nice conversation and tries to N-Close and fail.

    I'd also like to point out that this kinds of situation is tough because this is a professional environment and you are crossing the line of professional ethics. Most guys on the forums will tell you it's a bad idea to try to close on co-workers and colleagues.

    I appreciate the response man. More helpful than "do whatever the fuck you want". I did tease and flirt a little, but again was keeping it somewhat professional. I am a bit of a joker, love to poke fun at people - girls call me cocky all the time as if they don't like it but they're the same girls who end up in my bed the next night.

    Thats pretty much what happened - had a nice convo and went for the number when having no attraction built. I still think I'll send an email just for the hell of it but I'm already taking this one as a loss in my books.

    Can you please post a link to a thread where you suggested books so I can look them over? I haven't seen any that I've posted where you recommended any so that could be helpful to me. Thanks man again really appreciate you breaking it down bit by bit.


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