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    Default Re: Need some expert insight/advice on recent unexpected break up

    Hey guys...little update
    I know i didnt necessarily take ur exact advise n i should of but i was fkd up haha

    Anyway i would like to hear wut u guys think about this...
    So after this we texted for a week or so back n forth with a little hot n cold from her. We planned a phone call to talk then wen the time came i texted, she did not respond, so i didnt call. The nxt day she txd saying "hi" i ignored it. The nxt day she txd again saying she wanted to talk but didnt kno wut to say. I replied with,
    "dnt worry about it"
    Her "alright then"
    Me "just take care alright "
    Her "you too!"
    N that was the end of that. I went nc. Couple days later she liked my fb status about girls luring guys into relationships with blowjobs haha. Still kept nc for almost 3 weeks wen she txd me saying "hey.. How have you been?"

    So now im not sure if i want to keep ignoring her or txt her back. Or necessarily wut would b the best thing to do. Wut do u guys think. Help a brotha out

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    Default Re: Need some expert insight/advice on recent unexpected break up

    Oh n i went ahead n posted on my fb one from t-mal
    "Cant buy love but dinner usually runs 50-60..unless ur lucky like me and she actually cooks #rare" haha n this was after she txd me so she might see n kno i ignored her txt thought id throw that in. Also got another girl i been seeing for a while which helped a bunch. Pimp on

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    Default Re: Need some expert insight/advice on recent unexpected break up

    Jay,

    Sorry I caught this stuff late.

    Okay. Here's how things work. If she contacts you, don't ignore her stuff. A girl's disinterest should be mirrored and not rewarded. But if a girl is initiating contact (which usually means she is thinking of you), you mirror and respond appropriately! The only reason why you are going nc is to give her space on her terms and when she is ready THEN she will hit you up. Right now, she is slowly coming out of it.

    Many guys take this whole freeze out a bit too far. Don't over-do it.

    When she texted you "How u been?" That was a good time to find out how she is doing.

    When she texted you earlier before and said she wanted to talk, then...that was a good time to talk and get into her head.

    What you said was fine too, but it depends on what you want at this point, if you still want her back. If you want her back, then you need to see where she is at this point in her life.

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    Default Re: Need some expert insight/advice on recent unexpected break up

    Thanks bro...well i went ahead n txd her the nxt day n ignored her question n kinda just talked about sum funny things...i'll post the text convo up to b detailed

    Her: Hey.. How have you been?
    Nxt day

    Me:The girl who jus made my jamba juice had big pretty hands..u'd nvr guess who i thought about lol

    Her:My mom? Lol nah, glad I can still cross your mind

    Me:Ooow...it was actually cindy lou who (inside joke)

    Heramn.. I at least thought you would've said the grinch

    Me:Ur the grinch

    Her:Lol don't you even start ☝️

    Me:Look at that fingure

    Her:What about it? Lol

    Me:Its lonng..i think you could b most of the character in that movie

    Her:What movie?! Lol

    Me:Well it was nice talking to u but i got sum stuff to do..i'll ttyl

    Her:Alright ttyl..

    So that was that. I would like to get back together. But at the same time she lives across the ocean. She actually just called as i was writing this but i didnt answer. Still kinda confused what the best way to go about it

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    Default Re: Need some expert insight/advice on recent unexpected break up

    Why ask a question & then bail when she asks for clarity?
    SHE is probably more confused than you are.


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    Default Re: Need some expert insight/advice on recent unexpected break up

    T-mal ur the man..but u confuse me a little bit haha

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    Default Re: Need some expert insight/advice on recent unexpected break up

    The text looks good...Until the end...

    If you are using a tactic where you eject at the height of the conversation, in the hopes of making her want you more, then fine. That tactic however was meant to be effective in person, not over text. Whatever you did prompted her to call you. But you chose not to answer? Bra, what u doing?

    So you gave the girl the space she needed. You manage to look non-needy and attractive again and she is initiating contact. And you are not being responsive. That's not the way to roll to get sh1t done.

    I don't know if you are purposely doing this or you are becoming indifferent due to lost of interest now that you know/think you got her chasing you.

    You need to stop playing "Blindman's poker" and throw your cards down on the table once she shows signs that she is ready to talk. Nuff d1cking around. Take the lead and tell her what you want and hear what she wants. If what you want isn't what she wants, then really nothing more to discuss, right? Carry on with the nc or however non responsive way you are handling it until you get what you want.

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    Default Re: Need some expert insight/advice on recent unexpected break up

    Haha tanks bra...well i did call her back a little while later n we talked she wanted to kno how i was doin n stuff i asked about her. N i had to go cuz i was goin surf n was getting a call so i told her i would call her later. N i was trulying to get her chasing me a little so that is y i did that. But your saying i should straight out ask her what she wants?

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    Default Re: Need some expert insight/advice on recent unexpected break up

    No, tell her what you want.

    Asking a girl what she wants? Ho ho ho ho. Bad idea.

    She was your gf for 1 year so you know the best way to bring up a serious conversation with her.

    But basically you are saying...
    A) This is what I want. (you want to try again to make it work)
    B) Then you want to hear her out and listen to how she feels.
    C) IF she doesn't know or is IFFY and she needs more time. OK, fine, just tell her to take whatever time she needs and contact you when she is serious. And go back to going nc. Basically, you want to subcommunicate to her that you are only interested in speaking to her when she is serious on trying again.

    You catch?

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    Default Re: Need some expert insight/advice on recent unexpected break up

    Got it bro..thanks
    I'll give it a try tom


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