Top 10 Stats
Latest Posts Loading... Loading...
Loading...
Loading...
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
Loading...
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 

Page 3 of 3 FirstFirst 123
Results 21 to 27 of 27
Like Tree7Likes

Thread: Need some expert insight/advice on recent unexpected break up

  1. #21
    Jaysmood is offline Aspiring PUA
    Points: 120, Level: 2
    Level completed: 40%, Points required for next Level: 30
    Overall activity: 99.0%
    Achievements:
    7 days registered100 Experience Points
    Join Date
    Mar 2014
    Posts
    29
    Points
    120
    Level
    2
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts
    Rep Power
    8

    Default Re: Need some expert insight/advice on recent unexpected break up

    I didnt do this yet but was thinking...most of the stuff i see say to not do this. But at the same time it would make things a lot easier n i respect ur advice I.M. Mortal

  2. #22
    Jaysmood is offline Aspiring PUA
    Points: 120, Level: 2
    Level completed: 40%, Points required for next Level: 30
    Overall activity: 99.0%
    Achievements:
    7 days registered100 Experience Points
    Join Date
    Mar 2014
    Posts
    29
    Points
    120
    Level
    2
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts
    Rep Power
    8

    Default Re: Need some expert insight/advice on recent unexpected break up

    I decided to build a little more attraction first so we've been txting. I figured i throw in a sexual sort of compliance test to see where things stand. So i txd her...
    'Hey little swan! I know you had a naughty dream about me..i totally sensed it'
    It was intended for her to wake up to. She replied with...
    'Haha you must have those spidy senses! I was absolutlety having the naughtiest dreams about you '. So it went well. Been texting n keeping it flirty and sexual so far. Now im wondering when and how would b the best time to bring up what u said I.M. Mortal. Or if i should do that or keep building attraction n sexual tension until she does it???

  3. #23
    I.M.Mortal's Avatar
    I.M.Mortal is offline PUA Forums Respected Contributor
    Points: 6,582, Level: 56
    Level completed: 16%, Points required for next Level: 168
    Overall activity: 55.0%
    Achievements:
    7 days registered5000 Experience Points
    Join Date
    Jan 2013
    Location
    Cali
    Posts
    450
    Points
    6,582
    Level
    56
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts
    Rep Power
    293

    Default Re: Need some expert insight/advice on recent unexpected break up

    Jay,

    Building attraction is fine. But keep in mind couple of things...

    Txting is not really a primary means to do it. It's a 3rd tier form of communication. The real way to go is in person or at least phone call. I know you guys are/were LDR, but still.

    In the PUA world, texting is really meant for one thing - Logistics towards meeting in person (D1 or w/e)

    What you are doing right now is called "Holding pattern texts" for those who can't meet anytime soon. If this is all you can do right now because you can't see her anytime soon, then this is all you can do. But know, this is not a long term solution. If you let it drag on for too long, it'll get old.

    Now, one of the biggest mistakes guys do is they invest too much in attraction. They figure 'oh I gotta keep running attraction or else I lose momentum.' That's great if you wanna get a fast lay, but there comes to a point in a longer game where a girl is already sold. This was your gf at some point, so technically, not really that hard to get her sold, if not, she is already sold. At that point, you really don't have to work too hard on generating attraction. Some guys run it into the ground and it bites them in the ass because it makes them look like a player/fake/try-too-hard.

    But after 1 year, you know your ex-gf the best, so follow your instincts.

    As for your question 'when/how to bring it up'...Well, definitely NOT over text. I don't believe in waiting for the girl. I believe in making 'sh1t' happen. There's people who make Sh1t happen, there's people who wait for sh1t to happen, and there's people who wonder what happened.

    Personally, the best way to talk about this is in person. I mean if you are serious, plan a trip to visit her in Fl or w/e she at. But what I would do is test her and see. Assuming you can't see her in person anytime soon, just call her and mention you are planning to come visit her and see her reaction. If she is cool with it, excellent. If she hesitates or seems unsure, hmmm, then not good. Worst case scenario, she could be seeing someone (that's why I wouldn't wait cuz you can be waiting for a long time!). But whatever the case, it will help you gauge and give you a better reference on 'when to bring it up.'

  4. #24
    Jaysmood is offline Aspiring PUA
    Points: 120, Level: 2
    Level completed: 40%, Points required for next Level: 30
    Overall activity: 99.0%
    Achievements:
    7 days registered100 Experience Points
    Join Date
    Mar 2014
    Posts
    29
    Points
    120
    Level
    2
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts
    Rep Power
    8

    Default Re: Need some expert insight/advice on recent unexpected break up

    I feel you I.M. Mortal...thanks again for the advice n happy easter. But i was planning on doin it over face time. Closest face to face...but we had half ass plans before we broke up to go to vegas to see each other. Im still goin as planned so i was hoping that she could come meet me there if all goes well. But wut i would really like to do is get her to move back here again before the nxt semester of college which prolly starts in a few months

  5. #25
    I.M.Mortal's Avatar
    I.M.Mortal is offline PUA Forums Respected Contributor
    Points: 6,582, Level: 56
    Level completed: 16%, Points required for next Level: 168
    Overall activity: 55.0%
    Achievements:
    7 days registered5000 Experience Points
    Join Date
    Jan 2013
    Location
    Cali
    Posts
    450
    Points
    6,582
    Level
    56
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts
    Rep Power
    293

    Default Re: Need some expert insight/advice on recent unexpected break up

    Happy Easter.

    I would just throw it out there to meet. Tell her you are planning to come down to see her and see how she reacts.

    Save the Face time as last resort.

  6. #26
    Jaysmood is offline Aspiring PUA
    Points: 120, Level: 2
    Level completed: 40%, Points required for next Level: 30
    Overall activity: 99.0%
    Achievements:
    7 days registered100 Experience Points
    Join Date
    Mar 2014
    Posts
    29
    Points
    120
    Level
    2
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts
    Rep Power
    8

    Default Re: Need some expert insight/advice on recent unexpected break up

    Hey bra good news...my girl ended up calling me n said she wanted to talk. Turns out shes the one who wanted to talk about getting back together. So i went ahead n told her first cuz she was having a hard time expressing it n told her i wanted to try make this again for real this time ect. So we good now n we even talked about her moving here still n all that. Shes gonna buy a ticket to come see me in vegas n it seems all good right now. Said she just needed to figure things out (prolly fck wit some guy that didnt measure up) n she wants to b together again. So im stoked! Just wanted to close this up n thank you guys..T-Mal n my man I.M. Mortal for the help n support. Yall cool

  7. #27
    I.M.Mortal's Avatar
    I.M.Mortal is offline PUA Forums Respected Contributor
    Points: 6,582, Level: 56
    Level completed: 16%, Points required for next Level: 168
    Overall activity: 55.0%
    Achievements:
    7 days registered5000 Experience Points
    Join Date
    Jan 2013
    Location
    Cali
    Posts
    450
    Points
    6,582
    Level
    56
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts
    Rep Power
    293

    Default Re: Need some expert insight/advice on recent unexpected break up

    That's awesome! Gratz. I am right or am I right? And if she was seeing some dude that didn't measure up, then I called it. That's why, no good wait. She was already sold.

    Best of luck to you the 2nd time around.


Page 3 of 3 FirstFirst 123

Similar Threads

  1. Unexpected break up - ?
    By parapa in forum How To Get Your Ex Back
    Replies: 12
    Last Thread: 06-11-2014, 03:24 PM
  2. Recent Break Up NEED HELP
    By mike.wow89 in forum Help Getting A Girlfriend
    Replies: 1
    Last Thread: 04-22-2013, 09:39 AM
  3. Recent Break Up- Need Advice Please
    By Viking12345 in forum How To Get Your Ex Back
    Replies: 16
    Last Thread: 12-13-2012, 01:22 PM
  4. Expert Seeking Advice from an Expert
    By josephstuart1234 in forum General Questions
    Replies: 3
    Last Thread: 12-30-2011, 10:32 PM
  5. Replies: 6
    Last Thread: 05-17-2010, 02:43 AM

Bookmarks

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
  •  
DMCA.com