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    Default Question about day game - I need to improve

    Hey guys,

    I had this thought today after crossing paths with a HB who was intensely staring at me while she was walking by. We were headed towards opposite directions and everything went really fast (5 secs at most). I was in a hurry, so I didn't do anything but I regret it so much now. The worst thing is that such a thing has happened to me several times over the past year (I am still an apprentice PUA).

    I feel kinda stupid for letting such opportunities pass, especially since I rarely get such IOIs whenever I go to parties or meetups.
    The truth is that daygame is not my style. I am not the type to go out of my way to talk to complete strangers. It kinda feels weird. Even I don't like being approached by unknown persons in the street.

    It's not like I haven't tried. I was waiting for some friends one night and they told me they would be 15 mins late. I saw a HB that was waiting for someone for a while, so I decided to go chat with her. It was a test for me to see how I fare outside my comfort zone. Surprisingly enough, I did quite well (she was definitely not my type, so that could have been a factor that reduced my anxiety). We started chatting, she seemed to feel more and more comfortable (she was even playing with her hair at some point). Our mutual friends eventually arrived and we said bye to each other. I didn't even bother asking for her phone number but I felt glad that I could find the courage to talk to some unknown woman out of the blue in the middle of the street, and that the interaction went pretty well.

    I wonder if I should change my style and push myself even more out of my comfort zone. Just out of curiosity, I should strike a conversation with a girl that starts staring at me.

    I started thinking about this morning's encounter and try to imagine how I could have approached her. Here's a hypothetical scenario:

    1) I approach her and ask her the time
    2) I then talk about something circumstantial (her clothes, something going around) for 1-2 min
    3) tell her I am in a hurry and ask for her number so we can arrange for drinks some other time


    Do you think this is doable or is it too simplistic? Has such an approach worked for any of you guys?

    The biggest weakness in my plan is that I am not that quick-witted when I talk to women. While I am quite good at teasing my friends, I somehow become shyer on dates...

    Also, imagine you number close, how long do you wait until you text her? 1 day?

    That's all I can think for now but any feedback/advice would be welcome.
    Thanks, mates!

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    Default Re: Question about day game - I need to improve

    You need to spark some interest right away.
    A girl will be more likely to give her number if you make an impression.

    I never wait to text a girl when I get her number... I text immediately, just to solidify the interest & fun vibe I created.

    Here are a couple examples of getting attention & standing out so you're not mistaken as being some typical lame guy:

    Daygame / dog crap opener

    Daygame / gas station / pizza place


    A lot of guys are too timid to be fun & flirty... but you shouldn't be. CONFIDENCE is the #1 attractive quality in a man... followed by HUMOR at #2.

    The combination of those two characteristics are damn near bulletproof.



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    Default Re: Question about day game - I need to improve

    Wow, man! Those are some great approaches you did there!

    Unfortunately, I am not as witty as you and I am not a native English speaker either, so it's kinda harder for me to pull those lines (even though I am fairly proficient in English, they are way too complicated for me to pull them out on the spot).

    This makes me wonder if my game takes a hit because of this. I kinda lose my spontaneity when I speak English, because I always think it over before I say something.

    Anyway, I will draw some inspiration from your threads and try my own variation. I think I can do ok as long as I don't care about the end result. What's the worst thing that can happen to me, right? She will brush me off and that's it

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    Default Re: Question about day game - I need to improve

    Exactly.
    My point is to use whatever situation you have & make the most of it.

    The dog crap opener was something I kinda pre-planned / scripted.. but messed up when I did it. Fortunately I rolled with it & made it work.

    It was when I let go of the outcome & dumped the script, that everything worked smoothly.

    The Gas station & pizza place ones, were just being at the right place at the right time.

    You can get good at spontaneity by watching funny movies & busting out lines when you're talking with friends. The quick thinking starts to come naturally after a while.

    But I'm always looking for humor in everything... always.
    Sometimes it's inappropriate. hahaha!

    There's pretty much always gonna be something you can use to open a girl with a fun flirty vibe, if you're paying attention.



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