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    Talking I FREAKIN' DID IT!!!! (What next?)

    It's been 3 loooong years since a bad breakup and I've been slowly working on my game. Last week I got this girl's number (solid HB8) on Sunday night. Went from texting to sexting in around 45 minutes.

    Pushed for the meet up later that day, with the intention of finding if she clicked with ME. Kiss closed and went on my way with a false time-constraint. She texts me first 20 mins after first date, I push for meet up again on Tuesday night, she accepts happily!

    Long story short, making-out in my car at the park, touching, all that good stuff, but she had to take off for a personal problem. I thought it was BS but she was close enough on her phone that I could overhear the call. She sexts me after the date and I make my decision to go for the f-close the next time we meet; no ifs, ands, or buts.

    Wednesday night, she texts ME and pushes HARD for a late night meet up . We meet back at the same park and after making out, touching, fingering, I get the f-close fail, miserably. She stops and gives me the speech about "I wanna wait til marriage.......blah, blah, blah...it's not you...I just think this park is creepy..." So I calmly tell her if she's uncomfortable, she wouldn't hurt my feelings if she took off. She says ok, tries to make out with me again while holding me around the waist so I can't get back to my car. (?)

    I've been keeping up with a TON of all of your guys' posts so I know either my game was off or she was being "truthful" (yah right).


    Before I get to my questions, I just wanted to say that................ .................... .....I FEEL FUxKING GREAT!!!!! This was the first time I (successfully) applied everything that I've learned from you guys since the bad breakup. I don't regret going for the f-close, and I do NOT feel bad in any sense of the word about being rejected. The first thought that went in my head when she gave me the speech was: I could literally have any other girl in this exact same position, so don't sweat it. I cannot put into words how proud of myself I was that I went for it!!!!

    Questions:

    1) Did I handle the situation correctly by letting her know if she was uncomfortable she could bounce even though she said "It wasn't me making her feel like that." ?

    2) Where do I go from here? I'm DEFINETELY going to game other chicks, but should I still keep up with her? Text her or should I wait it out?

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    Default Re: I FREAKIN' DID IT!!!! (What next?)

    First of all, great job! Speaks for itself

    Sounds like she's a virgin if she gave you that little speech. I wouldn't want to be her first because of all that clingy stuff, so I wouldn't keep gaming her. If she's not, then you should realize that not every girl's dream is to get f*cked in the park, let alone a car - get her to your place (or her's) for a movie night. If you get into LMR again, STOP EVERYTHING. Continue watching the movie, don't cuddle, don't make out, etc. She should cave in shortly after. You can also say that you'll be staying in her comfort zone and try to re-escalate.

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    Default Re: I FREAKIN' DID IT!!!! (What next?)

    You did great man! Congrats. It seems a little weird that you're tryna f-close in the park which definitely made her uncomfortable. Bounce her to a more secluded place next time.

    When she said she's tryna wait until marriage, you should have just simply said that's cool and you respect that, taken a step back. Either she'll give in or you start escalating slowly again. You telling her she can leave comes off as overly apologetic for a situation you're not sorry for. Only ever apologize if you actually mean it. You didn't have sex with her so there's nothing to feel guilty about. Now whether her excuse is valid or not, you'll only ever really know once you ramp up the attraction very high and still get rejected.

    Also, change your perception of sex. Don't view sex as the end game. View it as a progression of attraction. When you view it as the "end game," and you don't get it, you lose. When you view it as something that naturally occurs between two people who are attracted to each other, something magical happens. When you get into situations like this, you end up owning them. Why? Because sex is not your end goal. This message oozes out of your body (body language, tonality, etc), and women pick up on it. You come off as the calm guy who knows how to make women feel comfortable around them, even when they're displaying their sexuality (very attractive quality). As a result their defenses are lowered, and things happen more naturally. A result of that includes a decrease in women regretting sleeping with you (I can't for the life of me remember the PUA term for this).

    Anyways, enough ranting. You did a good job man, and I like your first thoughts once she started giving her excuses. Don't drop this girl just yet. Continue texting her and set up another date. On this date actually go out and do something fun with her. End the date at a secluded spot (your place, her place, etc), and start escalating again. See what happens from there.

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    Default Re: I FREAKIN' DID IT!!!! (What next?)

    Quote Originally Posted by Vicodin24 View Post
    First of all, great job! Speaks for itself
    Sounds like she's a virgin if she gave you that little speech. I wouldn't want to be her first because of all that clingy stuff, so I wouldn't keep gaming her. If she's not, then you should realize that not every girl's dream is to get f*cked in the park, let alone a car - get her to your place (or her's) for a movie night. If you get into LMR again, STOP EVERYTHING. Continue watching the movie, don't cuddle, don't make out, etc. She should cave in shortly after. You can also say that you'll be staying in her comfort zone and try to re-escalate.
    Where there's a will, there's a way

    Thanks, man! As far as her being a virgin....I just don't know. I do know she had a bf for about a year and a half awhile back and I highly doubt it was a sexless relationship, you know? I could be wrong tho.

    Lol to be honest, the park was the only place I could think of. I have little to zero privacy at my place (parents, shared room) plus I've f-closed one other girl there before my last relationship. Should I just simply ask her for a movie night at her place when she texts me?


    Quote Originally Posted by lilsting View Post
    You did great man! Congrats. It seems a little weird that you're tryna f-close in the park which definitely made her uncomfortable. Bounce her to a more secluded place next time.
    When she said she's tryna wait until marriage, you should have just simply said that's cool and you respect that, taken a step back. Either she'll give in or you start escalating slowly again. You telling her she can leave comes off as overly apologetic for a situation you're not sorry for. Only ever apologize if you actually mean it. You didn't have sex with her so there's nothing to feel guilty about. Now whether her excuse is valid or not, you'll only ever really know once you ramp up the attraction very high and still get rejected.
    Also, change your perception of sex. Don't view sex as the end game. View it as a progression of attraction. When you view it as the "end game," and you don't get it, you lose. When you view it as something that naturally occurs between two people who are attracted to each other, something magical happens. When you get into situations like this, you end up owning them. Why? Because sex is not your end goal. This message oozes out of your body (body language, tonality, etc), and women pick up on it. You come off as the calm guy who knows how to make women feel comfortable around them, even when they're displaying their sexuality (very attractive quality). As a result their defenses are lowered, and things happen more naturally. A result of that includes a decrease in women regretting sleeping with you (I can't for the life of me remember the PUA term for this).
    Anyways, enough ranting. You did a good job man, and I like your first thoughts once she started giving her excuses. Don't drop this girl just yet. Continue texting her and set up another date. On this date actually go out and do something fun with her. End the date at a secluded spot (your place, her place, etc), and start escalating again. See what happens from there.
    Much appreciated, lilsting! So should I text her first? Or wait for her? The last time I talked to her was Wednesday night when we met up. I know for a fact she is in Vegas right now for her bday tho if that matters at all

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    Default Re: I FREAKIN' DID IT!!!! (What next?)

    Yo Lilsting! I actually disagree. The way I read the situation is the complete opposite. The girl didn't want the F-close, and he told her that she can leave if she's uncomfortable. No apology, just fact.

    On the other hand.. being fucked in the park?? I don't think many girls would go for that on your first time together - much less a virgin. If you plan on pursuing this girl, definitely try to get to your bedroom. Or at least the couch hahaha. Definitely not a public venue, mate

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    Default Re: I FREAKIN' DID IT!!!! (What next?)

    Quote Originally Posted by Thommo98 View Post
    Yo Lilsting! I actually disagree. The way I read the situation is the complete opposite. The girl didn't want the F-close, and he told her that she can leave if she's uncomfortable. No apology, just fact.

    On the other hand.. being farked in the park?? I don't think many girls would go for that on your first time together - much less a virgin. If you plan on pursuing this girl, definitely try to get to your bedroom. Or at least the couch hahaha. Definitely not a public venue, mate

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    This was my exact thought process at the time. I didn't see my telling her to leave if she was uncomfortable as an apology

    Lol yah that was my bad. No privacy at either of our places so it was the best I could come up with on the fly
    Last edited by night_rider; 03-16-2014 at 02:38 PM. Reason: Forgot to add some stuff

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    Quote Originally Posted by Thommo98 View Post
    Yo Lilsting! I actually disagree. The way I read the situation is the complete opposite. The girl didn't want the F-close, and he told her that she can leave if she's uncomfortable. No apology, just fact.

    On the other hand.. being farked in the park?? I don't think many girls would go for that on your first time together - much less a virgin. If you plan on pursuing this girl, definitely try to get to your bedroom. Or at least the couch hahaha. Definitely not a public venue, mate

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    He didn't straight up apologize, but that statement is apologetic in nature. Whether he apologized or not though doesn't really change anything. My point was whenever you find yourself in a situation like that, a lot of guys apologize when they really don't need to. So she didn't want the f-close, that's completely fine, just go on to doing something else. She knows she can leave if she starts to feel to uncomfortable, but I would avoid making statements like that in that particular context.

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    Default Re: I FREAKIN' DID IT!!!! (What next?)

    Quote Originally Posted by night_rider View Post
    Much appreciated, lilsting! So should I text her first? Or wait for her? The last time I talked to her was Wednesday night when we met up. I know for a fact she is in Vegas right now for her bday tho if that matters at all
    Kind of difficult to think of a girl who goes to Vegas to celebrate her birthday, but doesn't want to have sex. Wait until she gets back and shoot her a text, like nothing ever happened. Just keep it really light and fun, and go for another meet-up. If she doesn't reciprocate, or just doesn't respond, then you can assume she's no longer interested, but as for now keep pushing forward. You're not being needy which is good, so just keep doing your thing man.

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    Quote Originally Posted by lilsting View Post
    Kind of difficult to think of a girl who goes to Vegas to celebrate her birthday, but doesn't want to have sex. Wait until she gets back and shoot her a text, like nothing ever happened. Just keep it really light and fun, and go for another meet-up. If she doesn't reciprocate, or just doesn't respond, then you can assume she's no longer interested, but as for now keep pushing forward. You're not being needy which is good, so just keep doing your thing man.
    Summed it up perfectly. She ended up texting me the day before yesterday but I didn't feel compelled to chase my tail on this girl, so I just stopped replying to her texts. It's not a good use of my time to get stuck on one girl when I have a few others who are looking more promising

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    Default Re: I FREAKIN' DID IT!!!! (What next?)

    Fck yes to the second part, but as for not talking to her at all, I think you can do better than that! Why not use her to practice your game? By this, I mean be downright flirtatious and ballsy. It'll help you practice your skills, and since you're ok with cutting her off, you have nothing to lose and everything to gain
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