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    Default The 'No Sex before Marriage1 type of girls

    Just to be clear, I'm a religious guy - who also think that sex is fun. So I personally don't find any problem with having sex with a girl. But on the other hand I can understand the girls who believe that she shouldn't have sex before marriage.

    During my PUA journey, I'd rather met girls who like having casual sex, just like me. But as I can see now, this HB who I #-closed the other night is different. She is super cute, shoot me texts all the time, get very excited about the marriage-roleplay, I really like her. Of course I escalate with her just like with every other girl, but it turned out that she will not have sex with me, because she doesn't believe in casuel sex.

    So what you think guys? Is it something that will change if I have a tight game? On the other hand, as I mentioned, I understand and even appreciate her standpoint, but I feel uncomfortable because I'm not against a LTR, but I don't know if I want this kind of serious commitment. You know, I've had a serious 2 years long relationship - so I know how it likes to believe in something you think will last forever but doesn't.
    Any kind of advice, story in the topic or opinion is appreciated.

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    Default Re: The 'No Sex before Marriage1 type of girls

    That's something you need to take time to figure out. If a girl hits me with that line, and is sincere, I would respect it. If I don't see myself getting married to her, I would drop it just to not "lose myself," you know?

    That said, I've been in an LTR where my ex was adamant about waiting until marriage. I was ok with it and respected her decision because I did see myself settling down with her. Then again, she was (is?) a virgin.

    Back to your girl! If she's a virgin, respect it and go separate ways. If she's not, well...grab a condom. Or twelve.

    My view is that if she's had sex before, I won't buy that "waiting until marriage" BS. I'll say I understand (or ignore it altogether) and bust (pun intended) through LMR and WHOOPS - "heat of the moment"
    Always leave her better than you found her.

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    Default Re: The 'No Sex before Marriage1 type of girls

    I find the situation extremely difficult - you know, pickup art help you from the approach till sex. I haven't had any problem getting laid - but it has already happened to me a few times that I was able to imagine LTR, but the girl only wanted casual sex. Now at this point, I think I'm ready for LTR. But I'm only 22!! I don't, and honestly, can't really think of marriage right now, in this age.

    I only want to be fair with her. She is extremely cute - seriously, how sweet she is that she mentioned it nervously before the first date asking if I still want to meet her. If I quit at this point - what I DON'T WANT TO - I miss an opportunity to maybe meet a great girl, who I can go LTR with. On the other hand, what if she is great and everything - I can't promise to marry her. I think nobody can do that.

    What I'm about to do is to play with my cards on the table. Meet her, date with her, and go along with it and this issue until I can. I mean maybe she only had a bad experience, or have never fell in love with anybody or something like that. I don't know. But I don't know either how should I game her, how to behave with her - use the tools that are meant for getting laid or not? Shit, I got confused, but thanks for the thoughts Vicodin!

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    Default Re: The 'No Sex before Marriage1 type of girls

    Well, your choice. If you like her, invest the time and effort for a relationship.

    My advice though, to get her to come around, is to be horny when you're alone with her. Bare with me for a sec! You obviously want to be the one to stop things, something like "You really have me turned on, but we're gonna wait" or something along those lines. That'll show you're not just in it for sex.

    But here is the kicker: If you're constantly turned on by her, she'll see this and her mirror neurons in her brain will respond by making her more turned on. Funny how the biggest turn on is seeing your partner turned on by you! Obviously don't be like an animal. But if you like spooning and get hard, push it against her, Be passionate, etc.

    But it sounds to me unless you're willing to put the time into a relationship, you won't get anything.. So it's your choice.

    Good luck buddy

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    Default Re: The 'No Sex before Marriage1 type of girls

    If you knew for a fact that she would never have sex with you until marriage, what would your decision be? While its certainly possible that you could get her to have sex with you despite her beliefs, you need to confront this not-so-unlikely worst case scenario.

    Regarding how to act around her, do the same that you do with every other girl. Just because sex is off the table doesn't mean you can't flirt, touch, kiss, make out, etc. Most people in platonic relationships do these things.

    There's a possible complication that could happen if you do end up having sex. You get her to do it, and then she regrets it. If this happens, it could really put a strain on your relationship and make you very uncertain of how to act around her (especially when it comes to kino and kissing) afterwards.

    Basically, go on the date and then see if she's good enough to outweigh these concerns.


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