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    Default Help with my ex!!

    Hi,

    So my story is, I went abroad to study, found a girl I really liked. I met her a few months before having to go back home. There's something about her that really draws me to her and I know she really liked me too.

    Eventually we decided to try and go for the long distance as I want to move back not too far from where she's at, though those plans haven't really been figured out yet as there's a big puzzle for that to work out, so I don't know when exactly it will happen.

    At first it went really well, and she would spontaneously call me and tell me how much she missed me. At some point we decided it might be best not to be officially together as she got back to school, was busy and had less time to talk.

    Early February I then bought tickets to go back and visit (I'm not going just to see her, but equally much to see all the friends I made there).

    3-4 weeks ago she then started getting more distant and I could tell something was up. She would barely answer my messages, avoided skyping, so I stopped texting in order to get her to take initiative. One day she wrote me and said she didn't feel the same way I did, and I wrote, then I wasn't sure how I felt about meeting up with her when I'm going back to see everyone else if that was how the situation was. She said she missed me, but at the same time I wasn't there. Recently we've barely had any contact. I contacted her briefly just to congratulate her on her birthday.

    The thing is, I really like this girl. I want it to work out between the two of us, which is why I wanted some feedback. I was thinking about sending her a message 3-4 days before going back saying, "Look, you're a nice girl, and it'd be stupid if this keeps us from talking. I've traveled so far, so we might as well hang out as friends" to let her think I'm all fine with the situation, though I really like this girl.

    Please, let me know how you guys feel about that idea.

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    Blistex is offline PUA Forums Respected Contributor
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    Default Re: Help with my ex!!

    I hate to speculate, but here is what I'm getting from this.

    It was great to have you there to fill that emotional void in her life, but you weren't there to satisfy her other needs, not necessarily sex but just to go out with and have fun.

    It sounds to me like she has met someone who IS around in her life and she is wanting to explore that option. As far as what to do to keep her, I don't know, but I have a feeling if you try to hang out with her you will be disappointed when you try to go for a meetup with her. I would wait for advice from others, but this is just what I see from the situation.

    I don't want you to get your hopes up just to be disappointed.
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    John90 is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Re: Help with my ex!!

    Thanks for your reply. From all I can tell she hasn't met someone new. The thing is I haven't seen her in 3 months and with no sure knowledge of whether I'll move close to where she lives, I think that takes away her hope.

    Obviously, being 4000 miles away makes a relationship tough.

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    Blistex is offline PUA Forums Respected Contributor
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    Default Re: Help with my ex!!

    Well, 4000 miles is a LONG way bro. Give it some time and space, you can always be friends later. Go meet someone new. You guys made it work for a while from 4000 miles away, so there is more than a physical connection there. Meet someone just like she did, this is the way life works at times brother.
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