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    Default How to respond to a cute girl's resistance (playing hard to get)?

    Let me set the story a bit:

    I've been interacting with this girl for over a year, and there's definitely attraction. I want her to be my girlfriend! Gradually, I've been escalating kino, and getting more physical. Still, I know that I've progressed much too slowly, and I think her attraction for me, which was very strong earlier on, has recently waned a bit.

    In any case, our last in-person interaction was a week ago, and I put my arms around her and rested my head on hers for a few seconds, and she seemed to enjoy it. We were both feeling the vibe.

    So one of our main points of meeting is having tea. I often run into her randomly in the dorm and we'll share a cup of tea. Yesterday, I messaged her "tea todai!?" (< - possibly mistake #1), one of the first times where we actually scheduled a meeting in advance (previously all of our encounters were essentially unscheduled), and was fully expecting a positive response.

    She responded with "in your dreams". I then said "more like a nightmare " (< - probably mistake #2, could've said something better/more suave haha). In any case, now I think she's got me by the balls >_>. I can't ask her to go for tea because that'll seem needy. Do I just have to wait until she makes the next move (if she does make one at all? I don't think is a good idea...)? Should I wait a couple days and then 'ask' in a more direct manner ("I'm gonna be up late doing work tonight, let's do a tea party - bring your teddy bears and dolls")? Should I wait longer, maybe a week?

    Any advice is much appreciated y'all...I really want to meet with her (only 1 month until graduation), but I don't know how to proceed in this situation without coming off as clingy or needy...the "in your dreams" line really threw me for a loop....I think she's playing hard to get, but I dunno how to move forward. Is asking for tea again just a bad thing to do?

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    Default Re: How to respond to a cute girl's resistance (playing hard to get)?

    Hahaha! Actually your response to hers was PERFECT! That's exactly something I would say. Her text was obviously a shit test. I wouldn't have sent the first text like you did. You would have been better off saying something like "Tea. My place. 8:15". You're graduating in 1 month and you won't see her. I would be bold and if you see her MAKE A MOVE ALREADY! I'm sure others will chime in and give you more advice.

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    Default Re: How to respond to a cute girl's resistance (playing hard to get)?

    @DirectIsBest: thanks for the advice - I knew I could've improved my initial message. And I think you're right, time is short, I should try to step things up if I want to succeed with this girl in the next month!

    But how soon can I invite her to meet for tea again? Is waiting a couple days enough? I feel like I often run into similar issues with other women, when they put up some resistance and I struggle to decide when I can start to get to closer to her again.

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    Default Re: How to respond to a cute girl's resistance (playing hard to get)?

    You have a month left man, work fast!

    Direct is right, BE BOLD. I'd suggest acting within the next day or so. You need to figure out if she is attracted to you soon so if she isn't you can move on and capitalize on your last month.

    You've already known her for a year. Ramp up your game and show her directly that you like her. If she resists then freeze her out and spend the rest of the month playing the rest of the field.

    She may have liked you previously but you may not have shown enough direct attraction toward her in the beginning so as you are becoming more bold she may have lost some of her initial feelings.

    Next time you encounter her in the dorms be SUPER excited to see her, grab her hand, and tell her you're going through tea withdraw and to join you. Nothing worst then wasting time/opportunities.
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