Re: Taking no action (no kino etc.) "vs." not hitting on them
Attitude plays into it yes, but also remember your non verbal communication can be compensating or even stabbing you in the back at the same time.
The fact of attitude can play into it but the subconscious will always show through.
Learn your non verbal cues learn to manipulate them and mind them all the time.
Secondly I'd you feel you may creep someone else out by doing something you will self fulfilling prophecies happy because your subconscious makes them. So believe in yourself make yourself think you are natural and gracefully with your actions and you will be come more fluid and natural.
Work on yourself, then believe in the improved you. Belief is more powerful than any attitude.
Learn to be a better person not a better player.