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Thread: she picked the date, not what i wanted

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    Default she picked the date, not what i wanted

    This is a first for me. Was doing some daygame, met a girl that I had a lot in common with. One of which is were both artists. So after doing an insta date I had to go and said let's meet up for drinks. She negged me about it being a typical first date, in a playful way. She's right about it being typical but didn't care and that's what all my first dates are.

    Anyways she asks if I've ever been to this restaurant that afterwards you paint a picture afterwards. I've never been and that became the date. In all honesty she picked a great spot based on our commonalities.

    The problem is that it's going to cost me over 100 bucks and if I don't like her I'm stuck on that date for two hours. This would have been a good date after banging her.

    How do I avoid thus from happening in the future?
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    Default Re: she picked the date, not what i wanted

    Next time, don't let the girl game YOU.


    It helps when you take charge & lead the interaction... it helps you avoid situations like that.

    I've only gone out for 100.00 dinners with girls whom I've been in a relationship with for at least several months. Never before.

    Enjoy the "date"... and just chalk it up as a learning experience of sorts.



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    Default Re: she picked the date, not what i wanted

    First date coffee or drink no more. Dinner after she qualifies and you are actually dating. Not only does it save wallet it can help prevent an awkward first date, most dinner dates run risk of becoming silent if you run out of material to talk about. Where as coffee or drink you have ample time to leave before you run out of material.
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    Default Re: she picked the date, not what i wanted

    You don't let her pick the date like that.

    $100.00 for dinner? Is she fucking serious?

    No. Every first date should be FREE or LESS THAN $20.00 COMBINED FOR THE 2 OF YOU. REGARDLESS IF YOU ARE RICH OR POOR. YOU SHOULD ALSO PAY, BUT ONLY AFTER SHE QUALIFIES HERSELF.

    A.K.A. your on the date, and you're like "I really like fun adventurous girls, so what do you for fun" and she answers in a thorough, thought out, response qualifying the shit out of herself.

    If she's like, I don't really do much. I sit at home and play with my 20 cats and I'm not adventurous at all...I hate fun.

    Don't pay for her dinner or anything. Tell her you're going to split it when the bill comes, and don't ever talk to her again.

    Unless you REALLY REALLY want to fuck her, then you spin it as,

    "Oh you're really into cats? I love people who care and respect animals. That's so awesome you're like that. Sitting at home and doing nothing? There's nothing more fun. Wow. I think we may actually work out. +10 points for you my little sex kitten."



    Free dates are the best dates. A walk in the park, a late night walk, going to the beach, coming over to see your puppy and then whatever, etc.

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    Default Re: she picked the date, not what i wanted

    So she gave you that suggestion and you agreed? I personally try to pick easy and low cost dates for the first time as well. Not just for compliance reasons but also because I'm cheap I would probably be like, "Oh that sounds cool. but there's a cooler place we should see here." I don't know what city you live in but there's always some events going on where you can paint at an open bar for a cover fee which shouldn't be anywhere near 100 dollars. I see ads for that shit all the time it sounds perfect for you.

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    Default Re: she picked the date, not what i wanted

    Let's just say she was a fast talker and I got caught in the moment. I know what I should have done, but this was a first and I'll be ready next time. Hence I wrote this post too quickly and answered my own question after I wrote it.

    Yes to all, drinks and under 40 bones is plenty for a first date.
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    Default Re: she picked the date, not what i wanted

    You could always say "Hey, my schedule actually just got really full that day. However, I think I would be able to go out for a QUICK drink later tonight." Or something of the sort. Then just end up not giving a flip about what fictitious thing you said you had to do if things go well during the date. Just make sure you say you can only get together after any kind of decent dinner time. 9:30 or 10, sometime around there. It really depends on how much you want to save the $100

    This would also help you take control back.

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