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    Default Re: Am i the only one who does or think like this?

    To date, I have had 4 gay guys try to pick me up in NYC. Two at the bar, one at the gym, and one on the subway station. If a gay guy approaches you, and you're honest about your sexuality, then they'll be apologetic and you can probably make a friend. Just be kind about it. Don't diminish their sexual value by being an ass, just like you wouldn't want a woman to diminish yours.

    However, some gay guys are a bit more persistent and there's already some good advice in this thread to deal with it.

    Ultimately, I don't understand why it matters if a guy trying to talk to you is gay. Unless you're homophobic, a guy who comes up to you in the bar to talk should be treated the same way any other guy is treated. Who cares if he's gay, straight, or from Jupiter? Just be an alpha male, include him in your group, and who knows what kind of new resource you may bring into your social circle.
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    Default Re: Am i the only one who does or think like this?

    Well yeah Duke... I think that's the whole point. Some guys are just not comfortable with being around gay men. Which I can understand but I really learned to see past that. So no harm in people asking for advice on it.

    Homophobia is just another hurdle to overcome fellas. I can understand how in some parts of the US or the world men aren't really taught to be comfortable with the fact that gay people exist but if you wanna be a PUA, you gotta put all that negative stuff behind you.

    No one can change your sexual preference. If your afraid that you may fall for a guy or enjoy some type of gay relationship, then that's a whole other issue. But as with all things PU, keep negativity out of your life. Don't look to hate or fear anyone just because they are different. That won't help you master game at all.
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    Default Re: Am i the only one who does or think like this?

    ^ My point is just that a gay guy isn't going to hurt you. You don't have to like their life decisions, listen to them, or agree with them. But they aren't going to harm you. Talking to someone isn't going to damn you to eternal hell fire either.

    Just be friendly with everyone, and deal with shit as it comes up. Like I said in my AMOGing thread, the cooperative guy is the highest value person in the room.
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    Default Re: Am i the only one who does or think like this?

    Yes I agree totally.

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    Default Re: Am i the only one who does or think like this?

    Quote Originally Posted by Ra1d View Post
    God,I was working with someone like this and he kept grabbing my ass sometimes and pissed me off and I didn't know how to react,I did have the urge to punch him in the face,but realized it would be beta as hell.

    How do you react to this ?If a guy grabs your ass in front of other girls,wouldn't it lower your value ?
    It doesn't lower your value at all if a woman saw a guy grab your butt. I told them straight up "Hey I don't appreciate that. Don't do that again" in a stern but not angry tone. It would be the same if you grabbed a girls ass who didn't appreciate it.

    There's nothing wrong or beta about setting boundaries with people (actually quite the contrary). Just don't let your emotions get in the way. After that they didn't do it again and I continued to be friendly with them. They didn't stop trying to flirt, which I was ok with, but they stopped touching me in sexual places.


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