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    Default Am i the only one who does or think like this?

    Am I the only one? Everytime a guy tries t talk to me or get close I always think he's gay. I keep my circle closed for my guy friends and only have a couple I trust but any other guy that tries to be friends and talk to me I always think. "Yo, is he gay. Why is he smiling at me like that?" I think about questions like that and they just make me feel uncomfortable. Now if a guy tried to talk to me about girls and only girls then those thoughts go away. Am I becoming a social robot as Neil Strauss would call it?
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    Default Re: Am i the only one who does or think like this?

    It's very presumptuous on your part to assume he's gay just because he's talking to you. He's not even necessarily trying to be your friend. He's just trying to be social. Cut the guy(s) some slack and stop making these wild assumptions.

    I hear you though. Until recently I thought if a guy smiled at me it means he's gay. In nature it's only the beta monkey who smiles at the alpha monkey. The alpha is more dominant so he won't smile first. I think it's a good rule for us human males to live by too. However, I wouldn't go too far with it and I think it's good to expand your social circle. You should talk to other males especially if you are approaching women where there is males in the set(a mixed set). If you only approach females(a lone or in groups)you'll never improve your game or social skills. We all need to jump out of our comfort zone. You just need to develop a thick skin and not care about the outcome(regardless of whether there are females or males you are talking to).

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    Default Re: Am i the only one who does or think like this?

    Either way you feel or label them it is an opertunity that is missed, being comfortable with guys is a way to DHV. The orientation or motivations that they may have can work against you but learning to deal with hem in a civil or socially graceful way will exponentially improve your social proof.

    I did think that way a while ago, then one of my targets was living with a gay guy and invited me to go with them to a local bar that catered to that lifestyle. I learned the nature of gay people, the thing I also learned is paranoid people that are strait stick out to them.

    He called me out on it in front of my girl by asking why do you think I should be interested in you? Even though I do not support nor do I ever wish to partake in that type of relationship, I have to admit those words stung a bit, but I am friends with him now. For the most part if you establish your belief in your lifestyle they will leave you alone, aside from an occasional joke here or there.

    My conclusion is they are people, and being alpha is learning to deal with everyone gracefully.
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    Default Re: Am i the only one who does or think like this?

    You´re like one of the guys i´ve met once in a club. I was simply being social, talking with everyone, when i walk to this guy and start talking with him.
    He just said he wasn´t gay, and made a REALLY offensive sign with his hands (simulating a pussy and licking it), wich basically put him not in a beta position, but like a gamma. Not only i was pissed off, the guy lost the chance to make a good wing.

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    Default Re: Am i the only one who does or think like this?

    @Graf ... Um maybe he was trying to Alpha you? Because he called you out as having an "unacceptable behavior" and it did make you mad... So he basically did get the upper hand. I would've just said whatever in a cocky way or played even more gay lol

    As for gay guys... They are pretty awesome! They have great social proof with girls, give good feedback and are generally a positive bunch.

    Gay men will give you signals if they like you. Way bigger signals than any woman. So you can actually tell if you got something going for you from how they treat you. Same goes for bisexuals and transgendered people. Don't be scared. Being scared of someone for their sexual preference is not alpha imho.

    Being comfortable with them is alot different than treating them nicely. Anytime you consciously are nice to people because you are not comfortable around them, you are not being your true self. True alphas are great around everyone. True alphas don't fake it.
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    Default Re: Am i the only one who does or think like this?

    Like Lockdown stated already, gay guys are pretty awesome. I have a gay friend and I asked him when he met me if he thought I was gay. He said he immediately knew I was straight. Gay guys are REALLY good at picking out their own kind (Unless their really drunk).

    They will also be very forward if they like you. A buddy of mine dates women who have gay friends. Two of them had crushes on me and they weren't shy about it! They would call me cute and grab my ass among other things. These guys knew I was straight. It got annoying sometimes but I wasn't offended.

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    Default Re: Am i the only one who does or think like this?

    Indeed, agreed with lockdown hands down on this one that's why he is an all star.

    Direct hits it pretty well good example. They are clear with you, but like any good friend they may mess with you a little for a laugh, never less than good friends though.
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    Default Re: Am i the only one who does or think like this?

    Quote Originally Posted by DirectIsBest View Post
    They would call me cute and grab my ass among other things.
    God,I was working with someone like this and he kept grabbing my ass sometimes and pissed me off and I didn't know how to react,I did have the urge to punch him in the face,but realized it would be beta as hell.

    How do you react to this ?If a guy grabs your ass in front of other girls,wouldn't it lower your value ?

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    Default Re: Am i the only one who does or think like this?

    Quote Originally Posted by Ra1d View Post
    God,I was working with someone like this and he kept grabbing my ass sometimes and pissed me off and I didn't know how to react,I did have the urge to punch him in the face,but realized it would be beta as hell.

    How do you react to this ?If a guy grabs your ass in front of other girls,wouldn't it lower your value ?
    Well, you can actually use that and dance with him, and then change it and dance with the girls. They won´t be resisting, because you are just dancing with everyone, plus it´s easier to dance in a more sensual way with the girls when this happens. Maybe they will think you´re gay, but all the room seeing you dancing sensually with a bunch of girls, you just made the Gay guy a pawn.

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    Default Re: Am i the only one who does or think like this?

    Well I think it depends. I mean if they are copping a feel you could tell them that "only the first ones free, honey!" And if they continue, play up the "I'm saving it for marriage!" angle and smack their hand away. And if they still continue, you can tell them "stoooop! I told you I am trying to stay chaste and wholesome!" If they have a comeback, you can say "you are such a b!tch" and smack their hand again.

    Its a clean way to reject without getting emotional. The b!tch part is used last because by this point they've touched you three times, so name calling will not be viewed as homophobic.

    Oh and it goes without saying that you do all this I n an exxagerated, womanly style. Be very obvious that you are joking... But again don't get mad. The smacking and name calling will convey rejection without causing hard feelings.

    If they are more overt however, tell them that there is a line. If they apologize and say they didn't mean to offend you just wink and say one of the lines I gave once again.
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