One thing which was lost on me, was that the mental mindset of being an alpha male, strong inner confidence, and being funny and sociable aren't things that you can just turn on when you're around women, and turn off elsewhere. It's got to be a way of life.
I only realized this recently. Learning about becoming a PUA and striving to get past my AFC habits has really augmented my mindfulness of myself and my surroundings. I realize that even around my friends and other guys, I do and say some things that people might think are a little odd or awkward, but since I'm around my buds, nobody really cares/it's just laughed off.
But I've really started to notice things about other guys around me - they're socially aware, and are considerate of others yet act with their own interests in mind. Even with my conversations with other guys and my friends, I am a little timid, and don't exactly hold a conversation as well as the other person does.
I know I need to improve myself in every aspect of my social sphere - that's the first step towards getting better I guess. I don't think I can truly succeed with women until I get the other facets of my social life worked out.
My question is, how do I do this? I feel like I'm 21 years behind everyone else, and have to play some serious catch-up to get on a level which I'll be able to walk into a party and have a great conversation with anyone I meet - guy or girl. How do I become the man people always want to be around and look up to? Any tips or advice, or practice/improvement strategy?