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    afcsupreme is offline PUA in Training
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    Default How can I get better at handling general social situations?

    One thing which was lost on me, was that the mental mindset of being an alpha male, strong inner confidence, and being funny and sociable aren't things that you can just turn on when you're around women, and turn off elsewhere. It's got to be a way of life.

    I only realized this recently. Learning about becoming a PUA and striving to get past my AFC habits has really augmented my mindfulness of myself and my surroundings. I realize that even around my friends and other guys, I do and say some things that people might think are a little odd or awkward, but since I'm around my buds, nobody really cares/it's just laughed off.

    But I've really started to notice things about other guys around me - they're socially aware, and are considerate of others yet act with their own interests in mind. Even with my conversations with other guys and my friends, I am a little timid, and don't exactly hold a conversation as well as the other person does.

    I know I need to improve myself in every aspect of my social sphere - that's the first step towards getting better I guess. I don't think I can truly succeed with women until I get the other facets of my social life worked out.

    My question is, how do I do this? I feel like I'm 21 years behind everyone else, and have to play some serious catch-up to get on a level which I'll be able to walk into a party and have a great conversation with anyone I meet - guy or girl. How do I become the man people always want to be around and look up to? Any tips or advice, or practice/improvement strategy?

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    Default Re: How can I get better at handling general social situations?

    The key to a great conversation is being comfortable. You must first feel comfortable with yourself to be comfortable with others.

    Talk whenever you get a chance. I know exactly how you feel. PUA makes you so much more aware of social situations that it causes you to over complicate things.

    Get back to having fun. Don't focus on trying to be the funny guy or the great storyteller but just be you. Don't try to impress people! That's what messes people up.

    Try to find what gets you going. I get much more social after I talk to a random person or two. Say whatever ridiculous things comes to your mind. Also I suggest meditation and self reflection.
    Stop Thinking,Start Living!

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    Default Re: How can I get better at handling general social situations?

    It is rather simple but takes time, this forum is a great starting point. The stuff outlined here has helped in job interviews and other things too. There is no doubt that pick up and social interaction is a directly connected.

    Feeling like you are 21 years behind don't worry about that you are only conditioned that way like most of us where.

    First thing to remember we are all conditioned differently, that is no thanks to the failures of friends, family, educators and other role models in our impressionable younger years.

    Second thing, nothing is permanent, especially conditioning you are able to recondition yourself to become anything you want to be.

    Third thing, figure out who you are and what you believe in. Once you have that change anything and everything else you wish, but don't lose yourself. Additionally what you believe will always override any amount of conditioning so don't work against it, make it work with you.
    Learn to be a better person not a better player.


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