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    Default Need help being alpha in group situations

    I read another post a few minutes ago and it made me realize that I am failing in one aspect of conversation. Not so much having to pick up chicks but just conversation in general.

    When its face to face with one or two other people, I am great. I often lead the conversation, crack jokes, keep things fun and playful. But my problem is when its a group of people. I'm shy, timid, rarely speak, never tell stories, just quiet and usually participate in conversation when people are directly talking to me or asking me questions. This is where I want to improve. I want to be the person who leads the conversation. Tell stories (which I suck at because I don't have too many stories to tell). Crack jokes. Make people realize how awesome I really am.

    How do I do this? Like I said above I'm not even talking about only with girls. I'm talking about strangers, friends, family, girlfriends, girlfriends friends, just anyone. Even my immediate family, people who I feel very comfortable with.

    tl;dr - in face to face interactions, I'm good. When there's a group of people - im boring and shy/quiet. What can I do?

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    Default Re: Need help being alpha in group situations

    Its all about inner game man. You have to have that I literally don't give a fuck about what him, you, or that hottie think about me, because i'm awesome and I know it.

    It's a self fulfilling prophecy, if you think you're the shit, and that you're awesome, so will everybody else, or they will, given time.

    The easiest way is self-reflection and meditation. Be completely honest with yourself, and really think about who you are, and how people perceive you. Then think about who you want to be, and how you're going to get there.

    Once you're self confident, and are completely comfortable with yourself, that's when you're going to dominate group conversations.

    Just be comfortable. As for other tips, strong handshakes when first introducing, strong body language, strong eye contact, deep calm voice, no fidgeting, all play apart of being the alpha male in a group.

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    Default Re: Need help being alpha in group situations

    For Alpha male I watched this awesome documentary about alpha male on you tube that has a lot of information and experiments which tech you how to be one. Its about an hour long but I recommend you watch it man its loaded with information. Here is the link

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_TijDInhnEg

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    Default Re: Need help being alpha in group situations

    Quote Originally Posted by Kyl3 View Post
    Its all about inner game man. You have to have that I literally don't give a fark about what him, you, or that hottie think about me, because i'm awesome and I know it.

    It's a self fulfilling prophecy, if you think you're the shit, and that you're awesome, so will everybody else, or they will, given time.

    The easiest way is self-reflection and meditation. Be completely honest with yourself, and really think about who you are, and how people perceive you. Then think about who you want to be, and how you're going to get there.

    Once you're self confident, and are completely comfortable with yourself, that's when you're going to dominate group conversations.

    Just be comfortable. As for other tips, strong handshakes when first introducing, strong body language, strong eye contact, deep calm voice, no fidgeting, all play apart of being the alpha male in a group.
    When it comes to that, I'm a realist. I know I am a good person and have all the confidence in the world when it comes to girls and all that. But realistically speaking, I'm a boring guy. I work a 9-5 job, never travel, never do anything too exciting. No exciting stories. Not a lot of friends since I moved. 95% of my friends that I talk to being chicks that I hooked up with or used to hook up with.

    I don't care what people think about me to a certain extent. Sure, I want to be liked but I try to be myself. I'm just really shy and cannot think of anything to contribute to a conversation when people aren't directly speaking to me.

    I understand who I am right now and where I want to be. The thing is I have no idea how to get there. I could try meditating and thinking about it but when it comes down to it and I'm in the moment, I'm shy, reserved, quiet, and just downright boring.

    Quote Originally Posted by Classy View Post
    For Alpha male I watched this awesome documentary about alpha male on you tube that has a lot of information and experiments which tech you how to be one. Its about an hour long but I recommend you watch it man its loaded with information. Here is the link

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_TijDInhnEg
    I'll take a look at that later when I get off work. Appreciate the post!

    As for me, I'm definitely alpha when it comes to girls and relationships. Just very social things, such as group conversations over dinner or in a group circle I'm beta as fuck.


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