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Thread: Need help to get Ex back! Is it beyond repair?

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    Default Need help to get Ex back! Is it beyond repair?

    Hey, brand new to this site, so wish I had of found it months ago!

    I really need some advice on my situation, if it's possible to get my ex back and if so what course of action to take. I know I really screwed up...so here's the background:

    Me and my ex used to get along really well, however she would frequently complain about me not seeing her enough. We lived 45 minute drive away from each other and her work shifts made it difficult. Early December last year we argued about this and both decided that it wasn't working and we should split after being together for 2 years. The holidays come and past and we stayed in limited communication.

    I realised after New year how much I loved her and wanted her back and was confident she would say the same, so I asked her to meet for a coffee. However when we met she told me that we had done the right thing!! She said I'd ignored her her one to many times and she felt like I didn't love her or give her enough attention. I admit that I could have definitely made her feel more special.

    I then made it my goal to prove how much I cared for and loved her!!

    But the reality was I didn't know how to handle the rejection and panicked!! For the next 3 months I begged, pleaded and tried to convince her that we were meant to be together and that I did truly love her. I'd text her and she would respond but never initiate. This seemed to work to an extent as she agreed to meet up with me every couple of weeks or so. Whenever we went out we always had a great time, got on perfect and it was like being back together. On 3 or 4 occasions we'd end up in a hotel and sleeping with each other. But each time we parted she would go back to being distant. She'd tell me that she enjoyed spending time with me, but "something wasn't right". I'd ask what but she just said her feelings and didn't know what exactly.

    I then found out she was on plenty of fish (where we initially met) and she told me she was only on there looking for attention that I never give her. I made a profile on there and messaged her, and she went mad for me being on there accusing me of talking to other girls. I said if she's on there I can be on as well.

    About a month ago I managed to persuade her to spend the day with me in my city and we went out drinking together, this meant that she would have to stay at my house. When we were out and a bit drunk she told me that she thought I was handsome but didn't find me "rip your clothes off sexy" and also that I was "just to nice". I asked her about us getting back together and she said she'd have to make a decision and appreciated that it wasn't fair on me. She thought I'd make an amazing father and her family loved me so much which was important to her..blah blah blah.

    I then asked if there was anyone else and she admitted she had been "meeting" another guy. I got angry at first then managed to calm down as I realised she was staying over and I had a chance to get her back.

    We carried on drinking and eventually got back to my house and ended up having sex for hours. When we finished I started thinking about this other guy and started to quiz her. We ended up arguing and she asked if I'd looked at her phone! I flipped out as she must have been texting this guy during the day when she had been with me. I admit I had a bit of a meltdown. 3 months of frustration, uncertainty and now the Knowledge of another guy (fuelled by alcohol) come out in a torrent of anger and emotion, crying and begging, calling her names! Not a pretty sight.

    She left the following day and said it was over. I text her for the next 2 weeks trying to persuade her but she never really said much other than my texts weren't helping matters and that she wouldn't meet as she'd tried it lots of times and it hadn't changed her mind.

    I asked her about this other guy and she told me that they were enjoying each other company and seeing how things went but weren't serious yet. I then give her a load of abuse about stringing me along and did this guy know she'd been sleeping with her ex etc etc. She tried to defend herself then told me to not to contact her again and it was over.

    2 days later I text her saying no hard feeling and I hoped things worked out for her. She replied instantly saying "you too, take care xx"

    That was 3 weeks ago and the last time we've been in contact.

    Despite what has happened I love her so much and want her back more than anything. I put in so much mental and physical effort into reconciliation for the past 4 months that I really don't want to just accept defeat.

    Does anyone have any advice about what I can do do to get her back?

    Thanks

    Al
    Last edited by alwal; 04-26-2014 at 03:35 PM. Reason: spelling

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    Default Re: Need help to get Ex back! Is it beyond repair?

    All I read is how you pushed her into the arms of another guy.

    Your begging and pleading to be with her: Pushes her away
    A woman's mind responds to emotions, not logic.

    You showing her love without her having to commit: Pushes her away
    You did all of the stuff she wanted you to do, and she could still do whatever she wants on the side, like POF, and she KNEW you'd still come crawling back. Why would she commit to such a pushover?

    Your desperation: Pushes her away
    Woman can smell this stuff like fresh dog shit. They deal with hundreds more men than you do women.

    Your jealousy of the other guy: Pushes her away
    You should be sure of yourself. This guy is nothing and he's no threat. Showing your inferiority only hardens her intuition about you.

    I can't tell you what to do to get her back. I can tell you what to do to prevent losing her more.

    Stop talking to her. She will come back on her own. Work on yourself and create a new better version of yourself. The best version of yourself that you can be. She will see you, be wowed, and weep at your feet, and if not then there are plenty more women out there.

    I'll bet most of us have been in your shoes at least once. Read more posts. Workout more. Eat better.

    You're putting all your eggs in this one basket. A hungry wolf gets no dinner.

    Good luck.
    Last edited by konman; 04-26-2014 at 04:45 PM. Reason: Added some stuff: Reread if you see this.
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    Default Re: Need help to get Ex back! Is it beyond repair?

    Hey Konman, thanks for the reply. Now I've had time to cool down and read some articles on this site I can quite clearly see the errors of my ways.

    For the whole time I was with her I was definitely too nonchalant towards her and our relationship, which in hindsight was the catalyst for her to end things and look elsewhere.

    I then felt like I had to prove to her how much I loved her and and she always give me just enough hope to think that there was a chance which caused me to act the way I did. Messed up!!

    Anyway I hear what you're saying mate and I'm going to smash the gym and become a better person. Unfortunately I'll never accidentally bump into her again as we live in different cities.

    I've bought a well advertised girlfriend recovery system, which I'll not name specifically for obvious reasons, which uses texts as a method of re-initiating contact and getting back with your ex. I know it's a long shot and quite literally the last roll of the dice as it might just be a con to get desperate people to part with their hard earned cash. However, quite simply, matters couldn't get any worse so I'm thinking about giving it a go.

    Any experience or thoughts towards this supposed texting to get her back system?
    Last edited by alwal; 04-27-2014 at 12:32 AM. Reason: spelling


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