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    Default Going To Prom Alone? Should I Even Go?!

    Hey all, So I have been sarging for the last year, I thank god for this stuff. I stumbled into a problem, I have been doing to much in day and night game that I forgot how it works in school, now Im consfused by all the advice all of the AFCs in my school atlre telling.. I learnd this PUA material just to get laid. and loose my virginity,now Im working in on to settle a bit for 1 or 2 years, and improve my social circle.

    So the main problem is, I might be overthinking this too much but I dont know how to get a prom date I dont talk to many girls in my school because I sarge out of the city, and I dont have much of a social circle. So any advice, should I ask a random girl to go with me? Im a good looking cat l, but suffer cofidence.

    I was just thinking I should go alone and sarge some girls that didnt take take, I migjt be meeting my friend and his girlfriend.

    I researched the forum already people.are suggesting to draw a big poster and ask someone like that, but isnt that AFC?

    Others suggested I should Open, Dhv, then say "lets go to prom together"

    I just want to know what some of you guys would do?
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    Default Re: Going To Prom Alone? Should I Even Go?!

    Others suggested I should Open, dhv, then say "lets go to prom together

    I like that approach the best. I have approach anxiety so it's easier said than done but it's simple and effective.

    You might want to buffer with a phone number first, and chances are if she's not going with someone and you get the number you'd be a top contender. It might just be too uncomfortable to make that decision so suddenly.

    I never went to prom though, but good luck.
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    Default Re: Going To Prom Alone? Should I Even Go?!

    Well when is your prom? Its gotta be fairly soon considering the time of year so you definitely want to get on asking ssomeone soon. I think you are over thinking it. If I were you I would at least go alone. I didn't go to my senior prom because the girl I was crazy about turned me down when i asked, so I just went to the parties and got hammered instead which was fun but not the same. Always regretted not at least going alone and chilling with friends having a good time. There are plenty of girls that go without dates and go just with their girlfriends so you should have plenty of opportunities to approach. Even the girls there with dates are potentially available, not all of them will be there with a boyfriend. And then there's the after parties too.

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    Default Re: Going To Prom Alone? Should I Even Go?!

    look, I went to 2 different proms (junior prom and senior prom) I'm going to share my stories from both of them.

    junior prom:

    I had this girl I had been talking to for a while in one of my classes, she was cute (and rich) and I really liked her. so of course I wasn't pua, but I teased her a little bit every now and then. it was getting close to crunch time as prom was only 2 weeks away and she still didn't have a date. so one day after class I stopped her talked to her for a few minutes, and then asked her: "hey, I know you don't have a prom date, would you like to go with me?"
    to witch she replied "we should go as friends"

    of course I was ok with that at the time, at least I had someone to go with.

    we did prom court and of course, we got picked as prom king and queen... so they gave me this ridiculous hat that made me look like a total pimp lol

    after that we rode in a limo with all her friends to a rich people restaurant (that had really sh!tty food lol ) and then off to the actual dance.

    on our way in, my girl wouldn't even let me escort her.. then when it was our turn to get pictures, she wasn't very happy to do that either, she just started complaining about stuff. so when she told me she doesn't dance, I went off and danced with her friends.

    she was the most boring date I had every had. she pretty much sat at the table with her best friend and didn't enjoy herself very much.

    i still managed to have fun and having the "crown" (ridiculous hat) caused lots of girls to want to dance with me and borrow my hat. so i grinded on girls for the first time, and still had a blast dancing until it was time to go home.

    on the limo ride home i felt disappointed at the very least. i had been hoping that somehow the girl i was with would like me, and that i would lose my v-card to her. but of course that didn't happen.

    fast forward a year to my senior prom.:

    my friend kayla didn't have a date (she was one of the friends in the limo on the previous prom) so of course she asked me if i would go with her (she liked me, but i wasn't very interested)

    so i got a tux with a sparkly red vest (that would match her red dress)
    however, she canceled on me 2 days before prom.

    i told myself, "it doesn't matter if i don't have a date, I'm still going to get out there and have a good time"

    so i downed lots of caffeine before i went, i was extremely hyper that night (witch put my energy level above everyone elses)

    i talked to every girl there, i gamed balls to the walls. i was not going to leave there lonely. i danced and pulled girls to the dance floor. i was on fire that night.

    one of the girls (tamara) in particular seemed to notice, and had her friends get me to come outside onto the deck during one of the slow songs. so i came out and slow danced with tamara.

    we looked each other in the eyes, and i held eye contact. she leaned in and kissed me and proceeded to make out with me.

    i asked her if she wanted to come out to my car, but she said her mom was there as a chaperone. so i got her number and then left after talking to some of my friends and getting invited to a small gathering afterwards.

    of course the gathering was the one of the smallest partys i have ever been to. (just three guys counting me) we played beer pong, and my friend got his cat drunk lol

    btw, 2 weeks later i lost my virginity to tamara.


    it doesn't really matter if you go with someone, or if you go solo. i had better success being solo.

    don't go with the goal of getting laid, go with the goal of having the best night of your life. bring fun to the party whether you have a date or go single.

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    Default Re: Going To Prom Alone? Should I Even Go?!

    Thanks for the replies guys, now I got a good insight.

    Prom i this saturday, I askes a chick in my class and she said she wasnt going becuase no one asked her, so I said l"lets go together heres how the convo went

    I sar her walking in the halls we made eye contact

    Me " How we doin"
    Her: Good just running an erron for a teacher
    Me: "Ill walk you, In heading over here too, so tell me I bet you dont have a prom date"
    Her: No, nobody asked me.
    Me: Lets go together, get a nice dress,ill pick you up, we eat, dance vroom vroom!!"
    Her: I already made plans for saturday, you shoulda ask me earlier so I can get ready and look pretty
    Me: Dont worry, you look good with me, we can show each other off. Cancel what you got on saturday and well head over saturday night.
    Her: I dony know, ill think about it
    Me: Im going regardless, so your free to join me.
    Her: Maybe, I will think about it.

    At this point im not sure if she wants to go,frankly I dont care she ok looking anyways. but Im at the point to where I am thinking about going myself, or asking random girls.

    Before I had the goal to get laid, I guess the new goal is to get numbers then do the nasty.

    Wow I cant believe im struggling here. How should I go about acting during prom?

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    Default Re: Going To Prom Alone? Should I Even Go?!

    Did you just tell a girl "I bet you don't have a prom date?"

    Gratz for making the approach, but it wasn't seduction at all and there was nothing you said that would make a girl attracted to you.

    If you are going to hit up random girls make sure you apply what you learned about seduction/PUA and definitely don't say "I bet you don't have a prom date" (that can come off as insulting).

    If you aren't successful in getting a date, then what Meteora said about going stag works too. But you are going to have be a dominant man who takes charge and changes the environment rather than being a product of it. That transformation is not going to come overnight. You should definitely look like you are having fun and come off as a fun person to be around.

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    Default Re: Going To Prom Alone? Should I Even Go?!

    God dangit the idea of going alone seems irrational but ohwell, thanks for all the help
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    Default Re: Going To Prom Alone? Should I Even Go?!

    How should I go about acting during prom?
    act sociable. no ones going to be attracted to the creep in the corner of the room.

    talk to as many people as you can, have some fun on the dance floor, and most importantly enjoy the experience.

    Before I had the goal to get laid, I guess the new goal is to get numbers then do the nasty
    ugh... you sound desperate for sex. why are you so concerned about "doing the nasty" ? this is why I hate giving virgins advice, you guys are always so focused on getting laid that you forget that you need to treat woman like people not sex objects....

    forget about having sex. focus on having a good time and being sociable. eventually the sex will come.

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    Default Re: Going To Prom Alone? Should I Even Go?!

    What Meteora said is right.

    Don't push for sex. Push for sexuality by making yourself desirable so the girl will want sex.
    When you do things right, that is when the sex will come.

    Until then, you sound like something out of an high school comedy where guys are trying to get laid because they are desperate. When you have this desperation and need, you will undermine yourself. Girls will sense it because your behaviors will inform your actions. It's not a happy ending.

    Rather than coming on the forum for quick fixes to short term problems, my question to you is what are you doing to transform yourself starting from your innergame and confidence? What kind of investments have you made for self-improvement? Did you even make an attempt to read the resources I pointed out to you? I'm only seeing negativity such as "it's irrational" which doesn't prove to me someone who is serious about learning the art and self-improving. You need to fix things at the source or else you are not ready for dating.

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    Default Re: Going To Prom Alone? Should I Even Go?!

    Quote Originally Posted by I.M.Mortal View Post
    What Meteora said is right.

    Don't push for sex. Push for sexuality by making yourself desirable so the girl will want sex.
    When you do things right, that is when the sex will come.

    Until then, you sound like something out of an high school comedy where guys are trying to get laid because they are desperate. When you have this desperation and need, you will undermine yourself. Girls will sense it because your behaviors will inform your actions. It's not a happy ending.

    Rather than coming on the forum for quick fixes to short term problems, my question to you is what are you doing to transform yourself starting from your innergame and confidence? What kind of investments have you made for self-improvement? Did you even make an attempt to read the resources I pointed out to you? I'm only seeing negativity such as "it's irrational" which doesn't prove to me someone who is serious about learning the art and self-improving. You need to fix things at the source or else you are not ready for dating.
    I see what you and Meteora are saying , guess I have a bigger inner game issue than I thought.
    I dont have that much confidence, I dont even dress good anymore, going to school dressing nice seems like if your trying to much or atleast thats how Im interpreting it.

    Honestly man Im a AFC, All im doing right now, I barley go out, Its rare that I number close and get a date, even if I get a date i would loose interest and not talk to her. Im trying to learn man I really am, otherwise I woudlnt be here, sometimes I just feel off and ask myself why would that girl even want me? other days ill feel good.

    Ive alo read some books, I have some of the material down, but its just going out and applying the material is a problem for me.

    I appreciate you guys opening my eyes to see the real problem here, I now know what I have to do.
    Last edited by Jose Cardenas; 05-01-2014 at 07:01 PM. Reason: //


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