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Thread: Rejected Kiss Close, what now?

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    Default Rejected Kiss Close, what now?

    Hi guys, inexperienced newbie/AFC here. So i have been going out with this HB8 a couple of times now. Lots of kino and good interaction but i knew I had to do the k close to escalate. So on our 4th date we went to this nice lookout spot on a hill and chilled there. A little insight is that we would always rate the places we go so she gave that a 9 which is the highest up to that point so I knew she was having a good time. As usual we started by first sitting on the bench talking, I then moved slightly away and commanded her to come closer. What followed next rather unexpectedly she started to lay on my chest. So lots more kino there I had my arm across her chest and holding her hands and thighs etc.

    I didn't kiss her there and then because of my awkward position. Before we left I actually held her hand while walking to the car. I then went for the k-close which she rejected by saying no not yet.

    I played it cool and continued with conversations to assure her that I didn't let the failed k-close bother me too much.

    Ended the night by saying I had a great time which she said really, despite the fact that you didn't kiss me?

    No idea if this is going down the bf-gf route. Your thoughts guys? And also what should I do to escalate?

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    Default Re: Rejected Kiss Close, what now?

    I'm fairly new in this PUA world, so take my feedback very lightly..

    1) Seduce her with your eyes - maintain eye contact

    This is so important when going for a k-close. What it comes down to is: start undressing her in your mind while you're looking her in the eyes. She will notice the difference.

    2) Prepare her for the kiss - Qualify her

    Something I've added recently to my game is qualification. Basicly, tell her why she is different than your previous dates.
    ME: "Look, what I really like about you is that you are not as the previous girls I've dated. You have this fun vibe around you. And I really like that."
    SHE: (will start behaving (more) FUN)
    ME: (a bit later in the conversation)
    ME:"Remember what I said earlier? That you have such a fun vibe? I just noticed it's more than just fun, it's even flirty at times. That's what seperates you from the others!"

    .... now if you do it right, she should start loosen up & flirt more.

    3) Kino kino kino

    Use everything you can to kino her... you already mentioned you're holding hands with her & she was laying on your chest. Well man, it looks like you should escalate even more...

    4) kiss closing at the car

    I don't know how the situation worked out, but I would go for something like this:

    1) depending on the mood you were in (I'll assume you had a fun day.. so I'll continue on this)... grab her hand and do something funny. Something as small as a little twist and get her closer to you.
    2) Once she's closer, look really deep into her eyes (make this a little staring contest)
    3) If it lasts longer than 3-5 seconds, act like you're going for the kiss-close, then 3 situations can happen:
    A) she turns her head / mentions she's not ready yet... at that time you just continue your move and whisper something in her ear ("I really loved spending time with you." ... I wouldn't escalate too much here, because she's not comfortable enough yet)
    B) she does not turn her head... she's obviously not afraid that you'll kiss her. Either you kiss her, or you whisper first and kiss her afterwards. Both should work.
    C) she's kissing you back before you even can go for the whisper. GG.

    My two cents, hope it helps!

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    Default Re: Rejected Kiss Close, what now?

    What Lametext wrote was actually really good! I second the eye contact thing. Make intense eye contact with her when you can. Like stare deep into her soul. If you do this correctly you can get a girl REALLY turned on.

    First of all you should have went for the k-close much sooner than you did (like first date, second at the latest). However based on what you wrote it sounds like this girl is into you. You handled the rejection well but I personally would have went for it again.

    In the future, if you feel like it's a good time to k-close and shes in an awkward position just put your hand under her chin and move her head so you can kiss her. This is really easy and comfortable.

    Next time your with her go for it again. If she rejects you give her eye contact and a big smile. Don't ever take a rejection seriously if she's all lovey dovey and giving you the green light. Also when your "cuddling" with her like that don't just hold her thigh. Rub her arms, thighs, head, basically anywhere you can touch her. In non sexual places at first then slowly more sexual places. If she's getting turned on she won't reject the k-close. On a final note, when she said "even when you didn't kiss me?" That was a sh1t test to see how you would react. When she says stuff like that in the future don't react to it. Stay confident!

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    Default Re: Rejected Kiss Close, what now?

    Lol, sounds like a high school movie.

    I would've followed up with... "What do you mean I never got to kiss you?" and planted one right on her lips.

    Credits roll, lights turn on, theater empties. Perfect ending haha.

    Sounds like you should take a soft approach with this one. It looks like she is vulnerable and doesn't want you to take advantage of her and dump her. This doesn't mean don't try to kiss/fuck, but acting like you don't want it that bad is a key idea here, which is what you seem to be doing just fine.
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    Default Re: Rejected Kiss Close, what now?

    Thanks very much for taking your time to reply to this thread guys.

    Just another question though. Should I be popping the 'would you be my girlfriend question' anytime soon?

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    Default Re: Rejected Kiss Close, what now?

    No. Wayyy too soon. You haven't even kissed her yet, let alone slept with her. I don't go that route until I've been seeing a girl for a minimum of 6 weeks. I have friends that have only hung out with the girl for a couple weeks and they were together, but they had slept together already.

    I personally don't like to take that fast of an approach. You will screw things up more often than not if you ask her too early. It's best to wait. If you guys are having a good time you can see her for months on end before you ask her. There's really no risk in waiting but there is a risk if you ask her too soon.

    You'll know when she's ready. Most girls will start hinting at it or straight up call you their boyfriend. She will start inviting you over to meet her parents etc.


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