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    Default Trying to start a relationship

    Sup all, first post here. Quick intro, I'm 41, living in a Central American tourist town. Women here do not care about age as much girls from the States, so I am constantly going out / dating girls around 24-28 years old. I'm relatively good looking, confident, energetic, and stable. Very comfortable with the game...

    Anyways, hooked up with a HB9 about 9 months ago, and we have been in contact, but really just once or twice every 3 months or so, but I think she is comfortable enough with our relationship now that we may have something a bit more special.

    I started with Direct day-game, which is a bit too direct and aggressive for women down here, but my day-game approach with this girl (similar to Sasha's), drove her crazy and she freaking loved it.

    Alpha Male FTW!

    We haven't had sex, just a bit of kissing, cuddling and great kino, slept together a couple of times, but never made the move or anything. I think I successfully calibrated her interest level, and never crossed the line, which would have instantly drove her away. I think she respected me more since I'm not thinking of sex and sex only. So at this point, she knows I'm not going to jump the gun.

    Anyways, I'm looking to get something a bit more serious with her, I think she is definitely interested now. She knows that I am not needy, since I have not been chasing her over the last 9 months at all. She always makes the call and sets up the date.


    LAST DATE:

    Our last date was Sunday, and it was great. We went Salsa dancing, and she mentioned that she noticed me looking at her dancing with another guy, and asked if I was jealous. And I said, "Of course not, you are not my girl, I just love watching you dance, and I like watching him dance as well, because he was a good Salsa dancer and I am jealous of him, but only because I cannot dance as good as him."

    She loved that I was not jealous nor needy. It was at this point that I crossed the hook-point, and I could tell her frame of mind instantly changed, because she could tell that I was being honest and still very confident.

    We finished the night with her saying repeatedly 'You need to call me!' No kiss-close, as her friend / bodyguard was with her.


    GAME-PLAN:

    What's this all mean? To me, it means... no, I don't need to call her... At least not more than once. I'm thinking Thursday, which is 4 days after our last date.

    I am planing on setting up a date, but not for this weekend (I'm super busy, I have plans, yadda yadda...) but for the following weekend.

    My plan on the next phone conversation is to let my interest known. "You really did something to me, and I really appreciate our time together.... yadda yadda..." Not needy at all, but just to get it out.

    We usually go out for drinks & party all night, but I want to change that around and get her into my frame. She lives about an hour from me, so what I would like to do is keep it quiet and get her even more comfortable while building more attraction, cook her dinner, maybe watch a movie, play around, and maybe then go out for a drink or two.

    Just looking for thoughts, advice, or any lines (not BS ones) that will show I'm not pushy or needy, but will create sensual tension, and keep my Alpha status.

    Peace,

    Mingo

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    Default Re: Trying to start a relationship

    You've already been very direct with her so stay that way. You don't need any lines, just be honest with her. It would be much better if you waited to tell her that stuff in person on the date. That way you can be looking straight into her eyes and the effect is much greater.

    I think your plan to cook her dinner is great. You need to break the normal "date" you two have been going on and do something more intimate.

    I did this with a woman awhile ago and it was awesome! I told her straight up about the traits I liked about her. Her aura, energy, and particular traits of her personality I really enjoyed. I also commented on her beauty multiple times but then made sure she knew I liked her because of her other traits and that her beauty was just a plus (which was 100% true).

    One other note. I think it's time for you to sleep with her. It's cool that you haven't and you don't seem to care, but thinking that she doesn't might not be true. Remember that women like sex just as much as men and it sounds like you've built PLENTY of comfort with her. You need to AT LEAST try. If you don't she's going to start to wonder "why" you're not sleeping with her.

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    Default Re: Trying to start a relationship

    Thanks for the reply DiB, very sound advice. I agree, saying this face-to-face will have a much greater impact than on the phone, where it would sound rehearsed, and less authentic.

    And yes, f-closing is the obvious goal now.

    ps: In other regards to your reply, I also did the "You are beautiful but there are 100 other beautiful women here, let me know 3 traits about you that are attractive." Without thinking, I just opened another thread and immediately switched topics. She then came back afterwards to list her 3 traits (only 2 actually), which was her qualifying herself.

    Cheers!


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