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    BetrayedInTheOctagon is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Red face Got the dreaded no-response... Where do I go from here?

    Let me just say, I have no experience with PUA techniques, and I don't want to utilize the more manipulative ones (not judging, but that ain't me). I'm in college, and there's this girl I've been talking to for about a week. I'm on a student programming board with her, and we've been to a super casual lunch and movie (not very significant, since both were related to the committee we're on). Conversation was smooth and flirty. She's an incredibly nice girl and I want to take her on a date before she heads back home for the summer and hopefully keep up a correspondence with her.

    Anyway today I was working with her but one of my other friends unexpectedly joined us and messed up what little game I do have, and I didn't get her number in person. Here is the subsequent facebook conversation:

    Me: Yo, thanks for helping out today! I feel bad about you coming all the way out there when you had studying to be doing, but at least now I know about the existence of the James Franco shirtless selfies, so it wasn't a total waste of time.

    Her: No worries. It was my pleasure, teaching the masses about James Franco's Instagram antics is my favorite pastime

    Ps since you're super into hip Indie music you should listen to my last radio show at 6 on bside!

    We're doing an hour long tribute to this little known artist, beyoncé? Should be rad.

    Me: A whole HOUR of Beyonce? Count me in. Also what's your number? We should hang out sometime before you head home for the summer


    Already there's a red flag. Wouldn't she have said more than that if she was at all interested? Whatever, moving on. Texted her a bit during her radio show (like three or four texts). She texts back so quickly, and I take like 10 minutes between each response because I can never think of something witty or interesting to say over text.
    Last I told her something along the lines of "That was a big dose of Beyonce for a first timer, but a welcome distraction from studying for finals. Not like I'm actually studying though"
    Aaaand no response.
    Finals are this week and I want to set up a date with her (she goes home sometime towards the end of the week).

    Where do I go from here? I'm not going to see her again. All I have is her number, and frankly she didn't seem interested. I meet a decent amount of girls but not one of them has made me want to pursue them as much as this one has. Any help recovering from my game blunder would be greatly appreciated.

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    Default Re: Got the dreaded no-response... Where do I go from here?

    Dude relax, She's probably busy studying.
    You said finals are this week.

    Don't be too affected by it. Next time you see her ask her out. Just keep it light and playful, you'll be fine.

    Or text her something along the lines of:
    "Hey Beyonce, tomorrow 6:09pm, Central Park, wear something cute " (Inspired by T-Mal )

    Be persistent, if she says " i have to meet a friend bla bla"
    "Cancel it. I'm more fun. Just a hint: There's going to be ice cream "

    Just have fun man. Don't be scared to say stuff.

    Goodluck brotha! I hope get the girl. May the force be with your game.

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    Default Re: Got the dreaded no-response... Where do I go from here?

    ^^ i agree with CapPickup. I wouldn't worry so much for finals--but DO plan to have some kind of get together with her on the last day of finals. a party would be cool--it sets things up nicely.

    lol she's from michigan? btw, prolly shouldn't have put her number on the thread.

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    Default Re: Got the dreaded no-response... Where do I go from here?

    Umm you go nowhere that's where. You are already overthinking it and your overthinking will only cause you to pursue harder which in effect will drive her farther and farther away. Never have a goal when meeting a new women. A friend maybe set a goal but not a girl fresh out of the yard.

    She is already guessing you will pursue overmuch. My attitude with any new girl is just letting go. Hard to pinpoint but I will be on here developing it this Summer as I go. But what I mean is just not caring. I may text once a week, once a month, etc. looking to spread it out more and will contact them shortly after meeting with high value meet up stuff. I will just let them go if they want to. Just indifference. I know no responses is the order of the day but I am going to focus on breaking rapport and playing hot & cold. Screw over pursuing anymore I want an abundance mindset. So maybe blow up her phone one day and then go cold for a week, that type of stuff. But not everyday man I am sick of getting ignored everyday and texting every single day is so needy. So just letting go. You have to play every girl differently and not get too hung up on them by meeting other women. They should be asking you for dates, that's the goal! Plus how many times after date 1 guy texts her like crazy she goes "yeah sorry it's not you it's me". Don't be the only one. Get girls to ask you that should be the right formula cuz if they asked you out there is no rejection. Seems impossible but girls get asked out so frequently maybe they are getting bored of it? I mean still ask if you want but remember if you do it right and get a rotation of numbers you should be so slam packed they would have to ask.
    If you want her then ask but she will likely flake so just go focus on other broads and she should come around in time. Girls want a guy who is wanted.

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    That's my order of the day to utilize. Let 's say you meet a new girl most guy's intention is to take on a traditional date. But I am going to start asking broads to join me for the strangest of things. Like getting my tatts, going to the Water Park, Yoga, Volleyball, Holidays, etc. You get the idea but dates need to be spiced up once in a while so just going to spice it up from now on and include chicks in my life and not just go on interview dates but actual hanging out. You feel me? Big deal but I have a feeling this is going to be very interesting to test the results from this idea. I will be deploying it this year on top of traditional dates of course.
    When you let go of your feelings you can really then embrace your surroundings
    Love is a game that's why I don't worry about it anymore. When you let go of your feelings you find your meaning.
    -Capn_Jack


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