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    CapPickup is offline PUA Forums Respected Contributor
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    Default What to do if girl takes everything I say seriously??

    So I was texting this girl I met online. And she just can't seem to pick-up my awesome sense of humor. haha. I take this as a challenge, but I need your help guys. She's just soooo "adorable".

    This is our conversation:
    Me: ooh interesting wait. you didn't throw a guy off a window did you? (:

    Her: No but close. bla bla bla. I threw off my friend's ex's phone and destroyed it bla bla.

    Me: You sound like trouble I should get my phone away from you as far as possible (:

    Her:Okay. doesn't matter. Not like my intentions are bad.

    I mean WTF? This girl is just sooooo...."Adorable" haha I don't know what to do with this. HELP ME!!

    I like to keep it light/fun but she seems so fragile I might break her soul.

    Thank you! May the force be with your game

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    Default Re: What to do if girl takes everything I say seriously??

    The trouble with texting is that she can't pick up your non-verbal cues and you can't pick up hers. She could be peeing herself laughing but hates saying "lol".

    Or maybe she's at a funeral or just had a fight with a friend. Or she's at work and isn't really paying attention to you. You simply can't know for sure. Just one more reason that you should use texting primarily to get to the first date and minimize other chatter.

    Not that there is anything wrong with what you sent her, it's cute and fun.

    I would personally do a freeze out. Forget about her for a day or 2, and try again later. If you can get her responding positively then push for the date.

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    Default Re: What to do if girl takes everything I say seriously??

    Haha, I know exactly what you mean.

    Did you set a date and/or met her in person yet? The reason why I ask is it's really hard to tell why she texts like that. She could just be "square" and I know girls who text like that. It's hard to judge someone behind a screen.

    My advice to you is this...

    I don't know where this text end or if it is still ongoing, but as long as she is responsive, you are fine. If she is responsive, DON'T FREEZEOUT. Only do that if you are losing value and her investment in your texts drops (slow response times, few words, on the fence about meeting you with excuses).

    If you haven't done so, mix it up between attraction and comfort texting. Although what you texted her was fine to spark her emotions, too much texting like that will not be congruent to how a normal person talk. I learned the hard way. It's fine to bring it down and mirror her with comfort. Find something in her profile and try to build a connection on something you have in common. Switch back and forth. Whatever you do, stay authentic to yourself. In case, it doesn't get past a texting phase, you can say "oh well, we weren't compatible" rather than "crap, if only if I did or say [X]"

    You can also qualify her at the same time and establish comfort by asking her questions like.
    "You sound like such a good girl. So tell me, what is the most dangerous thing you ever done?"

    Don't get caught up in long text conversations. Close and handle logistics to meet, especially when you are dealing with serious humorless responses like these. I would want to lift that veil as soon as possible.

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    Default Re: What to do if girl takes everything I say seriously??

    psychoactive ~ or maybe she has absolutely no sense of humor

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    Default Re: What to do if girl takes everything I say seriously??

    You should be increasing attraction and not having a comfort based convo.not that its bad but then yh..Peace

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    Default Re: What to do if girl takes everything I say seriously??

    psychoactive ~ she used "lmao" and "lol" before so I'm pretty sure she really didn't get this one. btw thanks. I actually did a freezeout unintentionally because I was a bit busy.

    I.M.Mortal ~ No i haven't .I just met this girl online a couple of days ago and she seem so open to talk about stuff. How do I actually do Attraction? I personally do it in a fun/flirty way but then again she might take it seriously. hahah

    drgnsfire12 ~ I think she does have sense of humor. But just not in the same level as mine haha. I'm starting to think this girl probably has a slightly different culture.

    HardRock ~ Could you explain the difference between the two? I kind of always mix them up so I don't know exactly which is which or if I'm doing it right..

    THANKS GUYS!

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    Default Re: What to do if girl takes everything I say seriously??

    Cap, you did do attraction right during it in a fun/flirty way. Your attraction text game was sufficient. If she responded with "lol" and "lmao" in the past, then you are fine. You manage to spark her emotion and get her attention. It's probably just one of those off days. It doesn't mean she likes you any less so don't let it bother you. You ain't seen the worst of it yet.

    I gave some examples of my text game here in a recent post
    http://www.puaforums.com/ask-expert/...tml#post120053

    Comfort is getting to know her as a person. I gave you an example on how to do that and qualify her at the same time.

    And yes, you do both. In fact, you won't be in the wrong going back and forth between the two. When Hardrock said comfort, he was talking about the "comfort phase" according to the Mystery Method.

    If you are not sure what the difference is between the two, start doing some reading on your own. That's the fundamental basics of PUA. Basically, attraction making her desire you. Comfort is getting to know her as a person. One is about you (narcissistic) and the other is about her (co-dependence). Too much attraction and you will come off as a player. Too much comfort you ended up in the friendzone. The trick is finding the balance.

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    Default Re: What to do if girl takes everything I say seriously??

    HardRock ~ Could you explain the difference between the two? I kind of always mix them up so I don't know exactly which is which or if I'm doing it right..
    Focus on creating attraction more.read guide on creating attraction on here.
    Personally i barely build comfort hardcore.Instead i discuss things going on with me.sometimes there are so many shots like girl giggling,asking so many question comfort comes after..that said have a clear goal in mind charge your content.

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    Default Re: What to do if girl takes everything I say seriously??

    CapPickup ~ Yeah, I totally get that, I've dated girls from other countries and sometimes with shit I thought was hilarious I had to explain the joke because it didn't translate culturally ..... and YES, work on building attraction .... lots of guides on these forums to do that


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