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    Default Whats is in her head and do I have a shot?

    Thank for everyone providing advice.

    Long story short, I've been seeing a girl for a while in the past and got intimate with other girls at the same time as she was no my gf. She then asked me to be her bf so that it does not happen again, and we were a happy couple for months until her trust issues for me surfaced, claiming I should have been loyal to her all along. She was very angry about the past, to this day I am not sure it can ever be fixed..although I am 100% loyal to her as a gf. We had the best chemistry.

    She got to a point where she blocked my number and did not want to talk to me anymore. I really though I would never talk to her again.

    Today: My number is unlocked, we talk but very lightly, she barely responds to my texts, she says she needs space. However, she AGREED to see me next week before she leave on a family trip. She does not want me to crash at her place however. We live in different cities, so she said she doesnt mind me staying for 2 days (the only time we both have available) but Id need to book a hotel.. which makes me think she really does intend to remain physically and emotionally platonic, and I fear this could make us more distant and be the last time I see her.

    That just sounds counter-intuitive to me, and I'm not sure if I am going to waste my time. She wants to move on as she says it is never going to work given she cannot trust me but she agrees to see me for a day or two. I know this girl well enough however to know that if I don't go see her she will end up moving on..I think.

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    Default Re: Whats is in her head and do I have a shot?

    Trust issues are a SOB.

    It isn't going to be easy but you are only truly out of it when you give up.

    The other side to this is you technically did nothing wrong provided the minimal info is accurate and there isn't something left out.

    Damned if you do damned if you don't I'd just chock this one up to a learning experience. You can't win them all.
    Learn to be a better person not a better player.

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    Default Re: Whats is in her head and do I have a shot?

    I've been in the same boat with a girl with trust issues.

    You can only lose when you give up. Whether or not you want to give up is your choice. I tend to never give up since I'm a stubborn MF, but there have been times where I've been at the brink of giving up. Just to find out that 3 weeks later, I'm hooking up with her.

    She agreed to see you before she left, that means something. Go from there with it, and build comfort.

    I don't know everything that happened so there is only so much we can give you for advice man.

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    Default Re: Whats is in her head and do I have a shot?

    Thanks both for advice. I'm jw if I really have a shot because she makes such a huge deal about how it's going to be platonic, how I can't crash at her place and that we have no future aside of friendship. I'm wondering if she is then just doing that because I sounded miserable when she broke up. She gets mad everytime I mention my feelings for her as she is trying to get over me.

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    Default Re: Whats is in her head and do I have a shot?

    Also what does SOB mean I'm not sure?

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    Default Re: Whats is in her head and do I have a shot?

    I am seeing the girl tmrw. Two things can happen. It could be platonic and potentially the last time I see her or the chemistry could surface again. In the latter case I'm wondering if I should escalate or if this will backfire..

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    Default Re: Whats is in her head and do I have a shot?

    For those interested about the meeting. She really remained platonic, it was awkward, until at night (and the next morning), we got very intimate, she regretted, said I'm her weakness, that this isn't right, and we are now done for good. Moving on.


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