I am having a second date tomorrow with this girl and everyone around me is telling me I have to kiss her. I am not sure about my feelings yet, but I sure find her cute and fun. I just don't like this pressure to kiss her on the second date. I kinda feel it's too soon (it's also my style to take it slow, but I never had good results to be honest).
I met this girl at a meetup, but we didn't have the chance to discuss a lot back then. From the little exchange we had, I could see we somehow clicked. She contacted me 2 days later to invite me to her own birthday party, so I took it as a sign. I could not attend however as I was abroad.
I have some artist friends who make promotional concerts every once in a while and they were organizing one yesterday. The timing was perfect, so I invited her. She liked it and I also believe that the fact that I have artist friends in my social circle was a dhv to her eyes.
We then switched venues, went to some coffee place and started chatting, chatting and chatting. At some point, we realized that 2 hours had passed! I told her I had to get back to prepare for a bday party (it was a lie, but who cares), so we broke it off.
I did a mistake though: it was raining on the way back and she made a gesture to share her umbrella, but I didn't see it and took out the umbrella from my pocket instead, and she said "oh". Raaahhhh, I need to be more perceptive next time...
So, for this first date, I really wanted to learn more about her and was not so much focused on flirting. I threw out one or two compliments and kept Kino at a minimum. I wanted to try the cube test on her but the timing was inappropriate and it did not fit the discussion. I guess I will keep it for next time
I followed the advice of this tread (The simple art of Conversation) and it seemed to work. Well, PUA helps me at least on the social skills aspect
We agreed to meet again and the date is set for tomorrow. We will meet for after-work drinks in some cosy bar. I am trying to prepare a bit mentally as I never think about my dates in advance and end up screwing them. I don't have any DHV stories to tell, so this is a good start. I will also try something I haven't been doing before, I will talk about more personal things, show my vulnerable side. I will follow the advice of this thread:
My question is whether I absolutely have to kiss her. I really don't how things will evolve and I don't feel ready yet. I am also not a very touchy-feely person and my kino sucks. I still haven't figured out how I can touch a girl being a creep/making her feel awkward (despite having read tons of material about micro-escalation and such).
I really want to relax and enjoy the moment. I usually am fun to be around, but all girls get bored of me at the 2nd and 3rd date because I do not flirt with them. I then end up in the friend-zone...
Does anyone have any advice please?