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Thread: Girl I'm dating acts single when we go out

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    Default Girl I'm dating acts single when we go out

    So were casually dating. Been going out for 7-8 months. We're not exclusive. We talk about other dates/people we hook up with. The thing that irritates me more than anything is when we go out, especially when alcohols involved, she acts like she's single. She flirts with other guys, sometimes puts her arms around them/grasp hands. One time she even kissed another guy, just a light peck.

    I have no problem with this when I'm not with her - she can fuck or make out with anyone she wants because I'm doing the same thing. But when I'm with her I feel like I'm her date for the night. It's just disrespectful. I don't blame the guys because this girl is gorgeous and she's clearly flirting with them. It's all her. I just don't know what to do or how to react when this happens and I'm literally standing right there.

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    Default Re: Girl I'm dating acts single when we go out

    Either start flirting with other girls in front of her

    Or tell her you don't like it when you're out with her

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    Default Re: Girl I'm dating acts single when we go out

    Some girls are just like that. I wouln't be suprised if she's the type of girl that acts this way EVEN when she's in a commited relationship. I'm seeing a girl right now who is exactly the same way. I knew this before seeing her so I already know she's not GF material. I personally don't care or let it bother me, becuase I know I'm the one that's going to bring her home. Hey if she want's to go home with someone else that's her priority. She can do what she wants.

    If it REALLY bothers you I wouldn't bring it up to her. What you should do is be really flirty with women when you're at the bars with her. Hold other girls hands and even make out with them in front of her. If it comes down to it bring another girl home in front of her. As David X says "If she's hunting you should hunt". See if this bothers her. If it does she will get super jelous and bring it up then you can discuss her actions as well. It sounds really mean but it's the smart thing to do. That's what I've done with the girl I'm seeing that's the same way. I go flirt with the hottest girl I see at the bar and within a minute, there she is, hugging me and "reclaiming" her "turf".

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    Default Re: Girl I'm dating acts single when we go out

    Best thing to do is to tell you don't appreciate her doing that. I would however ask her what she would think if you did the same thing with other girls in front of her. She might be doing it as a S*** test. You never know. Being that you are both seeing other people I wouldn't make too big of an issue about it.

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    Default Re: Girl I'm dating acts single when we go out

    We're not exclusive.
    this simple phrase makes since of this post.

    if you're not exclusive you should just start flirting with other girls when she starts talking to other guys like she's single.

    a lot of guys can't handle casual dating. if you aren't banging just as many other people as she is, it can definitely hurt your ego.

    I casually dated a girl like that, and I didn't even last a week before I called her out the fact that she was acting slutty. bad move. she simply told me that I was mad that she was sleeping with another guy instead of me (she had agreed to meet up, but hooked up with someone else instead witch caused my emotions to get the best of me)

    the best thing you can do with a girl like this, is go sleep around with tons of other girls and ignore her. hurt her ego instead of allowing her to hurt yours.

    I just don't know what to do or how to react when this happens and I'm literally standing right there.
    the best thing you can do if a girl starts flirting with other guys and ignoring you, is just leave. odds are she's trying to bait you into amogging all the guys and pushing for a closed relationship.

    you can't allow your emotions to get the best of you. keep a cool head and go pull a different girl. if she tries to t-block the girl your flirting with, that's when you know she really just wants to be exclusive with you.

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    Default Re: Girl I'm dating acts single when we go out

    This seems plain painful and emotionally unhealthy. Do you have to go out? Can't you keep the FWB to the confines of meeting up at your/her place?

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    Default Re: Girl I'm dating acts single when we go out

    Quote Originally Posted by meteora View Post
    this simple phrase makes since of this post.

    if you're not exclusive you should just start flirting with other girls when she starts talking to other guys like she's single.

    a lot of guys can't handle casual dating. if you aren't banging just as many other people as she is, it can definitely hurt your ego.

    I casually dated a girl like that, and I didn't even last a week before I called her out the fact that she was acting slutty. bad move. she simply told me that I was mad that she was sleeping with another guy instead of me (she had agreed to meet up, but hooked up with someone else instead witch caused my emotions to get the best of me)

    the best thing you can do with a girl like this, is go sleep around with tons of other girls and ignore her. hurt her ego instead of allowing her to hurt yours.



    the best thing you can do if a girl starts flirting with other guys and ignoring you, is just leave. odds are she's trying to bait you into amogging all the guys and pushing for a closed relationship.

    you can't allow your emotions to get the best of you. keep a cool head and go pull a different girl. if she tries to t-block the girl your flirting with, that's when you know she really just wants to be exclusive with you.
    I recently had the same experience with a girl, she would even sit there and chat with her boyfriend while we were together. Finally I told her that when we are together, that is my time with her.

    There is NOTHING wrong about not liking it, and if I met up with a girl (as in we agreed to go out and meet up) and she went home with someone else, I wouldn't see her again. There is nothing wrong with admitting to myself that I'm not okay with that. IF she is out with me, she is out with me, I don't want her flirting around.

    The thing is, with my philosophy I have to be willing (and I am) to walk away at any moment and stick to my guns. When I say I'm done, I'm done.
    KISS - Keep it Stupid Simple

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    Default Re: Girl I'm dating acts single when we go out

    Appreciate everyone's advice. Looks like the general consensus is to start flirting with other girls in front of her. I called her out only the one time when she kissed the other guy and she apologized and I could tell she seriously meant it. I don't think she's consciously doing it. She's just a girl who loves getting attention when she's out. I don't think she'd ever go home with a guy when I'm with her that night. At the end of the day I think I'm always gonna be the one who's getting it in.

    My game isn't 100% tight just yet. Most of my hook ups/GF's/FWB or anything else started through mutual friends or work or school. Not at bars or clubs. I always felt there's too much competition and I'm not good enough at picking up chicks just yet to go to a bar when she's with me and talk to other girls. I think if I tried talking to and flirting with/dancing with other chicks at the bar most likely I'd get rejected and she'd see that and it'd be a major DLV. Not saying I'm afraid to try or open a set, just feel like I'd be setting myself up for failure. Whatdoyathink?

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    Default Re: Girl I'm dating acts single when we go out

    First of all, wow you're in an open relationship? Props to that.

    I personally think that just opening sets would be the best to go. But yeah I get your point it could be DLV and if you have that pressure on you, that when you fark up a set It'll affect your image with your date. You could come off as AFC and just fark up even more.

    Okay.. This is a hard one bro!

    Here's what I would do:
    I'll open someone/ a set,

    "Hey I need your opinion on something, So I'm here with my girlfriend. Well we're actually in an open relationship. But what I just don't understand is why she goes around acting like she wants to get picked up when we're actually here on a date.. What do you think?"

    Goodluck brotha! May the force be with your game.

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    Default Re: Girl I'm dating acts single when we go out

    Honestly to lazy to read all your feedback so if im repeating something then ignore this

    She's doing it to try and make you jealous. Either don't tolerate it from her or don't care. But what ever you do you have to go all the way. If you don't care, go 100 percent non give a fuck. Or if you don't tolerate it, set strict boundaries and walk out on her if she does it or at least let her know if she does it she risks losing you.
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