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Thread: To double or not?

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    Default To double or not?

    I asked this girl who's pretty shy/reserved (but has her moments when she feels comfortable enough to flirt)

    We went on a group date a while ago, and I just scheduled another one. I was thinking of ways to make her comfortable/make it less awkward and I was thinking whether a double date with a pretty close friend/his new girlfriend would work.

    I'm pretty new to PUA

    Additionally, any other tips for winning over shy/reserved/slightly awkward girls?

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    Default Re: To double or not?

    If she is shy, you need to show the initiative, its very important, push the boundary a little and then bring it back a notch so you catch her off guard, but let her know you won't keep pushing if she tells you to stop, be it a hug, a kiss or sex.

    Now, as far as the date or it being awkward, NEVER acknowledge that she is awkward, it will put emphasis on that and you DO NOT want that. I would try to go out on a date with just the two of you. The KEY and SECRET to getting rid of awkwardness is to be comfortable. You don't have to be comfortable, but you need to act the part. I'm always nervous when I go out, but I maintain an image of being comfortable and it never fails, at the very least they will tell me how comfortable I make them feel.

    Remember, it is natural for her to mirror your emotions if there is a connection, so if you are comfortable, she will be comfortable by default.
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    Default Re: To double or not?

    Thank you for the very insightful post! I will be sure to push the boundaries: hand holding, hugs, maybe a kiss. Any tips on when/how with more reserved girls?

    Also I will be the first to admit I have a habit of getting nervous with girls unless I have instant chemistry with them. However, I've found that liquid courage transforms me into a completely more social, easygoing and social person. Any thoughts on this? Should I get a little tipsy before our date?

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    Default Re: To double or not?

    you need to know, remember and condition yourself to think and believe that women mimic your emotional aurora. she won't know its awkward until you put it out there. she won't know somethings funny until you've made it funny. she won't know if something is exciting unless you're showing excitement. so hold that smile until she sees it and can't deny that it's awkward in her head and smile back because you're smiling. most people don't run away from smiling so you'll be able to help her out of her shell by just being a fun positive guy who displays his emotions around her--which in turn you'll start to see those colors come out of her.

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    Default Re: To double or not?

    Absolutely do not get tipsy, I limit myself to 2-3 drinks on a date, that is my cut-off. I will get smashed and fall asleep lol.

    I don't know how you city folks date, but around here it is a lot simpler. We don't have a lot to do, so we spend some time together, get to know each other a little and I make sure to escalate mentally a physically the entire time.

    I find fast escalation leads to quick sex, but I have been slowing my escalation lately at the expense of getting laid less. Sure I get laid less, but the women I spend my limited time with tend to have a more genuine connection with me.
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