Have you ever been in this situation where the girl takes the initiative and invites to event/concerts/parties?
I have had it once in the past and I screwed up bad. I have now met a girl that is the same. We met at a party and one day later she writes me to invite me to her own bday party. I couldn't go, so I politely declined.
The next 2 times, I initiated the date, but yesterday she wrote again to invite me to some exhibition. I had other plans again, so I declined.
1) My issue is how I am supposed to react in these type of situations. If I accept, I might look too eager and needy. If I don't accept, she might feel humiliated for being turned down.
In principle, I try to accept 1 out of 3 invitations (sounds like a compromise to me) and I take the lead for the other dates, as a means to compensate/reward her for the missed opportunity.
What do you guys think?
2) Also, I think I kind screwed up with the second girl as well. I told her I had to meet some friends and left it at that. In the middle of the afternoon, she wrote me to tell me the exhibition was fun.
I thought of "rewarding" her for thinking about me, so I texted back.We then exchanged another 4-5 sms, and she then asked if she could join us at the park.
We were not at the park anymore and I had a date coming up, so I simply told her we were leaving and that I was going to a dinner.
I doubt she bought it and she didn't reply.
I don't really care about the girl in question but I am trying to analyse my mistake. I guess I should have not answered her in the first place. I also gave out too much information.
I suspect I acted too needy by replying her. Do you guys agree?
Thanks for any feedback.