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    Default Need help keeping attraction up for 7 weeks

    So I met this girl. She's a 9. She's gorgeous, and we have a great connection. We've hung out every day this past week, and she's been throwing me tons of IOI's, like texting me out of the blue, buying me shit, bringing me coffee at work, and telling me straight up that she likes me and wants to be my girlfriend.

    However, I just broke up with my girlfriend and she knows it. She has a big moral compass and wants to respect my ex, who is friends with her friends. So we talked about it and we're not going to makeout or have sex for 6 weeks. Six weeks because I just got out of a really long relationship, so she wants me to have a clear head. Also 6 weeks because she's only in the country for 3 more weeks, then she's gone to Vietnam for 3 weeks. So in 6 weeks, she's hinting she wants me to ask her out, and then making out and sex are on the plate.

    So I have 3 weeks to keep the attraction up without stepping into the physical realm of makeout and sex. Then I have 3 weeks of long distance, through texting and facebook messaging, to keep it alive.

    Any suggestions or advice would be really helpful. I don't want to get stuck in the friend zone, or the fire to die because we're not taking the relationship to the next level for 6 weeks (making out and sex).

    My ideas are to keep hanging out, but hang out with other girls to play the jealousy tool. I want to keep keno up, so there's still sexual tension. But if there's anything specific I can do, that would be great to know! Thanks guys

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    Default Re: Need help keeping attraction up for 7 weeks

    I can kind of understand her position on not wanting to have sex, but no makeout seems very strange. I would really try to negotiate this back into the equation. Makeouts are a great way to maintain physical passion, and I don't see why she's opposed to it considering that its not extremely committal.

    Honestly, it seems like she was the one that pushed this whole idea, and you just went along with it. But I could be wrong. How do you actually feel about this?

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    Default Re: Need help keeping attraction up for 7 weeks

    i'm confused... don't know if i read what you wrote accurately... she already left? or is about to leave?

    if she hasn't left yet--kiss her already... that'll get her thinking about you. when she's gone she'll wonder why you guys didn't f close. i'd even suggest you push it all the way up to dropping those panties and then say "i'm gonna stop right here.. i want you to come back so we can finish this"

    if she has left, just remind her why you're a great guy in her life maybe every couple of days or once a week. treat it like you guys are already dating in terms of connecting without the neediness. keep your tone solid. she's obviously attracted to you if you're saying that she's trying to respect your ex in my opinion.

    don't over complicate things. be clear about your signals you're sending.
    Every moment counts, get out of your head and enjoy it.

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    Default Re: Need help keeping attraction up for 7 weeks

    Quit worrying about what OTHER people think. This is YOUR life... NOT your ex girlfriend's.

    Your ex has control over you, if you think you have to wait to move on.

    Waiting 6 weeks to please someone else who doesn't matter?
    You need to work on YOU.


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    Default Re: Need help keeping attraction up for 7 weeks

    lol so i re-read this and it made more sense... i agree with carter211 and still think my suggestion makes sense.
    Every moment counts, get out of your head and enjoy it.

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    Default Re: Need help keeping attraction up for 7 weeks

    Yeah, I know she wants to be more physical, so I'm sure her decision to hold off on making out and sex is just her anti-slut defense kicking in. But I went along with it because I didn't want to appear too eager, or give her power over me by letting her know that I want to get naked lol But we've talked more and we're getting more physical. And the advice from you all helped, so thanks guys!! It's so great to have such a cool community of bros willing to impart their tips and tricks

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    Default Re: Need help keeping attraction up for 7 weeks

    i think you should have still pursued kissing / making out because its what you wanted. if anything you keep trying but acknowledge she's not ready to push it any further. when she pushes you back or pulls your hand away from her body you can just say "Too forward? Ok.." and then jump onto a different topic and later escalate again to test her comfort levels. women respect that you know what you want and your ego won't be bruised if they shut you down the first time with a Sh!tTest. obviously never overreact and always remain confident that you will eventually close--but it'll be at her pace but remember you're leading...
    Every moment counts, get out of your head and enjoy it.


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