To destroy or not to destroy?
first of all, i'm pretty excited about my results tonight. i've just been thrown into the most exciting mix i ever thought possible. to give you a hint, i'm strongly considering running boyfriend destroyer tactics.
so the story...
last night I was invited to a club which I eventually went to tonight. the girl i'm gaming is a single mother some where around the age of 25. I met her around easter along with a guy whom she's shes mentioned she's been with but has made it clear through the cube routine that it's not serious... in her words "I'm sorta seeing someone". I've talked to another girl about it and in their opinoin--its not serious. now to bring you up to speed what happened tonight I joined her friends at the club where her room mate was performing. the girl I was gaming was receptive there--but once we bounced venues / bars she seemed to obviously avoid me. Everytime I approached her she walked away. I played it cool and befriended her so called lover and from what I found out he seems more invested in her than she is into him. In my head I found this pretty funny because they're both in two different head spaces when I look at the facts. the last venue we went to was more of a club--the girl I was gaming clearly avoided any kind of contact with me--I had better luck talking to her friends / room mates. I eventually busted out dance game and got about 4 girls to dance with me being a fun personality in the room using my hat as a playful tool for girls to interact with me. her lover dude eventually pulled me outside of the club telling me he was bouncing--I went along to make to discover the secrets whispering between everyone. I considered going back to kiss close the girl I was gaming but I thought I might have a small chance at number closing a girl I had been dancing earlier that night. So I played the long game and sided with her guy. We sat outside at a food truck for 15 minutes and texted her "Hey what's up? Lol you avoiding me tonight, barely even talked to you tonight.. I guess no big deal adam is dropping me off" ..that was pretty much the end of the night, even though he said he was going to get with her later that night. it didn't phase me that they might hook up--what bothered me was that she was my main connection for the invite tonight and completely ignored me. I had fun but I was pretty sure she was avoiding me, so I called her out on it. I guess I should also mention that he publicly displayed some sexual advances on her which she didn't react to at all (I saw him grab her a$$ 3 times), I'm strongly considering bringing it up--not sure if I should be on the side of approval or disapproval.
From here I'm sure she's going to think it's no big deal. I don't think it's a big deal BUT I think the game I played tonight gives me extra room to question why she ignored me most of the night. I believe I can turn this around and run boyfriend destroyer (even though they might not be serious) and f close her. I really don't care if she and I are friends in the end because the way things have been for the last month its not been friendly or responsive as I've been open and honest to her with her own priorities. I'm supposed to meet her in 2 days--I plan to turn up the tension up to 11 and close. Personally I think I've been the biggest emotional spike in her life outside of her relationship with her son in the last month that i've known her.
What are your thoughts--am I being too selfish and stuck in a tunnel vision? Am i not being open enough here? Am i being too harsh? If it helps she tends to apologize for neglecting someone--she's flaked on me for roughly 2 almost 3 weeks now and has apologized about 3 times. I've been pretty understanding of it considering she's got a kid to worry about as a main priority. But--because I had to make the first move in seeing her tonight and she's practically avoided me. I'm willing to burn this bridge without zero hesitation.
Every moment counts, get out of your head and enjoy it.