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Thread: Alright, I need help. How do I execute this?

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    Default Alright, I need help. How do I execute this?

    So again, I am in need of your help regarding one of the weakest link in my game "TEXTING".

    Here's how it went :

    Me: The blue nails and pink dresses don't give off that tony hawk vibe though. (:

    Her: I know, no one believe i skate lmao
    i cn go from girly girl to tomboy in point 2 seconds

    Me: One momemnt we're kissing in the pouring rain then bam! Tomboy mode clicks in and you force me to do something else I'm not yet ready to do... I'm scared :O
    (This usually almost always works in person)

    Her: lol omg yu go to far xp

    Me: No, you go too far. I'm just reading your mind (: lol
    (I pushed it, hahah)

    Her: definitly not.

    Should I pull back? But basically I never really said anything in a really sexual tone. She just 'assumed'. So basically how do I say/word this in text without sounding tooo, ya know. Again I don't have the benefit of the "eye contact" so help me out guys.

    Orrrr i could just say "Careful, tomboy side is showing" what do you think?

    Texting sucks, I can't read no body language! haha
    Btw i only text so I won't get rusty because I'm super busy with work and school that I don't have time to game in person

    Thanks guys! May the force be with your game.

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    Default Re: Alright, I need help. How do I execute this?

    if you know your texting sucks... just make sure you double check it by giving her emotional spikes instead of going into defensive mode. if she ever goes into defensive mode--acknowledge it by saying it--and then pull back and start from scratch--move onto a different subject and this time move a little slower until she gives you the next green light. but remember to always aim for meeting in person.
    Every moment counts, get out of your head and enjoy it.

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    Default Re: Alright, I need help. How do I execute this?

    I think she may have thrown up a slight ASD in that last message. I'm not sure if you may have escalated too quickly or not but you may have caught her completely off guard.

    Her: lol omg yu go to far xp

    You: Haha you were the one kissing me in the rain!! and YOU were the one that wanted to push me down the hill on your skateboard (The skateboard part gives you the option of using this as what you "weren't ready to do". Then you can tease her about having a dirty mind for thinking you meant sex)

    or

    You: We were just kissing.. it's not my fault it was raining and super romantic or that I'm such a good kisser... ok, you got me, that last part is totally my fault

    or

    You: Too far!? No one said you were getting any tongue with that kiss!! I'm not that easy you know

    That's along the lines of what I would have replied. I'm not up on the whole psychology side of why that would work better (if at all) but texting is just something I really don't think too much about and I am pretty much flirting in 95% of the texts I send lol

    I would now say, and this is working off the ASD theory:
    Her: definitly not.

    You: Haha it's ok your secret's safe with me ... I won't tell that many people lol

    or

    You: Oh so you grab me and start kissing me then push me down the hill into oncoming traffic on your skateboard and its ME going too far!? I don't know who your boyfriend is but he's not spanking you enough lol (again, it gives you the escape of the skateboard if she's not totally comfortable with you escalating)

    Hope that gives you some ideas. Try not to overthink it too much and just have fun. Like you said, you don't have eye contact or body language with texting so don't be scared to use haha's, lol's and smileys.

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    Default Re: Alright, I need help. How do I execute this?

    I love the one about not getting tongue with the kiss. Thats genius.

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    Default Re: Alright, I need help. How do I execute this?

    Thanks guys!

    Kvn07 - haha those messages were gold! I'm definitely adding the "not getting any tounge" in my arsenal.

    I went with : "Oh so you grab me and start kissing me then push me down the hill into oncoming traffic on your skateboard and its ME going too far!? I don't know who your boyfriend is but he's not spanking you enough lol"

    To which she replied : "I wudnt waste a perfectly good board to get run over"

    Haha she sounds 'unfriendly'. I totally triggered her ASD! lol

    Sudden realization: Everytime I post here asking what to say next. It means I've invested too much on a girl that I care too much what her reaction will be to my actions/message. I'm looking for validation which is the exact opposite of my style : 'If I think it's awesome, I say it'. whoa hahah

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    Default Re: Alright, I need help. How do I execute this?

    her reply sounds like a Sh!tTest.
    Every moment counts, get out of your head and enjoy it.

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    Default Re: Alright, I need help. How do I execute this?

    Haha cheers guys!! One of my favourite things to do is misread and accuse her of thinking she is getting more than I'm going to give up lol and it's worked wonders for me.

    To which she replied : "I wudnt waste a perfectly good board to get run over"

    Hahaha whoa!! You definitely triggered something!! I think there are a couple of ways to respond to this:

    You: Haha well you'd better get that tomboy speed change under control before you try kissing me "Bruce Banner" until then remind me not to stand at the tops of any hills with you lol

    or

    You: Haha good!! I wouldn't want to waste a perfectly good pair of underwear getting run over.. They're my favourite pair too!! You know, the ones with the rip in the left butt cheek lol
    Maybe we'll hang out somewhere else before I let you start hitting on me lol (and no hills!!)

    The first may be getting a bit much with the whole kissing thing and I don't know if it may come across as a little desperate (maybe someone else can chime in here?). In saying that though, if her response is just a sh1t test then holding your frame may work in your favour.
    The second one is just an over exaggeration and helps steer the conversation in another direction if you have actually made her uncomfortable

    Or what about:

    You: Na you'll be fine!! I'm way too skilled to get run over
    .. There is a really good chance that I would run off with your favourite board at the bottom though haha but you'd totally deserve it!!

    Haha I dunno man I just randomly come up with this stuff I wouldn't use these word for word unless they are consistent with how you are in person.

    Quote Originally Posted by CapPickup View Post
    Sudden realization: Everytime I post here asking what to say next. It means I've invested too much on a girl that I care too much what her reaction will be to my actions/message. I'm looking for validation which is the exact opposite of my style : 'If I think it's awesome, I say it'. whoa hahah
    I wouldn't go as far as saying "invested too much". the whole idea of the forums is to ask questions and get passed the next stage of your game. Like you said, you're texting is a weak link so try not to use these examples as a one time fix but look at how you can turn most responses into a fun conversation. I wish I understood enough about the psychology of it all to break them down and explain how she is reading them but at this stage all I can tell you is how I would respond.

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    Default Re: Alright, I need help. How do I execute this?

    The purpose of posting here isn't just to get lines to use in one particular circumstance, like here. Get so many examples of these, and you'll begin to understand the concept behind them. Once you understand the concept, you can create your own individual lines based off of it. So no, you're not investing too much by posting these. You're simply making a step towards improving your game.

    Now, the *actual* problem with asking for specific responses on this site is that it takes several hours to get a response. By the time you reply, its been several hours, and you lose the heat of the moment in the text exchange. But, it still gives you references to apply to future conversations.

    @Knv07

    Here's why your texts work (since you're not sure): They portray confidence (attractive), they're silly (make her smile/have fun), and they frame the interaction as if you are the prize and she's the one chasing you, rather than vice-versa. That always gets a reaction out of girls because its in contrast to the usual perception (guy chasing the girl).

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    Default Re: Alright, I need help. How do I execute this?

    Thanks Carter21

    It's really not something I think about too much. Which unfortunately doesn't really help anyone here that struggles with texting. So thanks for helping break it down mate


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