Re: Trying to break out of the friend zone. Did I miss any hints?
yeah read the guide--and the rest of the thread before you read any more advice on your thread---which i'm about to leave some... you've been warned.
----so my advice
if you're willing to break it off i think your best be is to start showing some comfortable signs of kino. more than likely she's single right? so you don't have to run Boyfriend Destroyer tactics which is great. treat her like you would any girl that you're turning into a girlfriend the next time you hang out. escalate slowly applying light kino (this is touching arms, hands and her shoulder--this does not mean holding on to it) first working your way up to mild kino (touching small of her back, hip thrusts--things that would you would a guy with his girlfriend out in public kind of thing. this does not mean kissing). as you slowly escalate read her reactions--if she's giving you IOIs as you're planting your escalation you're getting good signs that she's accepting the kino and you have not hit a red light yet. keep escalating at a decent pace you're comfortable with in displaying your physical acknowledgement that she's a woman and you're a man. aside from all the kino it's important that you let her talk when you guys are talking--give yourself a few seconds to respond to anything. the reason for this is that you're slowly generating tension and this my friend is powerful. i actually did this yesterday while i was out in the field. by saying less you're actually putting her in a frame where she's starting to fill the void and trying to qualify her thoughts to you. this allows you time to lead the conversation to where you want it--and if you want you can start to think more about how you want to escalate or flirt with her verbally. again same rules of thumb apply--start light. let her set the tone as you're leading. her body language and IOIs will tell you how things are going. now--back to tension... its important to keep your eyes locked at her and have a look on your face that you know she wants you and you're just teasing her. this look should not be over done, just a slight subtle facial gesture and maybe tilt your head a bit so you come across as relaxed. the reason why your body language and your tension generating silence is important is because you're letting her feel your intention. see how she responds to it, if shes smiling a lot and and a little nervous with body language it means you've got the right kind of IOIs leading up to a kiss more than likely. if she makes a big deal about how you're acting and cracking jokes she's trying to Sh!tTest you or she really doesn't want anything to do with you. BUT if shes into now--nows the time to lock in that kiss by saying something like "would you like to kiss me?" or "I know what you're thinking" and move in for the kiss at the speed of a painful push up--if she really doesn't want it she'll back off and cause a scene of some sort. if she does want it cool.
now if everything fails and she does make some kind of scene realistically you need to treat it like you saw a look on her face that said she's wanted to be kissed. this works to your advantage to some degree where she'll second guess herself for a moment. this will allow you to think of how you want to end this situation with her. do you want to still be friends? or do you want to put it all on the table as an ultimatum? personally if it hurts to not be with her and you know she's special to you and you don't want to regret it later in life i'd suggest you tell her how you feel without being needy. some where in your explanation of the ultimatum you have to say "We can't be friends. It's too painful to me to keep living a lie." in some way or another. you have to be clear that you're drawing a line.
if you're not ready to end your friendship then you might as well be an orbiter who maybe one day when she's slightly thicker and worn she'll look at you and finally accept you. that might be a year--that might be 20 years... its up to you my friend.
Every moment counts, get out of your head and enjoy it.