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Thread: My date want to bring her friend on 1st date- Advice Needed!

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    Default My date want to bring her friend on 1st date- Advice Needed!

    So, recently I keep seeing the same pattern from girls who are meeting from dating websites. When we suggest to hangout, a girl will say something like "I'm going out with my friend Friday night , why you don't join us?"

    I'm afraid that the friend will get jealous from my date and start talking shit about me + I won't be able to bring my date over to my place in this case . I don't have a good wingman to bring with me. What do you guys suggest me to do? I understand that a girl try to be safe by bringing a friend with her, but we are meeting in public anyway.

    Advice please?

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    Default Re: My date want to bring her friend on 1st date- Advice Needed!

    You could bring a friend with you or arrive there early and make friends with a bunch of people. (Social proof) That would lower both their defenses.

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    Just go in there and see what kind of girl her friend is. If she's the ugly friend, you should build comfort with her first, otherwise just do your thing but don't leave her out of the conversation.

    Just open them like you would a normal set.

    Personally, Regardless of her friend's looks. I would DHV. then build comfort. Just slightly ignore the girl I really like. (but not too much). More than likely her friend will throw you a bunch of sh!t test, just fight through it. When they both see you're really cool, You can continue doing your thing.


    If you built enough Attraction-Comfort with them, you can invite them both in your place. Just try using a really good hook.

    Good luck dude. May the force be with your game.

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    Default Re: My date want to bring her friend on 1st date- Advice Needed!

    Build more attraction before you suggest a meet up.
    Flirt & make her have fun...

    If you do it right, the girl will make the suggestion to meet up; which means her resistance is gone & her defense shield is down.

    Also- never suggest you get together to "hang out". Most girls don't want to just hang out. Girls like plans & decisive men who aren't afraid to take the lead.
    "Hanging out" implies you have no idea what you want to do, or that you're too afraid to make a decision & call the shots.

    The key is to make her have FUN before you even meet for the first time. That means maximize the power of texting / messaging & phone calls in the beginning.

    I honestly completely stopped suggesting to meet up when I started gaming. I concentrated on making her look forward to my next text or call, and caused her to smile, laugh & genuinely have fun & enjoy interacting with me... which caused HER to start suggesting we meet up.

    That also meant she wanted to be ALONE with me... no friends tagging along.


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    Default Re: My date want to bring her friend on 1st date- Advice Needed!

    Quote Originally Posted by CapPickup View Post

    Just go in there and see what kind of girl her friend is. If she's the ugly friend, you should build comfort with her first, otherwise just do your thing but don't leave her out of the conversation.
    Thank you I will make sure not keep her out of the conversation

    Build more attraction before you suggest a meet up.
    Flirt & make her have fun...
    T-mal, I used all your advices and techniques you taught me so I definitely I give you a lot of credit for this date I literally made her laugh a lot over text...she was even the one who suggested meeting. But her suggestion was bad as she said "

    "let's hangout this saturday...I'm going out with my friend, come join us!! "


    I feel going out with two girls will make things harder and will most likely give me a lower opportunity to sleep with her that night, so it's not benefiting me to accept her offer.

    Any cool way to refuse her suggestion and tell her let's hangout just alone without being too offensive or too desperate to go out just the both of us?

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    Default Re: My date want to bring her friend on 1st date- Advice Needed!

    Don't focus on sleeping with her.
    Focus on having fun.


    This CAN be an opportunity to shine... and get her friend's approval by being totally different than the usual chump would be.

    Don't be afraid to be flirty, but don't be overtly sexual.
    Lots of teasing & bantering with them. Basically game them both.
    Even though you're not interested in her friend, make her feel welcome & part of the interaction, rather than a 3rd wheel.

    By including her & being outwardly friendly, it will express that you're a social person & can lead a group.

    Whenever I'm out with my girlfriend & her friends, I game EVERYONE... at least in a social aspect. (My girlfriend tells me that all her friends rave about me later on, after they've met me.)

    I make people feel comfortable & welcome... and they're relaxed & have a great time. Treat HER friends just like they're YOUR friends. That's the secret.

    Act like you've known them for years.

    But again, don't make sleeping with her your focus or goal. You'll be more likely to push too hard too fast & it can backfire.

    Sex will happen when the attraction, rapport & seduction phases have been hand;ed properly.


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    Default Re: My date want to bring her friend on 1st date- Advice Needed!

    Thank you T-mal your response was pure GOLD!

    I'm usually good at keeping things fun, but for some reasons I noticed this trend about me: I often never hear from a girl again after a 1st date no matter how much fun and laugh we have if I didn't sleep with her that night. I'm thinking the problem might be is that having some fun conversation make me come across as a friendly down to earth guy rather than a lover man that a girl puts him in a romantic category. Any thoughts?


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