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    Default Online help, takeaway or press for a date?

    At this point your guy's help is going to be purely for future use, but I could definitely still use it, and hopefully those guys who read this as well.

    Messaged a HB8 on POF earlier today. She's Russian so her English may not be the best but I got caught in a conundrum. Here's the convo.

    Me: Your profile makes you sound sweet, feminine, and easy going... yet your interests are so manly You definitely sound like a girl I could get a long with, just as long as you wouldn't mind staying in a night or two for a hardcore game of tic tac toe...

    Her: Haha you're going down!

    Me: Haha, is that an admission of interest or a challenge? If it's a challenge, I'm not quite sure you know what your getting yourself into...

    Her: Neither do you! I'm great!

    Me: Haha, good, your gonna have to be. But, more importantly, how are you at coffee dates?...

    Her: I'm not sure, haven't been on a coffee date in a while

    Me: Bummer, I was hoping you could give me a run for my money
    Me (15 minutes later): But I'd be willing to help you practice, if you're interested...?

    I got caught up after her "not sure, haven't been in a while" comment. In this situation would you play as I did and take away? or assume interest and push forward? I realized quickly I may have messed up and came back with the last line, but I'm not sure if I broke rapport and obviously tried to recover. I got no response.

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    Default Re: Online help, takeaway or press for a date?

    Whenever I had a girl tell me she hasn't done something in awhile, my response would be something like:
    "Awww, that's a bummer. We're gonna have to fix that. From now on you & I are totally gonna be *sushi buddies." (Or whatever the subject happened to be)

    You can start adding the "future projections" & getting compliance that way. It's kinda like a little, playful form of role playing, and it gets her to feel comfortable you & the idea of doing things with you.

    Any time you can get a girl to visualize things like that in her head, it's gonna be solid.


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    Default Re: Online help, takeaway or press for a date?

    Hmm, alright that totally makes sense. I definitely wanted to push but didn't know how to without sounding over eager... "It sounds like it's time for some practice, why don't you give me your number and we can text for some details." Though I know if there is even the slightest inclination of attraction you should always assume full attraction.

    I think any positive response on her part is a full green light... "Oh I'm so good at coffee dates!" "Much better than you, I'm sure "... Then it's on to you "Put your money where your mouth is than missy! Tomorrow 11 o'clock" No problem. Any negative response "Not so good" "I don't like coffee"... You still got some work to do. It's the neutral one that gets me, like her response "Not sure, haven't been in a while." It's up to you to bend it into a positive response.

    So it's almost like your saying that is a small demonstration of lower value on her part, but your interest is still solid enough you can look past it, and set up a day 1.


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