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    Default Im single what do i do?

    Hey guys, from my last two posts I had a gf but I broke up with her last Saturday. She also said she was going to do it but was taken by surprise when I said it she also said "she gives up" the night before because we were fighting.

    I dont want to get back with her but I think i've developed a "oneitis" for her although we haven't spoken on anything since last Saturday I want to but know it wont turn out well....

    So my question here is how do I move on and chat other girls on facebook?
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    Default Re: Im single what do i do?

    When you get drunk and feel bad what do you do? Do you want to stay in that shit mood think only how good was last night and how bad you feel now? No you don't ,you move on. To be easier for you let me share my advice.
    1) Surround by friends or activities, doing that you will feel good and not think about her.
    2) Go to a travel or to a gym-same effect.
    3) Remove her from facebook and delete her number, untag all pictures with her. This will make you feel that you have finished with this girl forever.
    4) Don't chat with other girls meet them.
    5) Be patient and strong you have to feel that you can control your feelings. This is great skill that will help you in life not only with girls.
    I have been in love for a few times and I found out that I fall in love with at least one girl from ten I like most. So believe me soon you will meet another.

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    Default Re: Im single what do i do?

    Quote Originally Posted by Ivo View Post
    4) Don't chat with other girls meet them.

    I feel like a complete afc chatting girls online and have the idea that ill just bore them I know this is bad self talk but I usually find it better talking to girls I encounter in real life. I want to be able to talk to complete strangers yet I find it hard to do...
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    Default Re: Im single what do i do?

    Quote Originally Posted by kylemc View Post
    I want to be able to talk to complete strangers yet I find it hard to do...
    What bothers you? Tell me I could help you.

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    Default Re: Im single what do i do?

    talking to strangers shouldn't be difficult. you're technically doing it right now online or when you go into a store and ask for some help on finding a book or some kind of weird ingredient. don't over think things if you want to be able to live your life. just think in the mannerisms of priorities. is it important to laugh? is it important to exercise? is it important to hang out with friends? is it important to work? is it important to have a few beers? just prioritize things and maybe add a few small goals here or there and do what you do. maybe when you're out inbetween accomplishing your goals of getting your car washed and going to the store you have a small goal of smiling at 5 women--not to hit on them but to make them smile back by smiling at them. its small but it's also a confidence booster if you can make them smile. then all you gotta do is just slowly build up on that small goal to being able to walk by women and just say hi, then next would be to walk by and compliment them on something they're wearing. its the idea of progressing onwards to bigger goals and making them slightly more complicated.

    the only reason why they sound so daunting is because you're stuck in your head worried about your results instead of just making yourself feel good. do things for yourself so you can sleep better. force yourself to change your routine so you can tolerate failure and adapt to it.
    Every moment counts, get out of your head and enjoy it.

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    Default Re: Im single what do i do?

    Quote Originally Posted by artandale View Post
    talking to strangers shouldn't be difficult. you're technically doing it right now
    I know but we're not having a normal conversation we're discussing what should I do next and I appreciate the advice you give.

    Quote Originally Posted by Ivo View Post
    What bothers you? Tell me I could help you.
    I feel like I come off boring to the person I chat to regardless of who it is whether it would be a family member or friend it doesn't feel like a normal conversation to me. I would find it difficult to make a person laugh in the first 5 minutes yet I could do it before naturally
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    Default Re: Im single what do i do?

    ???

    ... you want to have a normal conversation... thats how you get to know people..
    Every moment counts, get out of your head and enjoy it.

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    Default Re: Im single what do i do?

    Quote Originally Posted by artandale View Post
    ???

    ... you want to have a normal conversation... thats how you get to know people..

    I mean it feels awkward to me cause it isnt a normal conversation to me
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    Default Re: Im single what do i do?

    Quote Originally Posted by kylemc View Post
    I feel like I come off boring to the person I chat to regardless of who it is whether it would be a family member or friend it doesn't feel like a normal conversation to me. I would find it difficult to make a person laugh in the first 5 minutes yet I could do it before naturally
    I led a seminar for social skills last three weeks. Making good conversation and master "small" talks and the humour part are not skills that you can wake up with one beautiful morning. Talking is like a muscle, if you practice it it will grow if you don't it remain undeveloped. If you think you bore people with boring conversation topic stop use this topic anymore. Easiest way to achive good social skills is to copy them from persons around you, who already have them. Listen to what people talk, from your social circle. With time you will "soak" what is interesting and fun to talk about with unknown people.

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    Default Re: Im single what do i do?

    When you stop over thinking about conversations you're sounding normal in a conversation. What i mean by that is you can have your own thoughts, word things however you want but the most important thing in a conversation is the genuiene tone that they can pick up and vibe off of. People mirror emotions naturally, so reply with the thoughts you have but make sure its your thoughts and be proud of them. Take your time in responding to the conversations--no one cares about how fast you respond to something--they care about your opinion and tonality
    Every moment counts, get out of your head and enjoy it.


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