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Thread: How do you kick someone off the pedestal?

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    Default How do you kick someone off the pedestal?

    I'm in a lot of confusion right now. lol

    So there's this girl from my new job (I know, I know, I shouldn't poop where I eat but hear me out. haha). I've been wanting to game her for a long time (2 weeks).

    I probably DLVed myself big time.

    So every time we walk pass by each other, she would just look at me then look away and continue walking. She wouldn't even say hi. Or sometimes I'd say hi, and she'd say hi back but no smile at all.

    There was this one time though I was looking through the glass window at the break room. And I saw her looking at me as she was walking (She was One floor below me.) So i looked at her, We stared at each other for a good 5 secs. I don;t remember who broke the eye contact

    She's been there longer than I am (Obviously) So I've been asking her help lots of time. But it's like a really busy environment so we don't get to talk in a personal level.

    She was all kind and shit to everybody but she always appear to me as a cold blooded person (Not really though. She's probably just shy) haha So I realized, hey I should game this girl, I'm not gonna lose anything.

    But then the weird part:


    Earlier today, I asked for her help to go look for something. And she was suppose to write the info but she lost her pen so I offered mine. Then she laughed. (no idea. Probably laughed at herself for being dumb)

    Later that day. She was walking around being busy but I needed something from her again. So I followed her and ask her something. She said "You followed me all the way here?" and smiled.

    I replied "Ofcourse!" then smile. ("OFCOURSE"?! WHAT THE fark? Should've gone with "Nah, I was looking for _______ but yeah, you'll do. Come on")
    She laughed again. I felt like a slut, she could've F-closed me that exact moment. haha


    I've never felt my value so low before lol. Funny part is I felt good about myself that I made this girl laugh.
    But then I realized, She just GAMED the fark out of me without her even realizing it.
    She Social proof, DHV, then finally validated me.

    I want to know how do I get her off the pedestal, off my mind , and off everywhere. haha

    Is there anyway I can turn this around? It's really hard to game at work because you have to be professional and playful at the same time. how does that even work?

    Any advice, insight, correction, critic is accepted and welcomed. Have a good day gentlemen.

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    Default Re: How do you kick someone off the pedestal?

    you're over thinking things. the only pedestal shes on is the one in your head. if you don't want her to be on top of it, then take her off of it by stop praising her... treat her like a guy friend. if you wanna get her attracted to you then you need to actually need to talk to her and build rapport and break rapport as well.
    Every moment counts, get out of your head and enjoy it.

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    Default Re: How do you kick someone off the pedestal?

    You're overreacting. Thats only a minor screw up. It won't be the difference in whether she's interested, so long as the rest of you game is solid. I ran into the same problem when I started PUA. I wanted to do everything perfectly, and even small missteps like this would anger me. Over time, you'll learn to not be bothered by this sort of thing.

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    Default Re: How do you kick someone off the pedestal?

    Thanks guys!

    I realized that I have the same feelings towards a different girl from work too. So I figured it's just what I feel when I'm attracted to a woman and it's normal. It's all good, there's no pedestal after all.

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    Default Re: How do you kick someone off the pedestal?

    Nothing's changed...... fark. hahah

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    Default Re: How do you kick someone off the pedestal?

    Just be cool... Flirt when it seems right because youre bored and you're testing your pua skills. Dont be of the mind set that something will come from it. Just have fun... Besides if you date in the work place things get awkward fast so just keep joking around and be social. Apply light kino and continue to be a social butterfly--build social proof through this and eventually everything will fall into place because they cant ignore the most social, honest and flirty guy who to them makes them wonder why you havent asked them on a date yet. Lol
    Every moment counts, get out of your head and enjoy it.

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    Default Re: How do you kick someone off the pedestal?

    Copy that. Thanks Art you really brought light into my darkness. lol

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    Default Re: How do you kick someone off the pedestal?

    I feel that its hard if shes already up on a pedestal in the first place. gotta get in the habit of not putting anybody up there from the get go.


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