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Thread: Need Advice on how to pursue hb9 at internship

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    Question Need Advice on how to pursue hb9 at internship

    While I am well aware that a lot of people advocate against dating co-workers due to all the awkwardness that can arise if things don't go well, I recently began a summer internship and met an hb9 that is making me want to disregard the rule.

    She is a loud person in the office and usually likes to argue or debate any person on the smallest thing, but whenever we talk she her voice becomes very soft and she agrees with everything I say. Yesterday, I noticed that after we were done talking we would have a moment, like 3 seconds where we would look at each other and smile.

    Today I wanted to try and limit my interactions with her but do light KINO. When half the office went down for coffee I noticed she wasn't going so I went to her cube and asked her if she wanted to come down for coffee to which she said yes. Even though we went to the coffee shop she didn't get any coffee. Later in the day I went to her cube to talk about something related to work and I did some light KINO (touching her upper arm when I was laughing etc). She didn't move away nor return the KINO but we kept on having our "moment" of smiling at each other after we were done talking.

    I'm not sure if I am reading too much into this, but I feel that she does have some interest.

    The question is how do I proceed with this? Do I have to wait until we go out as a group of co-workers before I invite her to do something together? or can I just ask her to come hang out after work? (even though its only been a week since I met her)

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    Default Re: Need Advice on how to pursue hb9 at internship

    she sounds interested. you're interning--i think its fine to ask her out--but do it one more time when she goes down for coffee and doesn't get anything again. right as you guys decide to go back--stop both of yourselves from moving--give her a look that says... i think i'm reading the signs right here, correct me if i'm wrong... and say "wait you didn't get anything, you must really enjoy my company or you're trying to get into my pants"--it comes off as more of a joke but you'll be able to see her reaction. this move is pretty bold and risky but if you're not willing to ask it in a serious way this would be my recommendation because you are in the work place--but technically a coffee shop.

    if you wanted to do it a different way i'd suggest just getting her number so you guys can go do something fun that you have in mind doing. don't phrase it as date so it's less of an issue in the office. people do this all the time. and then when she shows up--just pay attention to what she's saying with her body language. if she's giving you IOI's then go in and kino a little more and maybe kiss and read her reaction from the kiss.
    Every moment counts, get out of your head and enjoy it.

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    Default Re: Need Advice on how to pursue hb9 at internship

    Thanks for the advice!

    She only comes in twice a week and leaves two hours before I do so its hard to get alone time with her except for lunch. I am waiting a bit for her number because it feels too soon to get it. (We've only worked together for 7 days so far)

    However, I think I either read her wrong or messed it up. The day after I wrote my post I talked to her at work again and we had our usual connection. She even did work in my cube all day and I took the opportunity to talk more with her and KINO. I think I messed up by doing KINO too fast. While she didn't move away when I was touching her, the next day she was distant and flirting with another guy at the internship. Likewise, the conversations we had I was doing 90% of the talking. On Friday, I basically acted like I was busy doing work and didn't have my normal conversations with her. She was also blabbing in the office about her 7 ex-boyfriends.

    Should I just move on? I don't see a way to recover or build up my attraction once again.

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    Default Re: Need Advice on how to pursue hb9 at internship

    You see her 2 times a week for a grand total of 7 times... If I can do math that means you've been seeing her for 3 and a half weeks. Your more in danger of her losing interest than asking too soon.

    A completely neutral way of asking for it if your still nervous about it is saying something along the lines of "Hey, blah blah lets hang out outside of the office", to which she agrees or disagrees, and you reply "Cool, how can I get in contact with you?"

    To which she gives out whatever information.

    This is the safest possible way I can think of right now (I have a fever lol)
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