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    Johnny Sparks is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default She walked away while dancing

    Hi, great to actually post something. I never realized how bad an AFC I was till I stumbled upon the pua community. I think I'm kind of a special case. I stumbled upon "the game" while desperately searching the internet for books on dating advice because my oneites broke my heart completely after I poured all my energy into her for a year! Anyways I was completely mesmerized by what I read, my mind was blown to bits. Neil's writing style, his sincerity and honesty amazed me. I guess I'm not in the game to see how many woman I can shag, I have no problem with guys who do, it's just a personal preference of mine. But I am interested in meeting great woman, being able to sweep them of their feet, have them hang on every word I say, truly connect with woman and of course, have some fun. Never in my life do I want to be in a onites position again where I am powerless, not in control, and doomed to be the one that gets hurt.


    Anyways back to the point, my field report: After arming myself with some theory from "the game", some stealth attraction videos by gambler and other resources I felt it necessary to go out into the field. I gathered a few friends and we headed out to a local club, where you can actually dance sokkie, an informal ballroom style of dance that obviously requires 2 people to dance. I guess I was lucky because a hot 8/10 blonde who I made eye contact with a view minutes earlier approached me, and asked if I can dance. I told her no I can't, but I'm willing to learn (which was a lie, I'm great at sokkie) So on the dancefloor she quickly realized I was a good dancer, and it was a nice fun moment, she was surprised, and I told her: Hey there's nothing wrong with a little white lie now and then, and she giggled. So far so good, I think I showed her that I was fun and unpredictable. So after the dance I thanked her and delivered her back to her friends. A few minutes later I approached her and asked her if she wants to join me on the house floor. She said yes, so I leaded her by the hand (wanted to keep the kino escalation going) to the house dance floor. We danced for about 3 songs which was a bit awkward for me at times, I'm not very comfortable shaking my body around standing in one lace by myself. During the 3 songs I tried to escalate the kino, I started by complimenting her on her waist band while running my hand over it, she gave my a polite thank you. From there I took her hand and made her turn once or twice, and after the turn I would place her hand on her hip while keeping my hand on her hand. We danced for about 3 songs, after which she excused herself to go to the bathroom, and told me she would be right back. She never showed up again, and when I left the club I saw a glimpse of her dancing with her friends on another dance floor.

    I'm not to sure if I freaked her out or bored her. I would please like some advice on what I could have done differently to keep her interested/not freak her out. Tnx you PUA legends, love you guys!
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    Default Re: She walked away while dancing

    Its coming to me as you felt uncomfortable and awkward your body language projected that and that might of made her leave you, another reason could be you took to long to pull the trigger (kiss close)

    As you isolated her from her group of friends you should have gone to a quieter place to run your game which would of been better imo.

    Overall good job on getting her isolated as some guys find it hard to even approach
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    Default Re: She walked away while dancing

    As you isolated her from her group of friends you should have gone to a quieter place to run your game which would of been better imo.
    Tnx Kylemc, I think I should have done that, build some attraction and rapport before taking her to the dance floor.

    Any top routines worth mentioning that I can run in a situation like this in the future?

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    Default Re: She walked away while dancing

    I can't think of many off the top of my head but "5 Lies" by Style its fun aswell as building comfort or "The Cube" depending on the type of girl you have they'll be amazed or will try to hide it but dont use the two of them at the same time

    But you should try using your own routines as you might get caught out....
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    Default Re: She walked away while dancing

    Hi johnny here is my point.
    My story with the PUA also began with same book "The Game" six years ago. Latter on me and a friend of mine bacame PUA teachers in my country Bulgaria. But I don't like canned material and scenario talks and altought I value Mystery method I really don't find it suitable for a long term use and real change.
    There was a time that I was really direct and I always led. At one point I realised that women get it and most of them expected from me to lead for everything. But when I didn't escalete or did nothing when she feel I had to, my leading frame disapeard quick. In your situation you show a real confident character at the beggining but later I think you stuck on her with dancing and no clue what to do.
    Your mistakes in my experience:
    When you led her back to her friends you had to stay there, meet them, talk with them and express social skills. But you left and came back latter like you had been scared before.
    Maybe 99% from the girls I know go to a club, disco or else to have fun and to be playful. I think you got too gentle and kind.
    Most of the beatiful women have this very interesting test. They open a lot and let you touch them and play with. Kino is a very delicate part. If you touch her more and more it have to escalete to a kiss or sex. But if it is not the place or the time too much kino is a big turn off. You seem too needy for her body and the result from the flirt that you are having. This shows to her that you cannot control anymore and fall down into her seducing trap beeing week and not experienced enough for her.
    My advice:
    Be more playful with girls especially in dancing places. Imagine push-pull technique in the whole flirting picture.You have to talk serious yet to joke. You have to touch yet to let go. You have to like yet to dislike and so on. Sometimes dancing can lead tо huge sexual arousal in both of you. I remember one hook up on the beach I had once. I was using only dancing for creating attraction. A let her close to me then I push her away and dance alone in front of her. I let her close to me but keep her that way to talk in her ears. We were just dancing feeling the rhythm showing my moves letting her shows hers. Then the dance began to lose the rithum, she was close to me and we kissed. Latter that night I was in her appartment.

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    Default Re: She walked away while dancing

    The way I see it,when you invited her to the house dance floor she probably thought that was an excuse for you to isolate her.

    After that,she was either :

    1)Looking for a quick hook-up,she was attracted to you,after all.

    Or

    2)Looking for at least a kiss-close/number close/alone time with you.

    But you just kept dancing,and since you said it was "a bit awkward",I'm going to assume you didn't handle that awkwardness well,which was also a DLV and further inspired her to leave.


    I think you should have isolated her first,talked to her for a few minutes,checked for kino,loud clubs are the best to see how the girls react to your kino,since you have to be really close to her to talk,so you should have grabbed her waist(like in slowmo dance) and talked in her ear,considering that she actually approached you,she wouldn't resist your kino,furthermore you could have probably f-closed her that night,I think she was actually looking to get laid,that could be one of the reasons she left,you didn't make a move,you kept dancing.

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    Default Re: She walked away while dancing

    Sounds like a simple case of missing your window of opportunity. Funny how quickly missing a window can turn a good interaction into a bad one. Try escalating quicker and gauge your results.

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    Default Re: She walked away while dancing

    Tnx for the good advice everyone, will definitely take it in consideration next time. Will post again soon!


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