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Thread: "I can't keep cheating on my bf with you"...

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    Default "I can't keep cheating on my bf with you"...

    Hey everyone, I posted a thread just over a month ago asking for advice about getting with a girl on my university course who had a boyfriend. Following some quality advice from the forum, things have been going pretty well with this girl. We've hooked up several times, and a lot of the time she's the one who initiated it. Last Friday we hooked up again but when we were on the way back to mine from the night club, she told me that she couldn't keep cheating on her boyfriend with me, that they'd seen each other for 4 and a half years (they're currently long distance) bla bla bla... She then also told me she really liked me and started kissing me again, but didn't come back to mine.

    My problem now is that I can't seem to get her to come on a "date" with me, or back to mine after a night out. The only time I really see her is when we go drinking with friends. So I can't help but feel that she has a voice in her head saying that she can't do anything 1 on 1 with me because of her boyfriend, but that goes away when she's had a drink. It's pretty clear that she wants to get with me, she's even told me so, but I can't seem to get past this resistance of hers... Any suggestions on how to overcome this?

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    Default Re: "I can't keep cheating on my bf with you"...

    A girl who cheats to be WITH you, will cheat ON you too.

    However; your best bet is to back off & start being more social with other people, guys & girls both.

    When she sees YOU having fun & that other girls are also interested in you, that may make her re-think the terms of her "long distance relationship".

    Don't chase her. Make her chase you.


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    Default Re: "I can't keep cheating on my bf with you"...

    Yeah, she has to make the decision her. Dont make her choose--let her choose. As much as she has given you attention you need to be strong in what you want and let her know what you want. If you wantto be her new BF then you need to make that more clear outside of an ultimatum. Your actions are more powerful than your words for her to make up her mind. Words get more complicated than body language in my personal opinion. So make up your mind and act accordingly to attract her lettig her know what you're lookin for.

    Reason why im saying this is because it sounds like you've put her in a position where shes just seeing you till he gets back into her life rather than you are the new guy in her life. Sure it might be her decision to cheat on him but you need to be clear with your intention if you want somethig. If you're just in it for the sex and fun times... Now would be a good time to cut your ties so she can move on and you too.

    With that said though... Emotions are too wrapped up for anyone to go home without a few fresh scars so beware...
    Every moment counts, get out of your head and enjoy it.

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    Default Re: "I can't keep cheating on my bf with you"...

    Thanks for the advice guys, appreciate it. Think I will give her time, and the opportunity to see me being more sociable with others before making my intentions more clear. It's good to have a plan!


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