Top 10 Stats
Latest Posts Loading... Loading...
Loading...
Loading...
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
Loading...
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 

Page 1 of 2 12 LastLast
Results 1 to 10 of 11
  1. #1
    fredyyy is offline PUA Forums Respected Contributor
    Points: 315, Level: 6
    Level completed: 30%, Points required for next Level: 35
    Overall activity: 8.0%
    Achievements:
    7 days registered250 Experience Points
    Join Date
    Mar 2014
    Posts
    108
    Points
    315
    Level
    6
    Thanks
    1
    Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts
    Rep Power
    20

    Default any advice on flirting and doig push pulls in date?

    So, I've been recently on couple dates, but I feel my problem is that I give a friendly vibe rather than a potential future romantic man. I'm good in making the conversation full of energy, but I feel that's not enough. I should do more:
    1) flirting
    2)push pulls
    3)making out with them (if possible) in the MIDDLE of the dates rather than trying to kiss at the end before she leaves.

    Is there anyone who could give me real examples of how to utilize each of the three points I mentioned above?

    Thanks,

  2. #2
    whitedragon is offline PUA Forums Respected Contributor
    Points: 15,299, Level: 79
    Level completed: 90%, Points required for next Level: 51
    Overall activity: 99.0%
    Achievements:
    Social10000 Experience Points31 days registered
    Join Date
    May 2012
    Posts
    1,032
    Points
    15,299
    Level
    79
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts
    Rep Power
    675

    Default Re: any advice on flirting and doig push pulls in date?

    When you first meet a girl try and get some kino going - a hug, kiss, light touching - anything you can. This will help establish the relationship is physical and also give you confidence to continue that during the date. Also try be enthusiastic when meeting someone as helps set the tone for a fun night.

    - Steer the conversation towards you being a 'potential romantic man'. There's no need to talk about football and friendly things when you could be demonstrating higher value about yourself 'I got a bonus at work this week! I bought some new jeans, what do you think? Sexy huh. Touch the velvet like material...' grab her hand and put it on your thigh and let her stroke you.
    - Try and steer the conversation towards flirting, bring up relationships and even sex if you can. You can do it playfully. You can even call her out 'Nice lipstick...I see you made an effort for me', or 'are you a good kisser?'. Talk about beautiful girls you know or have dated in positive ways. 'That reminds me of this girl I dated...she was very beautiful and smart...'
    - Get her to follow you in some ways or that you are leading the frame. Try and get her in close to you and then back away. Mix compliments with teasing. If there is a nice view or you are looking at something interesting put your arm around her and face towards what you are looking at. Continue holding her etc.
    - Touch her during meaningful or funny parts of the conversation. Hands can also be good. Hold her hand to admire her jewelry or her soft skin. After some interesting conversation about life lines, love lines or her trinkets keep holding her hand like you are already boyfriend girlfriend. Make sure you have already built rapport and comfort.
    - Be spontaneous with making out. Sometimes you have to plan things 'Hey lets check out the roof terrace bar' but other times just kiss when you feel like it or when you have just had a good conversational moment. If you are shy in directly kissing someone on the lips, come up behind them and kiss them on the neck and shoulders or even joke around kissing her playfully on the hand but then keep kissing her up to her lips. Just have 100% conviction and be yourself. You don't want to flirt too much so its obvious or forced, just be fun, confident and remember to kino and progress kino into something more solid.
    - Observe her body language.

  3. #3
    fredyyy is offline PUA Forums Respected Contributor
    Points: 315, Level: 6
    Level completed: 30%, Points required for next Level: 35
    Overall activity: 8.0%
    Achievements:
    7 days registered250 Experience Points
    Join Date
    Mar 2014
    Posts
    108
    Points
    315
    Level
    6
    Thanks
    1
    Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts
    Rep Power
    20

    Default Re: any advice on flirting and doig push pulls in date?

    Thank a lot your response is extremely helpful!! you mentioned really good points that I will try to keep in mind, but couple questions came into my mind when I was readying your repsonse...

    "After some interesting conversation about life lines, love lines or her trinkets keep holding her hand"

    Could you give me more examples of what life lines, love lines conversations look like? last time I run into this conversation with my date and I didn't really what to say:
    Me: Hey enough questions about me, I want to know about you as well...
    Her: lol sure ask me..
    Me: (i didn't know what to ask lol)

    also, let's say you were sitting somewhere with your date and now you're about to have a little walk, so what do you do/say in this case to hold her hand while you guys are walking....?

    Forgive me I know I'm asking many questions..but the answers for these questions will definitely help

  4. #4
    T-Mal's Avatar
    T-Mal is offline PUA All Star
    Points: 31,222, Level: 100
    Level completed: 0%, Points required for next Level: 0
    Overall activity: 0%
    Achievements:
    Social25000 Experience Points31 days registered
    Awards:
    Posting Award
    Join Date
    Apr 2012
    Location
    Southern Michigan USA
    Posts
    2,558
    Points
    31,222
    Level
    100
    Thanks
    3
    Thanked 9 Times in 8 Posts
    Rep Power
    1391

    Default Re: any advice on flirting and doig push pulls in date?

    Make stuff up if you're running the "life line / love line" routine.

    There's no such thing anyway. It's all bunk, so it's up to you & your imagination. Make it fun & interesting.

    Don't try to force a "conversation" at first. Just be fun. Be playful... be DIFFERENT than every other schmuck.

    The quickest way to get a girl hooked, is to tell her little stories about yourself, or about things that happened earlier in the day.

    It shows her that you're willing to let your guard down & be open & candid with her. This will put her more at ease & she'll be much more relaxed & lower her own shields.


    Need one on one private coaching? PM me for details.

  5. #5
    whitedragon is offline PUA Forums Respected Contributor
    Points: 15,299, Level: 79
    Level completed: 90%, Points required for next Level: 51
    Overall activity: 99.0%
    Achievements:
    Social10000 Experience Points31 days registered
    Join Date
    May 2012
    Posts
    1,032
    Points
    15,299
    Level
    79
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts
    Rep Power
    675

    Default Re: any advice on flirting and doig push pulls in date?

    Quote Originally Posted by fredyyy View Post
    "After some interesting conversation about life lines, love lines or her trinkets keep holding her hand"

    Could you give me more examples of what life lines, love lines conversations look like? last time I run into this conversation with my date and I didn't really what to say:
    Me: Hey enough questions about me, I want to know about you as well...
    Her: lol sure ask me..
    Me: (i didn't know what to ask lol)

    also, let's say you were sitting somewhere with your date and now you're about to have a little walk, so what do you do/say in this case to hold her hand while you guys are walking....?
    So you're at a bar, dinner, park bench, wherever...you grab her hand to check out her nails or rings or jewelry. Depending on the girl you can either admire those elements or neg them. 'Nice ring, I like the turquoise blah blah blah'...or 'really? Lemon yellow nails? Are you some kind of bohemian artist?'. You are still holding her hand. You start caressing it a little...make her feel comfortable so usually a well placed compliment works. You might flip her hand over and start looking at her lines. Just make anything up. 'Wait...your life line suddenly gets stronger around here...that must be from meeting me tonight (laugh)'. Make it playful but also wise and confident.

    In terms of asking her questions, try avoid asking general questions like 'what about you?'. Ask strategic questions like 'when was your last boyfriend?', 'What kind of guys do you like?', 'How did that movie make you feel?', 'When did you have your first kiss?', 'what did you do in the summer holidays? Any romance?', 'I can see your black bra strap showing...I hope you are wearing matching black panties' etc. Try and steer it towards subjects that can be mined for flirtation or attraction building or allow her to open up about herself. It helps to quickly gauge how open or closed she is.

    If you are taking a 'romantic stroll' during a date there are all sorts of ways to get physical. I usually don't go for the hand but straight for the kiss. Generally I have found women who like you will walk close to you in such situations...they will be bumping into your side as you walk. That is usually a good sign. The fact she is walking with you at all is a good sign. You could either be spontaneous and kiss when something remarkable happens (conversation milestone, fireworks just go off, city lights stop, you reach a nice view point etc) or you could engineer where you are going to walk so you already know at a certain spot there will be a nice private view or situation unfold. Girls like a comfortable feeling so it helps to know where you are heading. You can either just pull her towards you and kiss or you could use a trick if it helps 'oh shooting star,,,lets make a wish!....what did I wish for? This (kiss her)'. Eitherway you just have to be courageous and kiss. If she says 'no too fast', continue building comfort and try again. If she didn't like you she would not be with you. If you want to grab her hand or hold her before kissing then try swing her towards a view or subject so you are not facing each other, but instead both looking away in unison. You can drawn her in close, arm around her waist in a 'protecting' gesture and make some fascinating conversation 'The Bay is so beautiful at night...look at all those little waves reflecting the moon light like thousands of tiny diamond ships....blah blah blah' turn and kiss her.

    You can also use your phone to your advantage 'hey lets take a picture together' (hold her in close for photo and arm around waist whilst looking at photo afterwards).

  6. #6
    daffyff is offline PUA in Training
    Points: 565, Level: 11
    Level completed: 30%, Points required for next Level: 35
    Overall activity: 99.0%
    Achievements:
    500 Experience Points
    Join Date
    Jun 2014
    Location
    near San Francisco, ca
    Posts
    82
    Points
    565
    Level
    11
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts
    Rep Power
    30

    Default Re: any advice on flirting and doig push pulls in date?

    During the walk you should totally look for an opportunity to twirl her. Usually you'll walk by a bar or a place with a live band or even a car radio blasting music. Then point out the music, and if you're already holding hands go for the twirl, or put your hand out in the universal signal to dance and then twirl. Pull her in close and get your face right next to hers, lower the energy slow down the pace. Going for the kiss at this point works. Or you could smirk playfully and say something like, "I never kiss on the first date." Instead, kiss her neck just above the collarbone and continue to kiss a little higher, until you're behind her earlobe and then go for the kiss. That would be push-pull. She'll be expecting the kiss after the twirl, and you're pretty much saying "I know you want to be kissed, but maybe I won't give it to you. Instead, I'll doing something even better." God damn, I suck at getting to the physical stage, but once I'm there...

    I think it's important to mention the importance of having a strong physical frame during all of this. She is physically off-balance, but you're solidly on the ground and holding her. It's a huge turn on. Also reading her body language. If she's not ok with it...I don't know, I've never had that problem. Although once I held out my hand and she was like no thanks haha.

  7. #7
    whitedragon is offline PUA Forums Respected Contributor
    Points: 15,299, Level: 79
    Level completed: 90%, Points required for next Level: 51
    Overall activity: 99.0%
    Achievements:
    Social10000 Experience Points31 days registered
    Join Date
    May 2012
    Posts
    1,032
    Points
    15,299
    Level
    79
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts
    Rep Power
    675

    Default Re: any advice on flirting and doig push pulls in date?

    Quote Originally Posted by daffyff View Post
    Although once I held out my hand and she was like no thanks haha.
    That's why the twirl works better. She basically has to accept it. There are certain moves with someone that by basic human nature or pyschology they will have to follow.

    Generally a girl will simply not go for a romantic stroll in the first place if she doesn't like you so be confident.

  8. #8
    marvilo's Avatar
    marvilo is offline PUA Forums Respected Contributor
    Points: 6,939, Level: 54
    Level completed: 95%, Points required for next Level: 11
    Overall activity: 40.0%
    Achievements:
    Social5000 Experience Points31 days registered
    Join Date
    Apr 2013
    Posts
    877
    Points
    6,939
    Level
    54
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 4 Times in 4 Posts
    Rep Power
    325

    Default Re: any advice on flirting and doig push pulls in date?

    Also it's advices not to go for a day 2 at a restaurant and places where you only sit down because the conversation is usually going to get stale as compared to going to a amusement or places where there is a conversation starter and it's really easy to be playful and have a good time at places like that.
    You lose some you win some, learn from your mistakes and get better!

  9. #9
    fredyyy is offline PUA Forums Respected Contributor
    Points: 315, Level: 6
    Level completed: 30%, Points required for next Level: 35
    Overall activity: 8.0%
    Achievements:
    7 days registered250 Experience Points
    Join Date
    Mar 2014
    Posts
    108
    Points
    315
    Level
    6
    Thanks
    1
    Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts
    Rep Power
    20

    Default Re: any advice on flirting and doig push pulls in date?

    just read all the comments!! these were awesome advice!!!

  10. #10
    daffyff is offline PUA in Training
    Points: 565, Level: 11
    Level completed: 30%, Points required for next Level: 35
    Overall activity: 99.0%
    Achievements:
    500 Experience Points
    Join Date
    Jun 2014
    Location
    near San Francisco, ca
    Posts
    82
    Points
    565
    Level
    11
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts
    Rep Power
    30

    Default Re: any advice on flirting and doig push pulls in date?

    The life line/love line thing is palm reading or palmistry, in case you weren't aware. Looked like you didn't know what that was referring to.


Page 1 of 2 12 LastLast

Similar Threads

  1. Flirting with the hired gun, while on a date.
    By twentynine in forum Field Reports
    Replies: 2
    Last Thread: 12-29-2013, 09:25 PM
  2. Replies: 0
    Last Thread: 12-25-2013, 10:51 AM
  3. Is She flirting?? need advice , please
    By pwonager in forum Online And Text Game
    Replies: 4
    Last Thread: 08-29-2012, 01:23 AM
  4. girl was possibly flirting but already on a date with somebody
    By Aaron go bragh in forum Approaching, Running Sets & Building Attraction
    Replies: 0
    Last Thread: 06-02-2012, 12:15 PM
  5. 3 Pulls Logistics=Bad. a night as a wing
    By PAPAWOLF1 in forum Field Reports
    Replies: 0
    Last Thread: 12-28-2010, 12:20 PM

Bookmarks

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
  •  
DMCA.com