Hey forum. Kind of-AFC (been studying and applying a lot of PUA theories and itís done wonders for my inner game) here in need of some advice from PUAs. I have a female friend (Who Iíll just refer to as Jennifer from here on out) Iíve known for 11 years. Used to have Oneitis for her bad, but got over it. Still carried a serious lust torch for her, and made no secret of that, especially after I got divorced early last year. Her, my ex-wife and I are all best friends, constantly hanging out and getting along great. I would put her as an HB9, though my criteria for attractiveness is a lot different then most menís. I imagine most guys on this forum would put her at 6-8, depending on personal taste. Sheíd always made it pretty clear that she wasnít into me, citing simply knowing me too long and the potential awkwardness of my ex and I still having sex and all of us being friends and all that. Until last Friday Iíd resigned myself to simply never getting naked with Jennifer and getting sexual.
So after a really rough week for all three of us we all got together last Friday for drinks. We started playing Cards Against Humanity and turned it into a drinking game. We all soon had a decent buzz and the subject of sex came up. Jennifer started talking about how she was sick of guys who either didnít have a big dick or sucked at giving head or (mainly) were just plain selfish in bed and not willing to take a little extra time or instructions to please her.
Suddenly my ex-wife spontaneously decided to become my wingman for the night and started talking me up, about how big I was and how great and unselfish in bed I was etc etc. even jokingly suggesting she pimp me out to her for the night. Jennifer made an off-hand comment how she was ďat that pointĒ and we returned to our game.
So the night wears on, more booze is consumed, and comments keep being made here and there about the three of us doing something. We go outside and have a somewhat more serious talk where itís more or less agreed upon that if anything is going to happen, itís going to happen tonight. End of the card game comes, ex asks Jennifer what weíre doing, she stands up and says ďLetís do this.Ē
We all three go to the bedroom, lights go out, Jennifer and I start making out, I take her clothes off and play with her body for a while before laying her on the bed (right next to my ex) and go down on her. About 6 minutes later she cums (loudly). I pat myself on the back (she mentioned that it usually takes guys 25-30 minutes to make her cum from head, if theyíre even willing to stick it out that long) and then move on to giving my ex head.
Jennifer gets up and says sheís not sure if she wants to take it any further at that point. I tell her itís totally cool, weíll move at her pace and whenever she feels comfortable and ready, weíll move further. She compliments me on my tongue skills, saying I was ďREALLY good at thatĒ leaves and I resume giving my ex head.
I want to avoid this becoming a proverbial elephant in the room so I call Jennifer yesterday to get a better idea of where her headís at with all this (and to see if Friday was more thanks to booze or if I have a chance of actually hooking up with her). She says sheís cool, nothing to worry about, and sheís open to more happening, but she thinks it best if itís just me and her, and if the mood strikes us both naturally. I suggested maybe if she has a rough day at work (we work together) she could take me home for some stress relief from my tongue/fingers/dick and she seemed receptive to that idea.
My question to you all is this: based on this info, how likely is it that Jennifer is actually interested in doing more with me and wasnít just paying me lip service to something that she has no plans of continuing? What can I do to help ensure that her and I continue and eventually escalate to sex?
Other tidbits of info that may or may not impact advice: Sheís 32, Iím 35, and have only ever been with my ex. Last Friday with Jennifer is literally the first sexual experience with another woman Iíve ever had. Iím very much out of Jenniferís usual male tastes, as she only dates/messes with black guys and Iím white. Her and I are extremely close and are open about how much the other means to us.
Iíll gladly give any more info needed or requested. HUGE thanks to anyone that gives help on this one.