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  1. #11
    Grey2fox is offline PUA Forums Respected Contributor
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    Default Re: Family issues ruining relationship?

    Whenever a woman opens up her heart before a lay or even ever get serious with her, you are moving towards the friendzone. There is a thin line between her trusting you and her using you to offload her emotional luggage on you. It's like walking in a minefield, tread carefully and evade those mines or you'll be the one on the floor hurting and in pieces. I wish you luck and I hope it works out for you and get what you want.

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    Default Re: Family issues ruining relationship?

    Suggestion correct me if im wrong but if he wants his ex back doesn't he need to get social proof and show hes moved on rather than sitting around hoping she'll come back to him?

    I mean at this point I would of moved on if it was me but from reading the thread he genuinely cares for this girl and she doesn't really see that...
    "A man who stands for nothing, will fall for anything" - Malcom X

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    Default Re: Family issues ruining relationship?

    Phenix, I think Blistex is right 100%: don't even ask or hope, just move on. And something from my own experience: I was married even before you were born and took only one thing in life for granted, nothing else: my wife and kids, but omG, how wrong I was!!! You say
    Never take them for granted, until married I guess
    , you have no idea how wrong you are and, plase, never marrie because you think you will save your relationship with someone... First, why to marrie anyway?! Today, chance is big you will not stay in relationship, married or not, for more than 10 years. And what's point of getting married?! Second, if you are married, separation and divorce are usualy much more painfull and messier. Third (only my reflection, but...): never have a kids. In todays worls, specialy in developed countrys, men is seen only as wallet: have a kids, divorce and be a slave for a rest of your life...

    After my divorce, I tried hard to arrange again things and harder I tried, worst it was...When I stoped, good things started to happen. As Blistex said, don't beleive to a women, don't even bother to ask... What you will hear is a pure bs (in cleanest form possible...), just move on with your life and even if she wants to come back, don't take her. You will live a same thing all over again sooner or later. And, oh, one more thing: she made her mind long before she even told you anything, it was over long time before you even noticed anything. Be smart, move on.

    Good luck!

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    Default Re: Family issues ruining relationship?

    Quote Originally Posted by kylemc View Post
    Suggestion correct me if im wrong but if he wants his ex back doesn't he need to get social proof and show hes moved on rather than sitting around hoping she'll come back to him?

    I mean at this point I would of moved on if it was me but from reading the thread he genuinely cares for this girl and she doesn't really see that...
    social proofing to get her to feel jealous would only work if she wasn't sure about her feelings. if she knew what she wanted and wanted family or friends first--the relationship means nothing in comparison to her decision.
    Every moment counts, get out of your head and enjoy it.

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    Default Re: Family issues ruining relationship?

    Thanks everyone for great advising. Really appreciate.
    I'll try to move on and see what happen but I won't lie I'd like to have her back. And despite saying she needed a break from talking she still snapchat me and text here and there. Right now I just reply in polite and platonic way to show my indifference.

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    Default Re: Family issues ruining relationship?

    Well, she wants to keep your attention, you will need to go NC with her for a while to make her realize the void left without you. This is a high-risk/high-reward endeavor. She may realize she is ready to move on, or she may realize she wants you back.

    Being "friendly" to show indifference is not the way to go. You need to make her realize a few things.

    1. You are just fine without her. You have no problem moving on.
    2. You need to frame the situation if she asks, that you are just supporting her decision and giving her the space she wants (after a week or two of no contact) Just don't reply. Get some pictures of you on facebook going out and having fun. Maybe you have a few female friends you can take pictures with and post just to make her realize you have other options.
    3. After a couple weeks you need to start just like you are gaming her from scratch. Be fun and flirty, just as you would with any girl you are trying to attract.

    If you take her out, give her a hug, but hold off on a kiss. Start kino like you would when you are initially working a girl. Keep it smooth, and slowly escalate. Rebuild that attraction from scratch.

    Take this break to go have fun. Don't reply to every message, especially if you are hanging out with friends and having fun. Maybe every 2-3 messages she sends you give a short, cold reply, then after a couple weeks start your game.
    KISS - Keep it Stupid Simple

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    Default Re: Family issues ruining relationship?

    Thanks Blistex, great advice. I'll work on not letting emotions take over and go through with NC. Will do what you recommend and hope for the best.


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