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    Default Need a little help decoding

    Here is my question. I was at a bar last night, and I was talking with the waitress Victoria who was nice enough to buy me a drink (she has a boyfriend, Edgar, I said "Hi" and shook hands with him.) I wasn't interested in Victoria tbh. After she bought the drink and we talked, I bumped into her coworker, Liz, whom I asked about the other waitress who I had a nice time talking to a few days, and I asked Liz if all the waitresses at the bar are named for British queens (Elizabeth (I&II) and Victoria are/were both Queen Regnants), she laughed and said "No, but all the girls who work are royalty here," and she winks at me. I have yet to decode all the little BL cues, such as winking with that comment.

    I am not necessarily taking it as an IOI, just trying to get what she was implying.

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    Default Re: Need a little help decoding

    The wink and the smile (?) You can take those as a form of flirting and an IOI so I hope you said something funny and flirty back.

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    Default Re: Need a little help decoding

    ...seriously? you want this decoded? she was being friendly. your details are too brief to actually give us any direction as to what's going on. you have to be much more specific if you're looking for specifics.
    Every moment counts, get out of your head and enjoy it.

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    Default Re: Need a little help decoding

    To me that was nothing, I don't even see why she would wink, but then again I wasn't there. You saw it happen first hand. It's up to you if you wanna take it as IOI or not. It's really hard to decode these kinds of stuff without us actually being able to read the body language.

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    Default Re: Need a little help decoding

    Quote Originally Posted by artandale View Post
    ...seriously? you want this decoded? she was being friendly.
    No need to give me that attitude. Be born with Asperger's and see how well you decode non-verbal cues even after spending much of your life learning it, and finding you still haven't got it all down.

    I just told her I wanted to test the claim eyes are window into the soul, and we both look into our eyes for second. I then did a push-pull, where I draw back with a "scared/shocked" look saying I had a good look at her soul as if I had seen something evil, and got a little laugh. A few seconds later I made the "queens" comment, and I got the wink.

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    Default Re: Need a little help decoding

    Quote Originally Posted by Fire Eater View Post
    No need to give me that attitude. Be born with Asperger's and see how well you decode non-verbal cues even after spending much of your life learning it, and finding you still haven't got it all down.
    Haha, don't worry about it man, we are all here to learn, and it's hard to get a good depiction of the situation with minimal details. What did you say back to her? Did you keep talking to her? Are you going back to the bar? Help us, help you.

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    Default Re: Need a little help decoding

    Quote Originally Posted by Bballking View Post
    Haha, don't worry about it man, we are all here to learn, and it's hard to get a good depiction of the situation with minimal details. What did you say back to her? Did you keep talking to her? Are you going back to the bar? Help us, help you.
    I go to the bar a few nights a week given it is only a seven minute walk away from my house, although she wasn't working there tonight. I just visited the place again tonight, and I am already acquainted with the other waitresses there. I am currently on Day 13 of Rules of the Game, so I know I still have much to learn. I still have a bit of approach anxiety when it comes to going over and opening a conversation. One of my opinion openers is my own invention, a guy whose girlfriend came to his place, and saw he had a nice picture of one of his ex-gfs on the background of his computer. She says he should take down while he thinks she is being too controlling in telling him what background he should have on his laptop. I have other openers from Style, but I like to use them sparingly.

    I think the conversation ended with me saying "Really?" My memory is not too good after that, and she had duties to perform as one would expect.

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    Default Re: Need a little help decoding

    ...lol you see it as attitude but i see it as helping you reframe your mindset and not read too much into something that doesn't sound it like it's all that confusing.

    the only time you really should look decode something is when what she's saying is conflicting with what her body is saying. she might say she's not attracted to you but if she's in your personal space--your your head and decode that situation properly. more than likely it means she's into you and Sh!tTesting you.

    by me saying "...Seriously?" it means to not take yourself and the situation so seriously. if you can walk away just having fun the more situations like this will happen because you're no longer worrying about the game--you're naturally reacting. if you don't see it this way then i guess i have to explain much more in detail... hopefully i won't have to.
    Every moment counts, get out of your head and enjoy it.

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    Default Re: Need a little help decoding

    Quote Originally Posted by artandale View Post
    ...lol you see it as attitude but i see it as helping you reframe your mindset and not read too much into something that doesn't sound it like it's all that confusing.

    the only time you really should look decode something is when what she's saying is conflicting with what her body is saying. she might say she's not attracted to you but if she's in your personal space--your your head and decode that situation properly. more than likely it means she's into you and Sh!tTesting you.

    by me saying "...Seriously?" it means to not take yourself and the situation so seriously. if you can walk away just having fun the more situations like this will happen because you're no longer worrying about the game--you're naturally reacting. if you don't see it this way then i guess i have to explain much more in detail... hopefully i won't have to.
    I did have fun, I just wanted to get an accurate diagnosis given my disadvantage in social cues and interactions. It's going to take me some time to be able to read people better.

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    Default Re: Need a little help decoding

    You don't have a disadvantage buddy. Even the professionals trained in body language are never 100% correct because it never was or will ever be an exact science (at least for the foreseeable future). Because some people will do some things out of habit that could be intepreted differently as something else.

    With that waitress for example you could take it as an IOI considering the precursor that lead to that point as you had a good interaction and kept a fun flirty vibe around you. There's also another side to this coin, she works there and waitresses and bartenders tend to be great at pulling customers in and good at conversations. Fun flirty vibes is basically part of their job description.


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