Re: questions about the money you pay on dates....Advice is needed please!
why didn't she and her friend pay for themselves on the first date? did she really forget her card on the 2nd date? i think you need to ask yourself some serious questions here or explain it a bit more to me at least. i have suspicions that you're just being played--and if you are it's all a sh1ttest. if i'm paying for her & her friend on the first date then i'd better be getting at least a lot of kino from her or too much fun that it's going to be hard to sleep. which i have done before and have payed for those meals--because i value some of those relationships WITH FRIENDS.
Originally Posted by fredyyy
a girl that i'm gaming and not quite friends yet i've bought her drinks & a meal the first time because i ended up giving her bad directions (mostly because i'm new to the town i just moved to)--then she came over to my place and i bough some wine so we could be social. the 2nd time she came over she hadn't eaten and i was not going to buy her lunch because i told her i wasn't planning to eat lunch... so we ended up going to the market and grabbing some stuff--that she paid for. obviously i had some of it because she didn't want to feel like a fat a$$---with that said you should eat enough to not be hungry on your dates--always make the girl feel like she's eating way too much. why do this? because then she's self conscious about what she's doing, eating and not contributing to the conversation enough with you. this makes you control the frame much easier because you're focused on the conversation--unless you both are already comfortable with each other. if anything--do more drinking to the point where your walls come down and you're more focused on having a great time instead of bloating yourself with food.
getting back to the bill, i think your best bet is to say what the other guys are saying about how this is her turn for paying for the bill. it's important so now you two can establish a relationship of trust between two people who know better than to take advantage of someone. with this said--i suggest you take my advice from the previous paragraph because she's not going to be really paying for a full meal from you--if anything a light salad or dessert and booze while she's eating a meal that will make her feel like a fat a$$ and insecure. as she's more apparently insecure you now can kino, flirt with her and make her feel more comfortable so you can move in a kiss to change the mood about her insecurities to helping her acknowledge that she's cute when she's insecure and that she doesn't have to hide it.
Every moment counts, get out of your head and enjoy it.