Re: How do I deal with anxiety when talking to a HB?
i try to use my feelings as a sign of my instincts rather than how i should react upon getting feelings. i realized about a month ago that feelings don't really do anything--they just flood our bodies while it's up to our mind to configure and calibrate how we should be interpreting those signs to engague. women are already really good at this--and most that i've met are really good at hiding their feelings because they get hit on so much.
for us as men we're used to just looking at things very logical and that's why emotions are hard for us to grasp which is why the Approach is so hard. We're conditioned to thinking about the other person's feelings before our own rather than thinking what these feelings mean to us. feelings of any kind should be how we need to gauge the state of where we are and those feelings simply mean how important the situation is to us because it's either completely new to us, or it's something we've experienced thousands of times before. when you start to get super emotional in these scenarios with the approach anxiety my suggestion is to counter with a logical understanding--repeating exactly what people are seeing rather than what you think people are seeing. everyone perceives a situation different than the next person. you can make something that seems like your vulnerability to be your strength if you use it properly.
Every moment counts, get out of your head and enjoy it.